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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. Sounds stressful. I am struggling to figure out how you’re obese if that truly is your lifestyle. Were you obese as a kid?

Your confusion indicates that you are in the habit of “blaming” overweight people for their weight.

We all have different metabolisms and lives. (Your childhood exposures are very much related to adult weight, as are experiences like sexual abuse.)

Try hard to practice compassion instead of judgement.

But then OP answered honestly. (which many many obese people do not). He's eating the right things but too much. Ozempic sounds perfect for him *if* he can tolerate the side effects. Good luck OP-
You keep that body going for your wife and kids, and you obviously have a great mind--I had to look up the 'sword of Damocles'!

How do you know what percentage of people with obesity are liars about their food consumption? Eff you. Why would I lie? I'm trying to help myself, get healthier. I have zero incentive to lie to a doctor. Yet every single doctor I have had has assumed that I am lying.

My last straw with a doctor was a few years ago when I lost 70 pounds with intermittent and the extended fasting (fasting 3-5 days at a time). I shared with her my concern that I might be losing too much muscle mass and worries that I may be developing a binge eating problem, as I would sometimes binge wildly just before starting a fast.

She said, "frankly, I don't care to know the details of what you are doing. It's working. Keep doing it. You've never looked this good."

Like her, so many doctors didn't care that they only way I could lose weight was either with speed or by developing an eating disorder. They didn't ever believe the truth I told them about my food consumption. They didn't actually care about whether I was healthy. They just wanted me to be not fat.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. Sounds stressful. I am struggling to figure out how you’re obese if that truly is your lifestyle. Were you obese as a kid?

Your confusion indicates that you are in the habit of “blaming” overweight people for their weight.

We all have different metabolisms and lives. [b](Your childhood exposures are very much related to adult weight, as are experiences like sexual abuse.)[b]

Try hard to practice compassion instead of judgement.

Thank you so much for this. NP here. FWIW, my best friend and I kept strict food logs when we were in 9th grade. I was chubby; she was thin. She ate WAY more calories than I did. At least 800-1000 more a day on average. We started logging our food because she just couldn't understand why it was so easy for her to stay skinny when she always, always ate more than me when we were together. And I'd be agonizing about whether to have a single scoop of ice cream while she could have a 3-scoop sundae and still see her ribs.

This was in the 1980's when every ignoramus insisted that metabolism was simply a calories in-calories out mathematical formula, and that people blaming hormones and metabolism were just making excuses.

Now I understand and forgive myself so much more. My brother was sexually abusing me, our next door neighbor regularly exposed himself and peeped in my window, and my parents were both alcoholics. My system was FLOODED with cortisol. I wasn't overeating. My body was trying to survive.

Empathy like yours is much appreciated.

Lift heavy weights like you're having a midlife crisis and going to start competing in bodybuilding

Up your life insurance

Sleep study

Anonymous wrote:Sugarbusters (book) will help show you the replace a white baked potato with a sweet potato sugar differences. No corn, no carrots, no white rice, no white bread, no white pasta, no white baked potato. Etc.
My husband changed his ## within diet (no beer, etc).

You are very good to be proactive. Add in yoga or meditation to lower cortisol ##s too
Good luck!!

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Carrots are not good for us now?