I do have a FWB ... but if our situations were different I'm sure we'd be dating/exclusive. It isn't just F and go home. We talk, we spend time. No "ILYs" or romantic gestures, although of course I wouldn't mind. But even I know it is best to keep it light.

Anonymous wrote:First you broke up their family and now you want random characters coming and going in their lives? Isn't it irresponsible?

You have no evidence for that. Her husband could have walked out. He could have been cheating. He could have stolen money from her. So many options here that are not related to her breaking up the family. She also gave no indication that the person or people she sleeps with will ever be involved with her kids.

Please stop exaggerating based on your own personal issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Female, 49, great job, great kids, great friends, in great shape.... divorced and I cannot imagine ever wanting to become partnered up again. I am done, done, done. Maybe someday I will change my mind about that but right now that's how I feel. But sex is nice, and I don't want to give that up. Other than creepy apps, how does one go about finding friends with benefits? (Or even just good benefits, without the "friends" part?")

You are the dream woman for a lot of men. A woman who just want sex without an expiration date wow. That's amazing lol.

Are men really lining up to bang 50-year olds?

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Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

I have the opposite problem. I am divorced 48 been seeing a 34 years old for almost a year and now she wants something more serious. This is the second time it's happening to me. My younger self would def be down having just sex with a much older woman. But it seems that for us men we don't have have the same luck with younger women because eventually they want something more serious.

It happens every time. Most women do fall in love.

Anonymous wrote:I’m your age and a divorced empty nester and I met a widower at a sales conference. Long story made short we realized we had a mutual interest which quickly led to a FWB relationship. We get together every couple of weeks and that meets my need. He’s not LTR material nor am I but the sex is wonderful.

That often enough or does it just feed the flames?

Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

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Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

I have the opposite problem. I am divorced 48 been seeing a 34 years old for almost a year and now she wants something more serious. This is the second time it's happening to me. My younger self would def be down having just sex with a much older woman. But it seems that for us men we don't have have the same luck with younger women because eventually they want something more serious.

Of course the younger women will be like that!

What works best for long term FWB is a married high-earning woman not looking to leave her marriage for multiple reasons and just wants to explore and have fun with sex.

Of f**k no. Why would I have a flind with a married woman. I wouldn't want another man f**g my wife. See women may not care about the "other" woman and put the blame squarely on her DH. Honestly though most men will start clear of married women because the risks are higher. Men are unpredictable and it's a risk to mess around with another man's wife.

Seriously, you're wise not to mess with married women. I know two families ruined because of affairs where the women's husbands found out and went after the AP men physically. In one case, the husband shot the AP and there was holy hell legally -- the husband ended up in jail for quite a few years, the AP was permanently affected. These were all middle-class professionals considered "good people" in their community. Just not worth risking an affair where the AP's spouse could ignore it or could end up going after you.

Anonymous wrote:I’m your age and a divorced empty nester and I met a widower at a sales conference. Long story made short we realized we had a mutual interest which quickly led to a FWB relationship. We get together every couple of weeks and that meets my need. He’s not LTR material nor am I but the sex is wonderful.

Love seeing women thinking and acting like men

I’m your age and a divorced empty nester and I met a widower at a sales conference. Long story made short we realized we had a mutual interest which quickly led to a FWB relationship. We get together every couple of weeks and that meets my need. He’s not LTR material nor am I but the sex is wonderful.

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Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

I have the opposite problem. I am divorced 48 been seeing a 34 years old for almost a year and now she wants something more serious. This is the second time it's happening to me. My younger self would def be down having just sex with a much older woman. But it seems that for us men we don't have have the same luck with younger women because eventually they want something more serious.

Of course the younger women will be like that!

What works best for long term FWB is a married high-earning woman not looking to leave her marriage for multiple reasons and just wants to explore and have fun with sex.

Of f**k no. Why would I have a flind with a married woman. I wouldn't want another man f**g my wife. See women may not care about the "other" woman and put the blame squarely on her DH. Honestly though most men will start clear of married women because the risks are higher. Men are unpredictable and it's a risk to mess around with another man's wife.

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Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

My fault you are right about the menopause comment. It's certainly stupid to say the least

During menopause, levels of estrogen, an important hormone in women, naturally go down. As a result, the walls of the vagina become thin, dry, and sometimes inflamed. In many women, this leads to symptoms of vaginal burning, irritation, pain (especially during sex), bleeding, or discharge.

Ah good to know. I was clueless about that.

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Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

I have the opposite problem. I am divorced 48 been seeing a 34 years old for almost a year and now she wants something more serious. This is the second time it's happening to me. My younger self would def be down having just sex with a much older woman. But it seems that for us men we don't have have the same luck with younger women because eventually they want something more serious.

Of course the younger women will be like that!

What works best for long term FWB is a married high-earning woman not looking to leave her marriage for multiple reasons and just wants to explore and have fun with sex.

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Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

My fault you are right about the menopause comment. It's certainly stupid to say the least

No worries. And actually, sort of disliking someone can be a good quality in a FWB situation (so it’s clear we are nothing more than FWB) so as long as you were actually skilled in bed, I’ll allow some stupid statements.

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Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

My fault you are right about the menopause comment. It's certainly stupid to say the least

During menopause, levels of estrogen, an important hormone in women, naturally go down. As a result, the walls of the vagina become thin, dry, and sometimes inflamed. In many women, this leads to symptoms of vaginal burning, irritation, pain (especially during sex), bleeding, or discharge.

sure and we all know that with male aging there are impacts on the penis … yet we don’t have the same to-do about that!

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Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

My fault you are right about the menopause comment. It's certainly stupid to say the least

During menopause, levels of estrogen, an important hormone in women, naturally go down. As a result, the walls of the vagina become thin, dry, and sometimes inflamed. In many women, this leads to symptoms of vaginal burning, irritation, pain (especially during sex), bleeding, or discharge.