Anonymous wrote:Here’s a big take away….the ones she favored the most are the most damaged. Her hate became my superpower.
Best of luck to you. I bet you’re kind, caring and very self reliant.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a single happy memory of my mother. I’m assuming this is somewhat rare even for people abused like I was. I’m in my 40’s and have a great family myself now. If you did grow up with a horrible mother, do you still have happy memories? I just have a deep resentment and hatred towards her and nothing else.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a single happy memory of my mother. I’m assuming this is somewhat rare even for people abused like I was. I’m in my 40’s and have a great family myself now. If you did grow up with a horrible mother, do you still have happy memories? I just have a deep resentment and hatred towards her and nothing else.
Anonymous wrote:We need to cut our moms some slack for never being taught or trained how to be a good mother. Most mums try but not all succeed, sometimes they don't have right ability and other times they don't have right circumstances.
That being said, what matters most is their unwavering love and resolve to physically and emotionally their children.
Anonymous wrote:Like pp, I have happy memories of dad. With mom, I do recall her being happy and me being happy, but it was because I was a people pleaser and I had twisted myself into a pretzel to please her. I remember in college reading about unconditional love and I had no idea that existed. Even with dad everything was about bragging rights, but he at least liked me more than mom did.
Anonymous wrote:We need to cut our moms some slack for never being taught or trained how to be a good mother. Most mums try but not all succeed, sometimes they don't have right ability and other times they don't have right circumstances.
That being said, what matters most is their unwavering love and resolve to physically and emotionally their children.
Anonymous wrote:I actually have nightmares about my mother. She recently died and I feel relief, a kind of safety. I can’t even look at her picture.