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Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school. In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid.

The point being - there is genuine thought put into "how" the school operates and how parent/student events are run so that they are practicing the "equitable" part of DEI

That is not real life and you are setting these kids up for a big disappointment when they get into the real world. I support DEI but some of it gets taken too far. If parents want a nice party (and many do) they are going to have it. The other option that I have seen is when schools try to dictate too much those parents STILL have their parties but then what happens is they do not invite all. So the former option is better in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school. In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid.

Well your school is different. At our schools it is common for parents to host the entire grade of parents and pay for the party. Very common. It is a nice gesture. School could never afford that and potlucks are crappy food and a mess for the hosts to deal with in my experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Please attend. I think there's often a misconception that the diversity events are for everyone minus white families.

+1 as a POC, I thought these events are FOR white people to help them get a little bit of understanding on what we go through in this country! I already know.

So now I'm really confused.

Are you saying that these DEI events are basically whine sessions, where white people are expected to listen to what you, a POC who happens to have kids at an elite DC private school, "go through in this country?" Is that what I'm missing by not attending?

Anonymous wrote:When will schools start phasing out DEI?

The sooner the better. What a waste of dollars and resources.

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Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Yes. And you should self-flagellate because clearly, you are a problem.

How rude. OP is asking a sincere question. It does vary at each school.

This is not a sincere question. This is the Bethesda guilt of a white suburban liberal.

Anonymous wrote:Please attend. I think there's often a misconception that the diversity events are for everyone minus white families.

+1 as a POC, I thought these events are FOR white people to help them get a little bit of understanding on what we go through in this country! I already know.

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Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school. In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid.

DP - but I have absolutely seen school events where the parents pay for it as a donation to the school. Such as a happy hour for new parents, a kickoff to a fundraiser, or a get together in someone’s home just for a specific grade as PP suggests. The events are never paid for by the school. Another new one is parents are buying tickets to events at people’s homes the proceeds go to benefit the school but the hosts pay for the food, drink, and entertainment for the event/party. It would be weird to have 4 families agree to host and one to back out and say they weren’t going to chip in to pay but wanted credit on the invite. I would think the other families would just drop them.

I have hosted grade events with co-hosts. We all equally divided costs. The school gave us $0.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school. In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid.

The point being - there is genuine thought put into "how" the school operates and how parent/student events are run so that they are practicing the "equitable" part of DEI

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school. In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid.

Anonymous wrote:DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?

DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so.

When will schools start phasing out DEI?

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Anonymous wrote:Our DEIB event is great! I wish more people came- it's about sharing commonalities.

What actually happens at the event that focuses on “commonalities”? Do tell.

Wow so cynical. I’d insert a Trump joke but that would be too easy lol

Sure, insert a Trump joke because you can’t insert an answer.

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Anonymous wrote:Our DEIB event is great! I wish more people came- it's about sharing commonalities.

What actually happens at the event that focuses on “commonalities”? Do tell.

Wow so cynical. I’d insert a Trump joke but that would be too easy lol

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Anonymous wrote:Our DEIB event is great! I wish more people came- it's about sharing commonalities.

What actually happens at the event that focuses on “commonalities”? Do tell.

Funny that another poster above says its about embracing differences. Who has time for these navel gazing events nobody can agree on?