Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 10:04     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
10:00 am pp here again. Also send them with lots of toys. The kids can learn to play together when grandparents can’t play with them.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 10:00     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Hi OP, I would let the kids go to your parents for like a week or 3 day stretches during the summer. Being with your parents is a great way for them to pick up a 2nd language since your parents don’t speak much English.

I speak a second language and it’s hard teaching my kids because I keep defaulting to English which is bad. So being with your parents is a great opportunity for them.

Learning a second language will actually help not impede their speech. Plus there are other cognitive benefits to learning a second language.

Also watching screens for 3 days is not the worst thing that can happen and kids will be fine. Just send them with a positive attitude and they will adjust.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:35     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
My kids go to grandparents down the street or one grandparent comes to us on day care snd school days off. But i am an immigrant, my us born kids speak my native language, dh learned to speak some too. Its free childcare but more than that, its a relationshp with their grandparents and my gift to my parents (all the effort and $ to teach my kids their heritage language) and its actually keeping my parents more energized and in better health as they know they need to keep up with the kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:27     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Both of my parents are retired, and they live 20 mins away. They speak really limited English, and my 2 kids do not understand or speak their languages. My kids do vacation & day camps as usual this summer. They have asked me why I don't send them to their home for the summer. The issue is that 1) they can't communicate with each other, 2) they let them on unlimited screentime, 3) they don't really take them out, except maybe driving them to a few places they only know. My parents do not really speak English, and they don't drive anywhere other than staying at their home. They don't know how to use gps.

They have done sleepover on long weekends at grandparent home a few times every year . My youngest daughter needs someone to play with and interact with her, and she feels bored normally at the end of first day because gransparents can't understand what she speaks. My oldest son is happy with screentime only. Their camps have a ton of activities. Next summer, should I let them to go there for one week/multiple weeks or just long weekends (3 days 2 night max)?


When you get FREE childcare you don't get to whine and complain.


May he they can afford to pay and like consistency and variety of cam's offerings.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:26     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Shame on you for not tracing your kids your mother tongue


Well, immigrants are often too busy to survive so less time to teach, also they want kids to be able to learn english and feel normal around others and do well in school. Its scary to leave a toddler in preschool if they can't communicate with the teachers and classmates. Also people already look down upon immigrants, if they don't know english, often labelled as slow or unsocial, never picked for gifted classes or leadership roles.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:22     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Both of my parents are retired, and they live 20 mins away. They speak really limited English, and my 2 kids do not understand or speak their languages. My kids do vacation & day camps as usual this summer. They have asked me why I don't send them to their home for the summer. The issue is that 1) they can't communicate with each other, 2) they let them on unlimited screentime, 3) they don't really take them out, except maybe driving them to a few places they only know. My parents do not really speak English, and they don't drive anywhere other than staying at their home. They don't know how to use gps.

They have done sleepover on long weekends at grandparent home a few times every year . My youngest daughter needs someone to play with and interact with her, and she feels bored normally at the end of first day because gransparents can't understand what she speaks. My oldest son is happy with screentime only. Their camps have a ton of activities. Next summer, should I let them to go there for one week/multiple weeks or just long weekends (3 days 2 night max)?


When you get FREE childcare you don't get to whine and complain.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:21     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Could you ask them to teach the kids their language? That would be worth $100,000s of dollars. Ask them to speak it to them and teach them how to write and read. Ask them to teach them how to cook. Tell them no screen time except in the native language. Ask them to tell stories or teach the culture’s art.

Then take your kids outside in the evening or early morning for exercise.


This^ and also gardening, sewing, knitting whatever skills they have, would be beneficial to watch and learn.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:18     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Great opportunity for children to learn native language and bond with loving adults other than parents. As long as your parents are able bodied and children will be safe with them, zero reasons to not give it a chance. Transfer some of their clothes, toys, sports things, books, snacks and activity sets there so kids feel at home there and grandparents have assortment of options to offer.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 15:12     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
I think a mix is fine. My parents watch my nephew several times a year, during breaks for one week at a time BUT because he is 5 and energetic, he goes to day camp the whole week he is there. It works out perfectly. As for the language, I think they will understand each other enough for basics after a little bit of time (I am ESL myself with non-English speaking parents) and even more so after regular exposure. Kids absorb language so fast. My kids speak my native language but not fluently, and after a couple weeks only their speech improves tremendously.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 09:13     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s too bad that they didn’t learn your native language. Most Americans only speak English and it’s harder to learn a language without being immersed in it.


Both my parents are immigrants and neither taught me their native language.


That’s called lazy and sad


Lol, well my mom is pretty lazy. She never cooked for us or cleaned-the maid and nanny did.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 08:42     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Americans are too stupid to learn a other language


Apparently the parents couldn't learn English.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 08:41     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s too bad that they didn’t learn your native language. Most Americans only speak English and it’s harder to learn a language without being immersed in it.


Both my parents are immigrants and neither taught me their native language.


That’s called lazy and sad


It's probably more common than you think. My neighbor is naturalized and speaks her native language with her parents, but her kids don't know the language at all.

Some people really embrace the idea of becoming an English speaking American.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 08:40     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s too bad that they didn’t learn your native language. Most Americans only speak English and it’s harder to learn a language without being immersed in it.


Both my parents are immigrants and neither taught me their native language.


That’s called lazy and sad


How many languages do you speak?
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 08:29     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
This is really sad that your kids didn’t learn the language. I feel bad for these grandparents!

But yes, we too don’t use grandparents for this reason. They don’t have the energy of a 20 something nanny to take care of kids all day.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 08:26     Subject: Retired grandparents for school off day cares, anyone?
Americans are too stupid to learn a other language