Anonymous
Post 08/10/2024 09:26     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did at 45 with a man outside my marriage. I didnt want to. But it became quite clear to me that love is kind of this crazy cocktail of chemicals that makes you feel amazing and crazy and bonds you to someone. It’s not magic, it’s not even really real. My guess is that feeling is what you are talking about, OP. Which is different than the love I have for my DH (with whom I also had the crazy chemistry a lifetime ago) and different from the love I have for my kids which is just in my bones.


What happened?

It ended when he moved away. I entered therapy. Didn’t tell my spouse (I have a child and didn’t want to blow up our family). Have done some very hard work on myself and on my marriage so I won’t be in that position ever again.


I’m glad to hear you were able to work through it. I’ve been in a similar position and it is quite hard.

Wow, thank you. Usually when I share I get the onslaught of “you’re a POS”. Which is crazy because nobody makes me feel more like a POS than myself anyway. Life is messy and people f up. I think I would be more understanding if my DH messes up now too. I really think people are all just doing the best they can. I am terrified the walls will come down at some point and I will face the music, but it’s not like I’m letting myself off the hook. I am really putting myself through the wringer.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2024 06:39     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Yes. My DH and I were disgusting by all accounts. When you find that perfect own, it’s exhilarating at any age.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 23:16     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
I fell in love with my AP at age 45. Amazing sex and amazing other aspects as well. No regrets. Yes!
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 22:11     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
My friend did, I considered her smart but I am not sure anymore. The guy was definitely a dud and luckily he dumped her. I hope he doesn’t come back because sleazy ones like him often do.
So my theory is that it only happens to people who have some sort of vulnerability and it’s not love, it’s neurosis.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 22:04     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:Happens in romance novels all the time. Usually, he’s like a Scottish Highlander or something.


Yes, exactly.

Or a vampire, but in that case you need to move fast and not delay that first bite because otherwise you are only getting older each day, and you don't really have the luxury of time to see how things are going to go.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 22:00     Subject: Re:Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, absolutely .

My husband and I were 36 when we met and we were like 2 teenagers.

We got married within six months of meeting and have been married for 30 years and going strong

I just read this thread and saw somebody said yes if there's no heartbreak. Both my husband and I experienced heartbreak. And when we met, we knew what we wanted and we wanted each other.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 21:58     Subject: Re:Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Yes, absolutely .

My husband and I were 36 when we met and we were like 2 teenagers.

We got married within six months of meeting and have been married for 30 years and going strong
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 21:31     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hm. Maybe ?…but if you are 31 and no kids it doesn’t count. Like after divorce and kids is different than a never married 35 year old.

I think the realities of life make it harder. But it can happen.


I'm dating a 35 yr old man very very attractive. He was married before but he cheated on her. He says he never loved someone like he loves me. I've never been married and no kids.


Red flags #1 and #2. Good luck
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 21:03     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, very possible if both people have not let past heartbreaks close off their hearts.


+1 absolutely
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 20:45     Subject: Re:Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:I’m 38 and I can’t imagine falling in love like that ever again.

Why not? Do you really feel so different a person?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 17:22     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Yes, very possible if both people have not let past heartbreaks close off their hearts.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 13:56     Subject: Re:Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
I’m 38 and I can’t imagine falling in love like that ever again.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 13:39     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hm. Maybe ?…but if you are 31 and no kids it doesn’t count. Like after divorce and kids is different than a never married 35 year old.

I think the realities of life make it harder. But it can happen.


I'm dating a 35 yr old man very very attractive. He was married before but he cheated on her. He says he never loved someone like he loves me. I've never been married and no kids.

er.. who wants to tell her?


Eh. Not sure if there is any use…. She’s having fun, she is going to get burned, she is going to grow as a person and start over in 2-3 years (if lucky).

PP (the one dating the 35 year old cheater), just don’t get married or have kids with this person.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 12:59     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hm. Maybe ?…but if you are 31 and no kids it doesn’t count. Like after divorce and kids is different than a never married 35 year old.

I think the realities of life make it harder. But it can happen.


I'm dating a 35 yr old man very very attractive. He was married before but he cheated on her. He says he never loved someone like he loves me. I've never been married and no kids.

er.. who wants to tell her?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2024 12:26     Subject: Is it possible to fall madly in love in your 30s and beyond?
Of course. Dh was 33 and i was 30 when we mer and fell in love. So many butterflies, sweet moments, hot moments. Cant get enough of each other and stay in bed all weekend weeks.