Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:43     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing

YTAH.

Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:43     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:YTA.

She's an employee, not a slave.


I would have said yes if my nanny had handled it differently. Ask, promise to help find coverage. Not just make an announcement when you know you are needed most.

Why is it her responsibility to find coverage? She is owed vacation time. She is allowed to take vacation time. What you do while she's on vacation is YOUR problem.

Jesus, people think because they pay someone else they are entitled to 100% of their time, energy and life. Get over yourself.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:43     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
You're asking an employer to give you MORE THAN TWO MONTHS NOTICE?

You are incredibly entitled, OP. And wrong. It's not her problem you're opening an office in August. As soon as you knew that, maybe you should have locked her in for those dates.

I can't believe you're mad at her instead of being mad at yourself. Or maybe you're transfering your anger.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:41     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:YTA.

She's an employee, not a slave.


I would have said yes if my nanny had handled it differently. Ask, promise to help find coverage. Not just make an announcement when you know you are needed most.


It’s not her job to find coverage.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:39     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:YTA.

She's an employee, not a slave.


I would have said yes if my nanny had handled it differently. Ask, promise to help find coverage. Not just make an announcement when you know you are needed most.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:37     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Correct she had no idea- I just think she should have run it by us “hey I’m planning to be gone for two weeks in August.” I mean she knows we need her most for the summer when kids home.
Any time but summer would be easy but now one of us have to take vacation pretty much to cover her being gone. Tough in start of summer to find a fill in nanny.
Plus has she told me earlier in March /April- I could have found camps for those weeks- now the local camps are full- we’ve tried about 4 different camps. And he’s gone three weeks in July in camps- so we could have coordinated. I’m still pissed but trying to not be mad- as she has right to vacation.
But it’s like being a CPA and planning girls trip first 2 weeks of April— really!!


Boo hoo
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:36     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:She gave you two months notice.


This. I would fire her, and she's obviously not happy with you either.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:35     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She did run it by you. Two months in advance. That seems reasonable to me.


+1
She’s giving you ample notice.


I don’t think 2 months off is reasonable in this situation. She’s knows kids are home from school. She knows camps are are to get into and she waits until now to say something?

It is unnecessary logistical headache. She probably just planned I assume - it in that case she should have explained and offered to find camps with availability to help out. Not just dump it on the family. This is literally her job - to provide child care and she is leaving without much notice.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 15:28     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Fire her. Problem solved.


+1. If you need her those weeks, and she won't change her plans--find a new nanny.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 14:54     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:I disagree that its reasonable. She planned to be gone for 2 weeks coincidentally with the time of year her workload as a nanny is highest-summer school break? Girls trips can happen any time of year. She did it on purpose to get out of working.


Yes...it's normal for people to take a vacation to get out of working. The whole point of a vacation is to not be at work. What a silly thing to say.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 13:11     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:I think this is a communication issue. She's worked for your family for years and you presume she knows the family's needs, i.e., summer time coverage. From her end she thinks she's giving you plenty of notice with 2 months to go.

This is obviously eating at you. And I would be similarly annoyed since she's not asking for the time off; she's counting on it. I'd have a conversation about it, and point out the disconnect. If you think you want to keep her in the future, make it explicit about no vacation time during the kids' breaks, or that they need prior approval before she books anything.


Even if she knows this is a rough time for them, she's still entitled to use her vacation. Especially if it's a one time thing - am I gonna leave work every year during busy season? No. But for the big college girlfriends group trip that happens once every 5ish years? Yes, I'm going to leave work during busy season since that's an easier time for 95% of the rest of the group to get together.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 12:40     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
How often does she take off? Where is the kids other parent? She gave you two months notice. Reality is you'd complain if she took a day off regardless of when it is. You take vacations, so can she. You can find a back up.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 12:35     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Post on your list serv or local next door and get a college student for those two weeks.


A lot of colleges start up in mid August or earlier. My college freshman will be headed to his school around August 13 (possibly a few days earlier, they haven't released the move in schedule yet.)
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 12:03     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
you are ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2024 12:00     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
It depends. I just took a girls trip and it was a bad time for me as well, but am I going to miss my best friend of 30 years' bachelorette? nope. I flew in grandparents for help, DH took off time from work and no one on my work team took annual leave during this time so that we could get it all done at work too.

I don't understand people who travel in August. It's hot AF everywhere and pretty miserable.