There are a lot of clinically depressed people on this thread. Not the creature-of-habit WAH responses who do go out all weekend.

But all of you who proudly and defensively say you don’t leave your residence unless forced to for an appointment or something? You’re actually not okay. The fact that you prefer not interacting with the world, at all, is evidence of a problem and not actually point on a continuum of healthful alternatives

Usually if I don't leave the house for several days it's because something is keeping me in -- a very intense work project or I'm sick. I don't mind staying in for a day (especially if the weather is bad) but after 2-3 days I will start to feel stifled.

That said the level of judgment OP is bringing here is really obnoxious. Either the house guest doesn't care about leaving the house or they have a reason they don't feel comfortable leaving it. I can think of a million reasons that make sense either way including that they don't have enough familiarity with the area or they are depressed.

It sounds like OP just sounds resentful of their guest. It's not about understanding it's just about wanting them to leave. So this is an OP problem really.

Agoraphobia. 😢

Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert, and think it's extremely healthy to leave the house for at least a little bit, every day. To go outside, get exercise, get air, run an errand, interact with people even if it's just passing people on the sidewalk. And sure, I think many people are aholes, but it's still important to get out and see other humans.

I have a long term houseguest who hasn't left the house for 3 days now, and it's insane to me. That's terribly unhealthy. Even when I've had covid/flu/strep/etc, I never went 24+ hours without even going outside for a little bit. I'm not sure I spend more than 3 days in an entire year without never leaving the house to at least go for a walk.

Use your words and tell your guest to leave the house.

Its hot as balls where I am in Los Angeles this week. We had temperatures up to 108 F.

No sane human goes out in that.

I get up at 5am to walk the dog and its already in the 80s / 90s.

Anonymous wrote:I’m go-go-go most days, so on a rainy weekend, I have no problem staying in the whole day.

OP, it sounds like your issue is more about this specific houseguest. Why are you trying to make this a global issue instead of a personal one? Try posting more honestly about your situation. You may get better perspective.

+1. OP, why not make this post about what it’s about?

Why are you so controlling or so interested in houseguest’s habits?

I go outside daily because of the dog. I don’t always leave beyond dog walks though and I don’t always talk to people on my walks.

Hey OP: Are you asking why she never leaves the house, or why she stays home some days? Those are very different but your post says both.

That makes me think you're a hyperbolic person.

I actually love my house.

OP, can you really not imagine that other people's lives might be different from yours? Are you always so obtuse and judgemental?

Why don’t you ask THEM?

Since this person is a long term guest I think you can drop any need to entertain them and if you want to go out just say "I'm going to X today you can join if you want" and then just go.

Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert, and think it's extremely healthy to leave the house for at least a little bit, every day. To go outside, get exercise, get air, run an errand, interact with people even if it's just passing people on the sidewalk. And sure, I think many people are aholes, but it's still important to get out and see other humans.

I have a long term houseguest who hasn't left the house for 3 days now, and it's insane to me. That's terribly unhealthy. Even when I've had covid/flu/strep/etc, I never went 24+ hours without even going outside for a little bit. I'm not sure I spend more than 3 days in an entire year without never leaving the house to at least go for a walk.

Because my getting a simple cold lasts weeks and its miserable. I can order everything online I need. I'll sometimes go out to dinner but stay in as much as possible. Why? Because people like you go out sick and make people like me sick, which makes my life difficult. I'm to the point in my life I just don't care. Why do you care what others do?

If I had the chance, I would love to stay indoors for three days!

I think if you only do it occasionally then it is okay.

Sometimes life/work can get very stressful + demanding so taking a few days and just relaxing can be a nice respite. ✨✨