I think the CC membership is more of an issue when kids are younger because parents are organizing play dates and parties at the club. By high school kids aren’t hanging out at the club in the same way as their social circle expands BUT there are still dances and events at the club that those girls attend (and they aren’t typically bring a non club friend thing unless it’s a date). Also, I think we’ve “felt” it more on the parent end because SO many of the parents know each other and socialize at the club. These families are very insular and while socialization with other adults in HS is less of a thing, we absolutely felt like outsiders. DD ended up at a great school, got a great education and enjoyed her time in HS, but there definitely was a strong CC scene. —parent of SR graduate

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Don't know what you call super wealthy. But there are very few super wealthy people that do not belong to country clubs. They may not go but they belong.

NP. Are you this stupid in person? Seriously? Get outside of your bubble and very insular circle. There are a ton of Uber wealthy families in DC that do not belong to a country club. We are one of them and I can think of 20 just off the top of my head in my child’s class.

Lol

Agree with the poster saying many uber wealthy don't join country clubs. The wealthiest people I know are not members of clubs (I'm talking private jets, donate to super pacs wealth). I know they're not members anywhere because we're good friends and have discussed whether they should join and ultimately they decide it's boring and a waste of time/money. These are people who very carefully curate their time and a club just aint it. Some of them I know have joined the Metropolitan Club but that's not a country club.

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Anonymous wrote:Holton? Um yes there’s a scene
The least all girls cc scene is prob madeira

I think there are plenty of Madeira parents who are members of clubs. But half of them are not local and those who are don't revolve their social life around it. Plus, starting at 9th grade makes social life far less parent-influenced.

Madeira has no country club scene. We have an upperclassman there and belong to a club. I’ve never heard anyone discussing their club, there have never been social events there, and I have never seen anyone from Madeira at our club (though I barely use it). Between the boarding element and the merit and financial aid, it feels less wealthy than the K-8 we came from and certainly not a country club type of school.

Seems like there are at least three of us and I suspect there are more but we don't talk about it because it really isn't relevant.

Our DD is at Holton. None of the parents have never mentioned their club membership, unless it was to invite people to play golf (some of the dads do that).

We can easily afford to join a club, and have been invited, but none of us play golf, and we have a swimming pool at home.. and more than enough social activities to keep us busy.

We have friends in the same situation -- they can easily afford a club, but choose not to join as it's not worth it to them.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Don't know what you call super wealthy. But there are very few super wealthy people that do not belong to country clubs. They may not go but they belong.

NP. Are you this stupid in person? Seriously? Get outside of your bubble and very insular circle. There are a ton of Uber wealthy families in DC that do not belong to a country club. We are one of them and I can think of 20 just off the top of my head in my child’s class.

I guess we won’t meet in person because you are an Uber wealthy private school parent who doesn’t belong to a country club but does spend time trolling DCUM and writing snarky anonymous posts. You don’t sound like my type of pal.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Don't know what you call super wealthy. But there are very few super wealthy people that do not belong to country clubs. They may not go but they belong.

NP. Are you this stupid in person? Seriously? Get outside of your bubble and very insular circle. There are a ton of Uber wealthy families in DC that do not belong to a country club. We are one of them and I can think of 20 just off the top of my head in my child’s class.

20 ultra wealthy in one class?

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Don't know what you call super wealthy. But there are very few super wealthy people that do not belong to country clubs. They may not go but they belong.

NP. Are you this stupid in person? Seriously? Get outside of your bubble and very insular circle. There are a ton of Uber wealthy families in DC that do not belong to a country club. We are one of them and I can think of 20 just off the top of my head in my child’s class.

Sounds like its inevitable.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Don't know what you call super wealthy. But there are very few super wealthy people that do not belong to country clubs. They may not go but they belong.

Anonymous wrote:I've heard there is a big cc scene at Stone Ridge with the moms manipulating the social scene. Have had two DDs at Visi and haven't noticed it/hasn't come up. Also, like a PP said, once they get toward end of sophomore year going in to junior year, the kids don't hang out there.

You will find wealthy people at most of the DC/Bethesda single sex girls schools, especially those who are full pay.

This hasn’t been our experience at Visi. Huge CC scene.

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Anonymous wrote:Our CC has a ton of visi/Gonzaga kids.

Columbia? Makes sense as it's the catholic CC.

No. In VA.

I've heard there is a big cc scene at Stone Ridge with the moms manipulating the social scene. Have had two DDs at Visi and haven't noticed it/hasn't come up. Also, like a PP said, once they get toward end of sophomore year going in to junior year, the kids don't hang out there.

You will find wealthy people at most of the DC/Bethesda single sex girls schools, especially those who are full pay.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS has a few country club girls but it's not a prevailing culture at all. Even most of the wealthiest families in my girls' grades do not belong to a club.

Most of the country club set leave in middle school or by 9th grade. For example, in the current 9th grade, almost all of the country club girls left for Stone Ridge for high school.

The bolded above is false. They belong. Probably to more than one. You do not just know about it. At our private I think almost 60-70% of the kids' families belong to area ccs. Whether it is a scene not is another story. I don't think girls hand out at cc's as much by High School. Just too much else to do.

No, it's not true. We are close friends with a crowd of super wealthy people at NCS (because our kids are friends) and there is not a club member among them. It's not the prevailing culture at NCS (no where near 60-70% like at your school). There are club members. But many who are not.

Anonymous wrote:We are at SR and belong to a CC. By HS, especially by 11th grade, the kids do not hang out there. Even at the pool in summer for most part. And when they do, all friends go even if not a member.

Or are you talking about where parents hang out?

DP. Yes both. Much more of an issue at SR than at some other schools. Certain grades worse than others.