Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 12:03     Subject: Re:Did you have your child arrange college visit or did you do it for them? Call?
I can’t with you people. It’s filling a form! It’s not making travel arrangements and juggling people’s complex schedules. Just have them fill out the dang form!
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 12:01     Subject: Did you have your child arrange college visit or did you do it for them? Call?
I did it. I’m the one arranging the hotel, juggling the visit around siblings’ schedules so it doesn’t make sense for teen to do it.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 12:00     Subject: Did you have your child arrange college visit or did you do it for them? Call?
Anonymous wrote:I am arranging everything. If I left it to my 11th grade DC, he would decide to start visiting colleges in September of 12th grade. It doesn’t mean he won’t be ready to go to college in two years, it means he is really busy doing 16 year old things like homework, sports, ECs, etc. and doesn’t realize that 11th grade is the best time to do these visits. I have 3 kids in college right now, so I am confident that this is pretty developmentally appropriate.


+100

I did the same and think it’s developmentally normal for kids not to think so far in advance. Heck, a lot of adults don’t even think that far ahead!

Anonymous
Post 09/03/2024 11:58     Subject: Did you have your child arrange college visit or did you do it for them? Call?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you do it if it is easier for your family or have your DC do it if they are interested. Scheduling college visits doesn’t make a teen any more engaged, mature or independent. Don’t listen to the PPs that feel they are superior parents because their DCs are scheduling their own college visits. That is ridiculous.


I completely disagree. There are so many parent posts on here about difficult and complex this process is and how they have to do certain things for their kids or they won’t get done. There are so many parent posts on here about how their otherwise brilliant kids haven’t done anything yet because they’re paralyzed with anxiety. This one is a such an easy win and literally one of the very first steps in the whole process. Stop doing every little thing for them and then complaining about how they do nothing!


College visits involve other people's schedules. Sure, they can pick out colleges to visit, but allowing a 17-year-old to dictate when and where a family travels is insane.