Anonymous
09/30/2024 16:42
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
I used to like it a lot more then had some bad, complicated, crappy experiences for a few vacations in a row and that really turned me off. Now I go out of my way to really minimize the potential for that, by booking only better airlines , only American or large chains for hotels, doing fewer restaurant meals and really vetting the ones we do (we do supermarkets or on the go otherwise). I don't want the potential for bad surprises anymore.
Anonymous
09/30/2024 08:44
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You don't have to travel to hike or kayak a white water river or read on the beach?
It's also not a requirement of travel to "have superficial people hate me." What a strange thought.
Kayak is a drive. Hike is a drive. Beach is a drive
No plane to get sick in
That's...travel.
But without people and relatives. Maybe you are right. It is not the travel but the solitude.
I am stuck with relatives I don’t know that I don’t speak the language , my head hurts and they are mean to my wife and there are step kids and sleeping in others office rooms. No where to escape without being criticized , so I sit like a rock in a crowd unable to breathe with my head throbbing. I hate this
And they all love each other and jabber away
Seems that your issue is not with "travel" but with "visiting family."
+1
There have been threads before on what constitutes a vacation. For me "visiting family" has never, ever, been a vacation. I love them, they are not like what OP you're describing, but it's still not a vacation. If this was the entirety of my "travel", I'd hate it as well.
p.s. Why is your spouse tolerating being criticized by their family? Can you decide not to travel to see them?
This. I love my family and do a big house rental with them one week a year but that's not really what I think of as "travel." We don't do good, exploring travel with others. Just us as a couple or with our kids (now college students). Get a place with plenty of space - apartment or two hotel rooms, make sure plenty of natural places are on the itinerary.
Anonymous
09/30/2024 00:13
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You don't have to travel to hike or kayak a white water river or read on the beach?
It's also not a requirement of travel to "have superficial people hate me." What a strange thought.
Kayak is a drive. Hike is a drive. Beach is a drive
No plane to get sick in
That's...travel.
But without people and relatives. Maybe you are right. It is not the travel but the solitude.
I am stuck with relatives I don’t know that I don’t speak the language , my head hurts and they are mean to my wife and there are step kids and sleeping in others office rooms. No where to escape without being criticized , so I sit like a rock in a crowd unable to breathe with my head throbbing. I hate this
And they all love each other and jabber away
Seems that your issue is not with "travel" but with "visiting family."
+1
There have been threads before on what constitutes a vacation. For me "visiting family" has never, ever, been a vacation. I love them, they are not like what OP you're describing, but it's still not a vacation. If this was the entirety of my "travel", I'd hate it as well.
p.s. Why is your spouse tolerating being criticized by their family? Can you decide not to travel to see them?
Anonymous
09/29/2024 10:00
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Anonymous wrote:I'm with you, OP. I'm in my early 40s and love road trips and hiking.
I hate crowds, flying is often VERY unpleasant, and I hate spending tons of money on mediocre food/experiences.
We travel all of the time and don’t do any experiences, outside of paying for a private tour of a museum or gallery. We don’t do touristy food. I would say 90% of our meals are well above mediocre. Maybe it isn’t travel, but the way way your travel.
Anonymous
09/29/2024 08:22
Subject: Re:Anyone hate traveling ?
The OP sounds like there is a difference in what type of travel they want to do, versus a hatred of traveling.
For me I love the experience of the destinations and the sites but I hate the crowds and the drudgery of the actual travel part, i.e., sitting in the car/airport/airplane for long periods.
I enjoy trying new food and drink, but I also enjoy coming home to my own bed and normal diet.
For me I love the experience of the destinations and the sites but I hate the crowds and the drudgery of the actual travel part, i.e., sitting in the car/airport/airplane for long periods.
I enjoy trying new food and drink, but I also enjoy coming home to my own bed and normal diet.
Anonymous
09/29/2024 03:30
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Anonymous wrote:Travel is psychological. You can really have fun or relax anywhere. Unless you have a specific interest in a place it is better to just stay put, I totally get this. I say this as someone who has always had the wanderlust to see as much as possible from the perspective that I enjoy the beauty and novelt of new experiences. This feeling changes with age as now with teens, I'm not traveling for my own interests but what my family would like to do. It's a totally different concept.
What it's important to realize however is that the more you travel the more you'll want to - it's habit forming. But gone are the days when it was cheaper, easier, more interesting in that you meet and talk with strangers as everyone is just online now. Also, with social media, you can easily see beautiful stuff unlike back in the day.
I don't like to travel as much as I used to because of the crowds these days but also I've seen a lot of world - not all - but enough that I'm pretty at peace with it. One yr I went to Paris 3x for fun. I spent all my money traveling in my 20s and I don't regret it at all.
It's a different time for most nowadays and at different ages and times in your life, traveling is about different values.
Life is psychological
You can enjoy yourself anywhere
After almost a month traveling I find that I loved the hikes at cinqueterra and solitude , and detested the churches and museums and crowds
Seems to me travel is for the young or the rich
So one less tourist in the future
Anonymous
09/18/2024 18:49
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Travel is psychological. You can really have fun or relax anywhere. Unless you have a specific interest in a place it is better to just stay put, I totally get this. I say this as someone who has always had the wanderlust to see as much as possible from the perspective that I enjoy the beauty and novelt of new experiences. This feeling changes with age as now with teens, I'm not traveling for my own interests but what my family would like to do. It's a totally different concept.
What it's important to realize however is that the more you travel the more you'll want to - it's habit forming. But gone are the days when it was cheaper, easier, more interesting in that you meet and talk with strangers as everyone is just online now. Also, with social media, you can easily see beautiful stuff unlike back in the day.
I don't like to travel as much as I used to because of the crowds these days but also I've seen a lot of world - not all - but enough that I'm pretty at peace with it. One yr I went to Paris 3x for fun. I spent all my money traveling in my 20s and I don't regret it at all.
It's a different time for most nowadays and at different ages and times in your life, traveling is about different values.
What it's important to realize however is that the more you travel the more you'll want to - it's habit forming. But gone are the days when it was cheaper, easier, more interesting in that you meet and talk with strangers as everyone is just online now. Also, with social media, you can easily see beautiful stuff unlike back in the day.
I don't like to travel as much as I used to because of the crowds these days but also I've seen a lot of world - not all - but enough that I'm pretty at peace with it. One yr I went to Paris 3x for fun. I spent all my money traveling in my 20s and I don't regret it at all.
It's a different time for most nowadays and at different ages and times in your life, traveling is about different values.
Anonymous
09/17/2024 09:38
Subject: Anyone hate traveling ?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The older I get the less I like it
Plus especially in the US people are sucky. Just so not nice.
Funny, I am not from the US and I think Americans are SO nice: they smile to you, are helpful, chatty.
Former reluctant traveler.
Discover the things you detest and then reverse engineer for your next trip.
Hate the crush of passengers standing up as soon as you land? Select a seat closer to front or fly first class.
Have you ever tried one of the airport private lounges? Pay for a one-time pass and determine if this is a future perk you might enjoy. Maybe it’s worth it for some quiet or access to private bathrooms or even a shower.
Maybe dont travel in a huge tour group or even a group of friends. Try traveling as a couple only and decide that if following an agenda or itinerary is too stressful that you just arrive and go with the flow. Maybe you just sit poolside and relax and attempt to do one tour when you feel like it.
Hate getting up early? Don’t book the earliest possible flight. If you have to have a layover, make it meaningful or semi-enjoyable. Take the drudgery out of travel.