I'm a man, so I'm not actually experiencing life as an over 50 woman, but I've definitely encountered a few. What I notice is that their sexuality doesn't disappear of die, but it sometimes hibernates. It becomes very context specific. They may go months or years without sexual interest but their sexuality somwtimes comes roaring back. When we are actually in bed, getting them going usually takes a little while longer than it does for younger women, but they usually end up in the same place, which is a very passionate place.

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

After a certain age, it’s not really a concern.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

Hi I’m a woman and tend to agree that sometimes an enjoyable evening with vibrator is far more attractive than a boring date

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Anonymous wrote:What has your experience been?

I'll tell you! My experience has been wonderful because I'm not doing it!

I'm 53, divorce, I have amazing kids, both adults and minor, I still have a parent, I have a full-time job, I volunteer at church, I have a very full life. And dating is not a part of it. And I'm so happy about that! I do what I want when I want and with whom I want. I am never lonely.

There is zero upside to dating for me.

You must have a really good vibrator.

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Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

Most of the posters on DCUM who claim to make $400K+ don’t. It’s easy to “exaggerate” your income when you post anonymously.

As a 56 year old male it’s been fine. First, I have no interest in dating someone my daughters age! Second, I’m successful and still very fit and that helps. Third, I don’t carry any emotional baggage as my ex and I get along pretty well. Career oriented women who are empty nesters and who just want to enjoy life are ideal but not easy to find but thankfully my work has created opportunities to meet those women. Listening to their insane stories about OLD has made for some fun evenings.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

Mostly my dog finds them for me. She literally jumped into my last boyfriend’s lap at the park. I’m also really into jazz and blues and have met men at concerts/clubs. The most recent one I met at a baseball game.

So you go on your own to jazz clubs ? I thought it was only couples there . You must be living in a large urban center not dmv

I go on my own anywhere, wherever I am. Restaurants, ball games, the symphony, the opera, lectures, galleries, bars.

Do you sit at the bar? I understand everything else - there is built entertainment.

According to Pew Research, 39% of women and 25% of men 65 and older aren’t married, living with a partner, or in a committed relationship. They’re the largest group of older adult singles in history. And most of them aren’t dating or looking. Only 16% of singles 65 and older are looking for dates or a relationship.

In the 60-plus dating pool, the most straightforward deterrent to dating is the gender ratio: Women have a numerical disadvantage. Because women tend to outlive men, single females aged 60 to 64 outnumber men 1.3 to 1, based on 2022 US Census data. By 75, the ratio is skewed more dramatically: 2.8 women for every man.

“For every single man there's 21 women lined up to date him,” said Rene Roy, a 61-year-old from southern Kentucky, about her church. Though she’s never been married, Roy remains open to dating and marriage. However, meeting new men in a small town is a challenge — and it’s only compounded by the comparatively outsized number of single women, she said.

Some women may express less interest in dating or re-partnering simply because they experience a lack of good options, said Lauren Harris, PhD, assistant professor at the University of New Hampshire, who studies romantic relationships and aging.

It’s not uncommon for either gender to decide they’re “not interested in negotiating and collaborating” with a partner any longer, said Pebble Kranz, MD, a sexual medicine specialist and medical director of the Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness in upstate New York. Older adults may prefer any number of relationships or pursuits; grandchildren, hobbies, and friends can all take priority over romance.

This is especially true for women. By the time they are single and in their 60s, “many women are done,” said Sharon Sassler, PhD, a sociologist and family demographer at Cornell University in Ithaca, NY. Having spent much of their life caregiving, either for children, parents, or a past spouse, many women aren’t looking to partner again.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

Mostly my dog finds them for me. She literally jumped into my last boyfriend’s lap at the park. I’m also really into jazz and blues and have met men at concerts/clubs. The most recent one I met at a baseball game.

So you go on your own to jazz clubs ? I thought it was only couples there . You must be living in a large urban center not dmv

I go on my own anywhere, wherever I am. Restaurants, ball games, the symphony, the opera, lectures, galleries, bars.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

Mostly my dog finds them for me. She literally jumped into my last boyfriend’s lap at the park. I’m also really into jazz and blues and have met men at concerts/clubs. The most recent one I met at a baseball game.

So you go on your own to jazz clubs ? I thought it was only couples there . You must be living in a large urban center not dmv

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

Mostly my dog finds them for me. She literally jumped into my last boyfriend’s lap at the park. I’m also really into jazz and blues and have met men at concerts/clubs. The most recent one I met at a baseball game.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

Where do you meet men organically? I am hit in RL all the time, but guys are either married or have same issues as online connections

I’m not divorced and I’m only 49, but I’m enjoying it. I mostly meet people organically, as opposed to on dating apps. I’ve most recently been on a few dates with a 57 year old, also never married with no kids. He’s charming, kind and surprisingly hot.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

I have a trust fund so would date a teacher. I’ve tried but don’t gel well with them. Men who mostly work with women have a different feel, hard to explain.

Please explain about dating male teachers

Well, there should be some lifestyle compatibility. Men who make way less than me become resentful after a few months

This. (I’m a different woman). I’m too attractive to be a sugar mama and too unwilling to curtail my own lifestyle,
So it’s a bad fit. Shame as I bet they have good hearts, being teachers and all.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. They are all broke and/or cheap for various reasons
2. Lots of mental illness, addiction, alcohol, codependency, recovery
3. Children who are “off”/dealbreakers
4. Any moneyed ones were divorced (maybe more than once) for important reasons they do not acknowledge
5. Even the good ones will require a major compromise or two.

Money, looks, good personality: pick two.

Lol so true. I gave up money because I make my own.

Guy here. Glad to hear this. I'd like to think I'm decent looking with a decent personality. But I'm a teacher.

I don't have money problems. I just don't casually make $400K like most people on here claim to.

I have a trust fund so would date a teacher. I’ve tried but don’t gel well with them. Men who mostly work with women have a different feel, hard to explain.

Please explain about dating male teachers

They lack ambition and I don’t want to talk about car line. It’s emasculating and it shrinks my lady bone*r.