Anonymous wrote:Honestly, a parent willing to take all those people to the beach is not planning to supervise much if at all. You can tell by the number of kids the parent is allowing to go. I'd frankly be more worried about riptides and drownings.

yep, my #1 fear would be boys rough housing and an accidental drowning

If there are life guards they will be yelled at to knock it off. Would not bet my kid's life on supervision by a stranger permissive parent

It would be reasonable to expect to know who's coming before giving an answer. I think especially, if there's no firm plan, that would should like a lot less supervision. If getting an answer to that question is too hard, I think you have your answer. Mine would be no. This has little to do with the actual teens. More to do with some structure, planning the family has done ahead of time, and taking their role as adults seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:How many friends?

OP here. It seems like each kid is inviting about 4 friends. So 8 in total. But DD also said there might be cousins. Not sure about that one. Basically a lot of kids!!!

Ack. I was also prepared to say yes but that's a lot of kids. I would definitely reach out to the parents and get some specifics before agreeing to anything.

Don't bother. People lie and minimize.

If you want her to lose her virginity and/or binge drink and/or smoke pot, say yes! If no, pick her up at 10pm.

Are there lifeguards? I'd be worried about horse play and a drowning accident.

No, not without lots of supervision.

What do you think is going to happen?

Sounds like the beginning of a Teen Mom Episode.

No way. I’d offer to drive my teen to visit them at beach for a day, but that’s it.

Anonymous wrote:There's something creepy about the family even thinking this is okay, IMHO. Yes, parents of our daugther's 14 year old friends, do let them come away with us and a bunch of teenaged boys a few years older! It's cool! Come on, be cool!

Yeah it's a no from me dog.

That’s their son and his friends that they know really well. So to them it’s not creepy. I’m sure the daughter regularly hangs out at the friends house when these same kids are over. If anything a beach trip will be even less interaction in my experience as they will be off doing their own thing.

I feel like a lot of these responses are from parents where the 14 yo girl is the oldest. When it’s your youngest you usually have a more loose perspective because that older boy is your son….lol

It’s okay to not allow it, that’s why you get a choice ?

Yes- I would probably aplow this.

How old is this brother and his friends?
I don’t see 16/17 yo being super interested in some 8th graders.

I have kids with this same age differential and there isn’t a lot of cross interest between them when with their friends. Only when my older one is without her friends does she even deign to engage with her little sister and sisters friends.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, a parent willing to take all those people to the beach is not planning to supervise much if at all. You can tell by the number of kids the parent is allowing to go. I'd frankly be more worried about riptides and drownings.

Drownings?!?

They are teens. Do you supervise them at all times?!?!

sounds like a recipe for disaster honestly, if it was one or two friends maybe but not four each sibling and mixed.

Yes of course I would and as a mom I invited 3 friends each for both of my teens and they never hung out lol

You are all so paranoid and overthinking

Absolutely not and I wouldn't care if she's upset.

Nope

The kind of parent who would plan this is probably not a parent with very good judgment

Lots of potential risks. Would be a hard no from me.