Your daughter’s gift is that she be a good guest…. polite, conversational, and participatory at the party. If the mom is doing the serving, etc., she should offer to help.

All of this will make the son and girlfriend look good to dad’s friends which will make him proud and happy, and that would be the best gift of all.

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Anonymous wrote:Or buy the guy a toolset (but again bring him just a card). People are suggesting gifts if you were invited to the BF’s grandma’s party.

This man already has tools.

A card is appropriate or something like a small box of candy. A card by itself is best. Absolutely no plant or flowers. Think of your husbands. Would they want these from a 15 year old girl? No, they would take the box of candy and later let the entire family eat it, which is fine.

As the "50 year old man" in this equation:

1. I have tools but lose them constantly...I don't need another toolset (though come to think of it, I do need one of those cheap micro-tool sets with teeny flat head and philips head screwdrivers), but I can never have too many;

2. Nobody is coming up and presenting me with gifts or a card...there is a table in the entryway and people put something there if they want when they walk in the door.

3. My kid's GF should not give any gift that is reasonably given on Valentine's Day...that includes flowers, candy, homemade cookies, etc. A cactus or other random plant doesn't necessarily meet this definition but is sufficiently strange and unwanted.

4. I don't expect her to give anything and if after the party is over and I am opening cards or gifts, it is fine to see a comical birthday card from her...but by no means would it even register if I received nothing

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Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

Another vote for homemade cookies. The BF should know his dad’s favorites and they’re likely something easy to pull off (chocolate chip, oatmeal or snickerdoodles/sugar).

Otherwise, go with just a funny card….or nothing.

Yeah I think this is creepy too—a teen girl baking an adult man’s favorite cookies. Yeah, no.

Seriously? She’s not baking an adult man cookies, she’s bringing a small thoughtful gift to her boyfriend’s dad. This isn’t about the dad, it’s about the boyfriend. I don’t know how people like the PP exist in society, you’re nuts.

Then she should bake cookies for the boyfriend, not for his dad.

OMG everyone stop with your need to be “polite.” This guy doesn’t want a card or gift from OP’s daughter. She’s there to keep the son company and any scenario where she arrives and seeks the dad out to deliver a gift or card is incredibly awkward. Like she’s going to walk out to the backyard and deliver a card to a group of 50 year old men? Then this poor guy has to open it, read it, and react. Or she’s going to throw a plant in his lap?

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Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

Another vote for homemade cookies. The BF should know his dad’s favorites and they’re likely something easy to pull off (chocolate chip, oatmeal or snickerdoodles/sugar).

Otherwise, go with just a funny card….or nothing.

Yeah I think this is creepy too—a teen girl baking an adult man’s favorite cookies. Yeah, no.

Seriously? She’s not baking an adult man cookies, she’s bringing a small thoughtful gift to her boyfriend’s dad. This isn’t about the dad, it’s about the boyfriend. I don’t know how people like the PP exist in society, you’re nuts.

Anonymous wrote:Or buy the guy a toolset (but again bring him just a card). People are suggesting gifts if you were invited to the BF’s grandma’s party.

This man already has tools.

A card is appropriate or something like a small box of candy. A card by itself is best. Absolutely no plant or flowers. Think of your husbands. Would they want these from a 15 year old girl? No, they would take the box of candy and later let the entire family eat it, which is fine.

Or buy the guy a toolset (but again bring him just a card). People are suggesting gifts if you were invited to the BF’s grandma’s party.

A simple, generic card or nothing at all. These ideas for flowers or cookies are ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

as long as they are "yummy"

Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

With a note that says “devour me like you will these cookies”?? Gross.

Nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

Another vote for homemade cookies. The BF should know his dad’s favorites and they’re likely something easy to pull off (chocolate chip, oatmeal or snickerdoodles/sugar).

Otherwise, go with just a funny card….or nothing.

Yeah I think this is creepy too—a teen girl baking an adult man’s favorite cookies. Yeah, no.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bring a gift. She is just joining to keep boyfriend company. The dad does not want a gift from his son’s 15 yr old girlfriend. Adult birthday parties don’t usually involve gifts at all. They are just parties to socialize and celebrate.

Exactly. The mom, maybe you get flowers. Dads want nothing from their son's girlfriend

Flowers for the party would always be appropriate.

No for a probably 50+ year old man? No it wouldn't. It's weird

Anonymous wrote:How about she makes some yummy homemade chocolate chip cookies and takes a small plate with her.

Another vote for homemade cookies. The BF should know his dad’s favorites and they’re likely something easy to pull off (chocolate chip, oatmeal or snickerdoodles/sugar).

Otherwise, go with just a funny card….or nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Do not bring a gift. She is just joining to keep boyfriend company. The dad does not want a gift from his son’s 15 yr old girlfriend. Adult birthday parties don’t usually involve gifts at all. They are just parties to socialize and celebrate.

Exactly. The mom, maybe you get flowers. Dads want nothing from their son's girlfriend

Flowers for the party would always be appropriate.

Flowers are boring

cookies are a good idea if she must