Anonymous wrote:Stay as far away from the pools as possible

There is a recent article in Slate about pool safety and it should be required reading every summer. I have kids who are 5,3, and 1 and I think I’m reasonably well versed on this topic and I learned a lot.

https://slate.com/technology/2024/06/child-drowning-pool-swimming-safety.html

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Anonymous wrote:The pool is irrelevant if there are 4 fences. Will the kids be kept awake by noise from the big house? Will everyone be shushed because toddlers are sleeping? If so, toddlers go to apartments.

I think if our choices are between all socializing together and having to be a little hushed, and having 2 adults have to miss on all socializing after 7 p.m. since they need to stay with the sleeping toddlers, everyone would pick the former.

No everyone doesn’t pick that. Bring a monitor.

I am part of the “everyone”, not the parent of either toddler. I don’t see how monitors helps if the toddlers are asleep in a entirely different building.

You don’t know how monitors work?

I said the choices were having the toddlers in the house, which means everyone can gather there to on socialize after they are asleep, or having the toddlers sleep in apartments a few blocks away, which would mean that someone needs to stay with them once they are asleep.

I get how a monitor works, but I don’t see how it would solve this problem.

You didn't actually explain that the accommodations weren't all on the same property. That would have been very helpful.

That's a bizarre assumption to make. Do you have multiple apartments on the same property as your single family house? I've never even seen that arrangement.

NP but that’s common at the Jersey shore. Big main house, smaller back house, sometimes over the garage, often with apartments. Pool in the middle.

Our friends house in Lewes is like this too.

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Anonymous wrote:The pool is irrelevant if there are 4 fences. Will the kids be kept awake by noise from the big house? Will everyone be shushed because toddlers are sleeping? If so, toddlers go to apartments.

I think if our choices are between all socializing together and having to be a little hushed, and having 2 adults have to miss on all socializing after 7 p.m. since they need to stay with the sleeping toddlers, everyone would pick the former.

No everyone doesn’t pick that. Bring a monitor.

I am part of the “everyone”, not the parent of either toddler. I don’t see how monitors helps if the toddlers are asleep in a entirely different building.

You don’t know how monitors work?

I said the choices were having the toddlers in the house, which means everyone can gather there to on socialize after they are asleep, or having the toddlers sleep in apartments a few blocks away, which would mean that someone needs to stay with them once they are asleep.

I get how a monitor works, but I don’t see how it would solve this problem.

You didn't actually explain that the accommodations weren't all on the same property. That would have been very helpful.

That's a bizarre assumption to make. Do you have multiple apartments on the same property as your single family house? I've never even seen that arrangement.

NP but that’s common at the Jersey shore. Big main house, smaller back house, sometimes over the garage, often with apartments. Pool in the middle.

Definitely put the toddlers in the main house not the apartments several blocks away. That way the parents can socialize with others even when toddlers are sleeping since they will be in the same house. Otherwise one of the parents has to be away with the toddlers and it is a pain to move toddlers from place to place versus just going downstairs.

Shocking suggestion here… why not ask the parents of the toddlers where they would prefer to be? I have a 4 year old and would love for socializing to be over at 7:30, so I can have some down time and a good night’s sleep. Unlike you, they’ll be up at 7 am entertaining toddlers.

I would make the parents of the toddlers choose. Let me decide what their risk tolerance is.

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Anonymous wrote:The pool is irrelevant if there are 4 fences. Will the kids be kept awake by noise from the big house? Will everyone be shushed because toddlers are sleeping? If so, toddlers go to apartments.

I think if our choices are between all socializing together and having to be a little hushed, and having 2 adults have to miss on all socializing after 7 p.m. since they need to stay with the sleeping toddlers, everyone would pick the former.

No everyone doesn’t pick that. Bring a monitor.

I am part of the “everyone”, not the parent of either toddler. I don’t see how monitors helps if the toddlers are asleep in a entirely different building.

You don’t know how monitors work?

I said the choices were having the toddlers in the house, which means everyone can gather there to on socialize after they are asleep, or having the toddlers sleep in apartments a few blocks away, which would mean that someone needs to stay with them once they are asleep.

I get how a monitor works, but I don’t see how it would solve this problem.

You didn't actually explain that the accommodations weren't all on the same property. That would have been very helpful.

That's a bizarre assumption to make. Do you have multiple apartments on the same property as your single family house? I've never even seen that arrangement.

Look, you're been an argumentative ass when you're the one asking for help. I have definitely rented accommodations at the beach that had a main house and guest house on the same property. I hope your vacation sucks at this point. Enjoy light out at 7pm.

100% agree. OP you’re an a$$hole. You don’t ask for advice then be an ahole to people who respond.

Basically, the situation is 4 siblings, 2 with a toddler each, and 2 with older kids. The house is big enough for 2 families, and the other two families will take the apartment. If we didn’t have the safety question then the obvious choice seems to be to put the two youngest kids at the house, because coming and going will be easier, and then one person can supervise two kids napping etc. . .

That’s a little oversimplified, but really the only thing that is making me hesitate is the safety question.