Anonymous wrote:Please don’t do a chunky belt, you’ll look like you belong to the early 00s. I would do a long sparkly earring with my hair up and a metallic bag.

Agreed. No belt at all. Let the gown be sleek. Earrings, bag and shoes in metallic. Simple and elegant.

Those red shoes from early make me cringe with a beautiful black gown. Though I would definitely wear them with something else.

Please don’t do a chunky belt, you’ll look like you belong to the early 00s. I would do a long sparkly earring with my hair up and a metallic bag.

Anonymous wrote:My daughters MIL and her daughters all wore black to my daughters wedding. Message received loud and clear. She wasn’t happy they were getting married before he finished his medical residency.

Oh FFS they probably just felt their best in black. Are you people all living in a different century? Were they wearing black veils too? A black dress with great accessories is fabulous for a wedding.

Anonymous wrote:Plus, black tie is long gown, not cocktail.

No, Black tie is not a long gown- but the point is moot because hers is long

Anonymous wrote:My daughters MIL and her daughters all wore black to my daughters wedding. Message received loud and clear. She wasn’t happy they were getting married before he finished his medical residency.

Your daughter didn’t have her fiancée’s sisters in the bridal party?

It’s 2024. People wear black to weddings, and there’s no hidden “message” when they do so. My god.

I always wear black to fancy weddings and so does half of everyone there.

I would wear a shoe with color or metallic or get a clutch in a color. Plus some fun bracelets and/or earrings.

Anonymous wrote:My daughters MIL and her daughters all wore black to my daughters wedding. Message received loud and clear. She wasn’t happy they were getting married before he finished his medical residency.

NP but i think you are your daughter are the nasty ones in this story. Black at weddings is super normal and doesn't reflect any ill will. That you are still stewing over it (as the mother, not even the bride!!) speaks volumes about you, and not the inlaws.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://loefflerrandall.com/collections/pumps-mules/products/paloma-black-crystal-mesh-mule
And
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Or

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Those red shoes look comfortable. I kind of love them but I can't decide if they're objectively beautiful or ugly.

They are gorgeous shoes, but they are going to be very, very difficult to style. And if you don't get it right -- ugly.

What makes them so hard to style? I wouldn't have thought they were - I think they are really pretty and versaile

NP but the shape is going to be very hard to style around. It's borderline chunky, and definitely not delicate. I don't think they'd be great with most formal wear. I like them, but not with a delicate dress like OP's.

My daughters MIL and her daughters all wore black to my daughters wedding. Message received loud and clear. She wasn’t happy they were getting married before he finished his medical residency.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://loefflerrandall.com/collections/pumps-mules/products/paloma-black-crystal-mesh-mule
And
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Or

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Those red shoes look comfortable. I kind of love them but I can't decide if they're objectively beautiful or ugly.

They are gorgeous shoes, but they are going to be very, very difficult to style. And if you don't get it right -- ugly.

What makes them so hard to style? I wouldn't have thought they were - I think they are really pretty and versaile

I love the dress. But I think a colorful belt or accessories will cheapen the look of the dress. I would do metallic accessories.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plus, black tie is long gown, not cocktail.

Oh, FFS. We always hear this from people who have attended zero black tie events in the last decade or two but look up "What to wear to black tie" on the internet.

That dress is perfect for black tie.

This. I always wonder if the people on the fashion forum have left their house in years. Every black tie wedding I’ve been to for 15 years has half the women wearing black knee length cocktail dresses lol. And half the men are wearing black suits with black tie. Bridezillas may not like it, but no one wants to buy a new $500 dress for your wedding.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://loefflerrandall.com/collections/pumps-mules/products/paloma-black-crystal-mesh-mule
And
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Or

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Those red shoes look comfortable. I kind of love them but I can't decide if they're objectively beautiful or ugly.

They are gorgeous shoes, but they are going to be very, very difficult to style. And if you don't get it right -- ugly.

Anonymous wrote:https://loefflerrandall.com/collections/pumps-mules/products/paloma-black-crystal-mesh-mule
And
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Or

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Those red shoes look comfortable. I kind of love them but I can't decide if they're objectively beautiful or ugly.