Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 09:16     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up with at U12 and U13?


NP. That’s not my interpretation. They said their kid played MLSnext team for 2 years and then quit before starting high school. That sounds like their kid played on MLS next for 2 years in middle school. Where I live U12 and U13 would be middle schoolers not elementary schoolers.. Anyway, kids sports are very serious even starting in elementary. It’s too intense for a lot of kids.


Real life for most is more intense than getting chauffeured around in the luxury SUV with the expensive gear.
There is more intensity from crazy parents than the actual sport.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 09:15     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


You're saying if you have goals and ambitions it's not a lot.
But if you don't, it's a lot?


NP here, I think PP is saying that if your highest priority goals and ambitions relate to soccer, it's reasonable to expecting the kid to spend a huge portion of their weekends on soccer.

If your kid has other goals and ambitions that are higher priorities, expecting them to give up a lot of their weekend time to something that isn't their highest priority is a lot.

I have two kids who were serious athletes in middle school. One knew by the end of middle school that sports weren't his highest priority. He had the potential to play in college, but not the desire. So, he plays varsity, but not club.

My other kid wants to play D1, so arranging his schedule around his sport makes sense. He was a soccer player, but found another sport he loves more.


Then why was the kid in MLS Next at U12 and U13 if they had other goals and ambitions other than soccer?
MLS Next starts at U13. If this wasn't DCUM, I wouldn't think this was a real question by a real person.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 09:08     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


You're saying if you have goals and ambitions it's not a lot.
But if you don't, it's a lot?


NP here, I think PP is saying that if your highest priority goals and ambitions relate to soccer, it's reasonable to expecting the kid to spend a huge portion of their weekends on soccer.

If your kid has other goals and ambitions that are higher priorities, expecting them to give up a lot of their weekend time to something that isn't their highest priority is a lot.

I have two kids who were serious athletes in middle school. One knew by the end of middle school that sports weren't his highest priority. He had the potential to play in college, but not the desire. So, he plays varsity, but not club.

My other kid wants to play D1, so arranging his schedule around his sport makes sense. He was a soccer player, but found another sport he loves more.


Then why was the kid in MLS Next at U12 and U13 if they had other goals and ambitions other than soccer?
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 09:01     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


Such 1st world struggles and adversities 😂🤣


Don't forget the additional stresses of getting in hours of screen time and video games


Just like when I was a kid.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 08:48     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up with at U12 and U13?


NP. That’s not my interpretation. They said their kid played MLSnext team for 2 years and then quit before starting high school. That sounds like their kid played on MLS next for 2 years in middle school. Where I live U12 and U13 would be middle schoolers not elementary schoolers.. Anyway, kids sports are very serious even starting in elementary. It’s too intense for a lot of kids.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 08:35     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


You're saying if you have goals and ambitions it's not a lot.
But if you don't, it's a lot?


Yes, why would anyone do MLSNext if they had no soccer-specific goals? There are plenty of opportunities to play soccer without the travel, the many games, and intense practices.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 08:34     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


You're saying if you have goals and ambitions it's not a lot.
But if you don't, it's a lot?


NP here, I think PP is saying that if your highest priority goals and ambitions relate to soccer, it's reasonable to expecting the kid to spend a huge portion of their weekends on soccer.

If your kid has other goals and ambitions that are higher priorities, expecting them to give up a lot of their weekend time to something that isn't their highest priority is a lot.

I have two kids who were serious athletes in middle school. One knew by the end of middle school that sports weren't his highest priority. He had the potential to play in college, but not the desire. So, he plays varsity, but not club.

My other kid wants to play D1, so arranging his schedule around his sport makes sense. He was a soccer player, but found another sport he loves more.
Anonymous
Post 10/15/2024 08:27     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


You're saying if you have goals and ambitions it's not a lot.
But if you don't, it's a lot?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 21:54     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

It shouldn't surprise me, but it did seeing the mentions of kids quitting because of their parents. The situations we saw when our DS was going through this -were it was all kid-driven. The intensity built - high school became social and a focus turned to academics and the reality that they loved the sport but weren't going to pursue it in college. And as others mentioned - the early talent was passed by the late bloomers. But not one quit because their parents were making them play the sport.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 17:33     Subject: Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Became a top division 1 recruit in another sport


What sport?


track. And the university did not allow playing soccer anymore.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 17:03     Subject: Re:Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid played on an MLS Next team for two years before quitting - prior to starting high school.
He had lost his passion for soccer, and he started to resent that all his time outside of school was dedicated to practice and weekend games.
He was a starter, had positive experiences with coaches, liked his teammates though wasn’t super bonded with them.
Since quitting he has played three dif HS sports though not soccer.
Hats off to the kids and families who keep up the travel soccer intensity into HS.


Your kid quit in Elementary school before serious soccer even began
What intensity was there to keep up mwith at U12 and U13?


MLSNext is U13 and U14 for the first years so middle school (7th and 8th). DS MLSNext U13 and there are 30+ games for the year, some weekends two games. It’s a lot. Unless you want to play high level D1 or pro, it’s a lot to ask from a kid


Such 1st world struggles and adversities 😂🤣


Don't forget the additional stresses of getting in hours of screen time and video games


Toxic parents and their kids kill a lot of the desire to play for some kids. Prob more on the girls side.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 16:58     Subject: Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:Became a top division 1 recruit in another sport


What sport?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 16:46     Subject: Reasons for quitting

Became a top division 1 recruit in another sport
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 15:53     Subject: Reasons for quitting

Anonymous wrote:9 am games on Sunday mornings, after 2 games on Saturday.


Watching on TV?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2024 15:41     Subject: Reasons for quitting

9 am games on Sunday mornings, after 2 games on Saturday.