Anonymous
09/01/2024 14:51
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?
I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.
You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.
OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.
Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.
NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?
Because PP admitted she doesn’t have kids. She cannot possibly understand the impact of divorce on kids who haven’t left for college - having to bounce between two homes every weekend or what not. It’s messier. You can’t imagine it unless you actually have your own household with children that you are living in. It’s a lot harder to do when kids are home everyday vs. at college.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 10:37
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When your parents get divorced, your life is uprooted regardless of whether you are in school or an adult. It is uprooted by having your parents in different places with new partners and having to make separate arrangements to see parents. But the parents want to pat themselves on the back for staying together and playing house from age 0 to 18.
So what, they just stay married forever so their adult kids aren’t inconvenienced? Marriage isn’t sacred. It’s just a contract that can end.
No. My point is that you really don't spare your kids much by staying together because they still have to change their lives and relationship with their parents and in some cases learn new stepparents or stepsibling. It is not magically better because you were 18 when your parents filed.
But they’re creating their own lives. Unless there’s abuse I fully disagree that staying together while minor children finish school and then leave for college or jobs and have new living relationships isn’t preferable to doing that when they’re still in high school or middle school. No one is saying there’s no impact but you don’t lose the right to happiness because you had children who are now adults and might be inconvenienced. Leah Remini and her husband sound they’re going to remain friends. Doesn’t sound tumultuous at all.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 10:36
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When your parents get divorced, your life is uprooted regardless of whether you are in school or an adult. It is uprooted by having your parents in different places with new partners and having to make separate arrangements to see parents. But the parents want to pat themselves on the back for staying together and playing house from age 0 to 18.
So what, they just stay married forever so their adult kids aren’t inconvenienced? Marriage isn’t sacred. It’s just a contract that can end.
No. My point is that you really don't spare your kids much by staying together because they still have to change their lives and relationship with their parents and in some cases learn new stepparents or stepsibling. It is not magically better because you were 18 when your parents filed.
It’s a little better than upheaving the family if the child were still living full time at home.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 10:33
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
It’s definitely a failure for her sophomore in college. My roommate’s parents divorced at that age and she and her brother were devastated. They recalled feeling like childhood was a fake. The safety net at home not there at a very tumultuous time in life.
My parents announced their separation at the same time. I had none of those feelings, just glad they were searching for happiness. Because it’s not all about me.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 10:32
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When your parents get divorced, your life is uprooted regardless of whether you are in school or an adult. It is uprooted by having your parents in different places with new partners and having to make separate arrangements to see parents. But the parents want to pat themselves on the back for staying together and playing house from age 0 to 18.
So what, they just stay married forever so their adult kids aren’t inconvenienced? Marriage isn’t sacred. It’s just a contract that can end.
No. My point is that you really don't spare your kids much by staying together because they still have to change their lives and relationship with their parents and in some cases learn new stepparents or stepsibling. It is not magically better because you were 18 when your parents filed.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 10:08
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
It’s definitely a failure for her sophomore in college. My roommate’s parents divorced at that age and she and her brother were devastated. They recalled feeling like childhood was a fake. The safety net at home not there at a very tumultuous time in life.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 09:55
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:When your parents get divorced, your life is uprooted regardless of whether you are in school or an adult. It is uprooted by having your parents in different places with new partners and having to make separate arrangements to see parents. But the parents want to pat themselves on the back for staying together and playing house from age 0 to 18.
So what, they just stay married forever so their adult kids aren’t inconvenienced? Marriage isn’t sacred. It’s just a contract that can end.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 09:53
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?
I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.
You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.
OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.
Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.
NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?
Anonymous
09/01/2024 09:22
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
When your parents get divorced, your life is uprooted regardless of whether you are in school or an adult. It is uprooted by having your parents in different places with new partners and having to make separate arrangements to see parents. But the parents want to pat themselves on the back for staying together and playing house from age 0 to 18.
Anonymous
09/01/2024 09:19
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?
I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.
You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.
OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.
Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.
Anonymous
08/31/2024 14:23
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:No one has mentioned Scientology yet.
Leah was a very different person under the spell of Scientology—which she was involved in since age 13/14 and was deeply connected with for the first 15 years of their marriage.
Then she left (and her whole family left with her—good for them!) but she became pretty obsessed with leaving the cult and burning it down on her way out. MUCH easier said than done. And I wonder if it just took its toll.
Like maybe he wanted her to put it in the rear view and she just couldn’t? Or maybe she started to question how he could “allow” them all to be in that deep for so long? Or maybe his personality is more suited to the person she was before the exit?
Also, I wonder if she’s smitten with Mike Rinder (co-star of Scientology: The Aftermath show and ex-Scientologist marketing guy) in the same way he is so obviously smitten with her?? It would make sense that they have this shared experience and have leaned on one another to decompress after the shared trauma of being favored members at a high level who chose to leave.
Many questions—but I wish her happiness.
Agree. He got sick of listening to her Scientology raves
Anonymous
08/31/2024 14:18
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?
I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.
You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.
Anonymous
08/30/2024 20:44
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.
Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?
+1
They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?
I would consider it a successful marriage.
This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.
When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …
I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?
I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.
They were sticking it out for the kids, which isn't always the best solution. I'd guess things were fairly amicable, so it was worth not disrupting their lives. However, other young adults say that felt duped and hurt when they realized their parents' marriage was a sham all along. You can't win either way. If you can really live as roommates, why not, if you can bear it? I couldn't.
I’m not planning on being an empty nest divorcer but it’s hard to judge people’s situations. What if the marriage wasn’t a sham all along? It’s possible some of these couples were happy when the kids were little and then the marriage slowly deteriorated as they got older.
I read Jennifer’s Gray’s memoir and it certainly seems like they had many years of a happy marriage. And they’re very close friends now. So I wouldn’t say that their daughter necessarily thinks the whole marriage was a sham.
Anonymous
08/30/2024 20:08
Subject: Re:Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:Stupid.
Better financial aid if you divorce before college.
Yeah- like single Leah Remini would ever be eligible for financial aid, under any circumstance
Anonymous
08/30/2024 19:17
Subject: Leah Remini divorcing
Anonymous wrote:JLo and Leah Remini were so hilarious together. They will be back together.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vrLWPyGVKEg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQgytuSDDYI
They should do a reality show about finding love and being single