Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 16:53     Subject: Re:How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In my perfect world, my kids would have a nice college boyfriend or girlfriend and that would be the time. Agree the most important thing is a long-term, committed, emotionally healthy relationship where both partners feel safe and respected. So whenever that is.



I completely disagree. I really don't want my kids in any sort of long-term relationship before age 21. Preferably age 25.

I assume they'll have sex before then so it's going to be more casual.


They just won't tell you they are seeing someone. They'll be sure to speak about their significant other "casually" enough to satisfy you that it's just a hook up.

Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 16:53     Subject: Re:How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In my perfect world, my kids would have a nice college boyfriend or girlfriend and that would be the time. Agree the most important thing is a long-term, committed, emotionally healthy relationship where both partners feel safe and respected. So whenever that is.



I completely disagree. I really don't want my kids in any sort of long-term relationship before age 21. Preferably age 25.

I assume they'll have sex before then so it's going to be more casual.


I don’t get thinking having sex at a younger age is preferable to having a relationship ship at a younger age.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 16:51     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:19 I lost it to a hooker


Why did you do that? Didn’t you want a connection with someone that cares about you?
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 16:46     Subject: How old to have sex?
Lately I’ve been know. To stare
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 16:39     Subject: How old to have sex?
I wouldn’t be thrilled if my under 16 had sex personally. I’d prefer they wait until college but you can only control so much. I had sex at 14 and was not ready at all and wish I waited.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:42     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SUPERVISE AND COACH?! What exactly are you smoking?


+1 lol


Bow chicka wow wow
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:42     Subject: Re:How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:In my perfect world, my kids would have a nice college boyfriend or girlfriend and that would be the time. Agree the most important thing is a long-term, committed, emotionally healthy relationship where both partners feel safe and respected. So whenever that is.



I completely disagree. I really don't want my kids in any sort of long-term relationship before age 21. Preferably age 25.

I assume they'll have sex before then so it's going to be more casual.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:36     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:19 I lost it to a hooker


Dang
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:23     Subject: How old to have sex?
17
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:05     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.


Or, they become overly emotionally involved with that boyfriend and try to keep the relationship going in college, often affecting their chance to fully enjoy the experience. I’ve seen it happen many times.


I don't know that servicing the whole frat for Blacked and Bleached is necessary to "fully enjoy" the experience.


I don’t exactly know what that is, but that’s not what I meant. It’s not just that it prevents them from dating or hooking up with other people, it can prevent them from making friends, from making an effort to go out and being social, from just generally letting go of high school and growing up a bit. People in college with boyfriends/girlfriends from high school are weighed down. They’re less fun to be around.


That implies that they won’t have a ‘serious’ relationship in college to weigh them down.


Not at all. It’s different when you have friends in common, when you’re not leaving campus every other weekend to go visit someone, when you actually want to go out and be social because you don’t feel like you have to sit home and behave, or whatever.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:02     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.


Or, they become overly emotionally involved with that boyfriend and try to keep the relationship going in college, often affecting their chance to fully enjoy the experience. I’ve seen it happen many times.


I don't know that servicing the whole frat for Blacked and Bleached is necessary to "fully enjoy" the experience.


I don’t exactly know what that is, but that’s not what I meant. It’s not just that it prevents them from dating or hooking up with other people, it can prevent them from making friends, from making an effort to go out and being social, from just generally letting go of high school and growing up a bit. People in college with boyfriends/girlfriends from high school are weighed down. They’re less fun to be around.


That implies that they won’t have a ‘serious’ relationship in college to weigh them down.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 15:01     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:SUPERVISE AND COACH?! What exactly are you smoking?


Welcome to DCUM. There are plenty of parents here who have this attitude of "supervising and coaching" their kids through a bunch of adult things like alcohol and drug consumption, and casual sex. This place is crazy.


Op here. I already explained what I meant by that. And many posters totally understood it.

I’m not naive and I do know that my kids will not always do what I want them to do. If they did do everything I said, the likes of you would say that I am controlling and they are not regulating well enough.


Wasn't attacking you, OP. Was attacking the permissive parents that justify looking the other way or worse enabling their kids to engage with alcohol, sex and drugs as adolescents.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:52     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.


Or, they become overly emotionally involved with that boyfriend and try to keep the relationship going in college, often affecting their chance to fully enjoy the experience. I’ve seen it happen many times.


I don't know that servicing the whole frat for Blacked and Bleached is necessary to "fully enjoy" the experience.


I don’t exactly know what that is, but that’s not what I meant. It’s not just that it prevents them from dating or hooking up with other people, it can prevent them from making friends, from making an effort to go out and being social, from just generally letting go of high school and growing up a bit. People in college with boyfriends/girlfriends from high school are weighed down. They’re less fun to be around.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:50     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.


After marriage.


Hell no absolute not
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2024 14:45     Subject: How old to have sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.


After marriage.


And only in the missionary position and prayer afterwards right?


No, sorry to burst your bubble.