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Anonymous wrote:It is funny that the common refrain on here seems to be to move on and find someone that better meets your needs. But let’s all be honest here, OP wouldn’t be dating a divorced dad if she was a catch that could demand a 99% guy. I’d love to find a woman who has no emotional baggage, is fun to be around, and is up for enthusiastic sex at the drop of a hat. But that ideal is so far out of my ballpark that it seems comical.

OP. He told me that he loves being around me bc I am easy and happy and I am his every sexual fantasy come true. I have some emotional baggage (doesn’t everyone?) but I guess it’s worth it to him!

Anonymous wrote:He obvious doesn’t meet your financial expectations. Keep digging.

Anonymous wrote:For the first 4-6m my boyfriend used to plan fun dates. We’d go out to dinner, to a performance, or do an activity together, and he would really make an effort. Now it’s all dinner at home, walks outside, sometimes tennis. He’s a great guy; kind, honest, supportive and respectful and we take care of each other. Sex is not the best I’ve ever had but the best he’s ever had and good enough for me.

Unfortunately I feel like he is always stretched thin financially and it shows. He makes a decent salary but has child support obligations and a lawyer to pay. He does things himself that a higher earning person would outsource (like cleaning or home repairs) that reduce our available together time. He has never given me a gift although I do give him gifts (small ones though, like under $50 though will spend $300 for his birthday).

Anonymous wrote:It is funny that the common refrain on here seems to be to move on and find someone that better meets your needs. But let’s all be honest here, OP wouldn’t be dating a divorced dad if she was a catch that could demand a 99% guy. I’d love to find a woman who has no emotional baggage, is fun to be around, and is up for enthusiastic sex at the drop of a hat. But that ideal is so far out of my ballpark that it seems comical.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I think that if we were redirecting energy and money towards different mutual goals I would feel more positive about the shutdown.

He’s putting his money towards support of his children. They’re never going to be a mutual goal of yours. Sounds like he has his priorities straight and you don’t. Move on, you’re already starting to resent him.