Anonymous wrote:Earlier in the series she looks at Stanford’s grandmothers family photos and muses about having a family of her own. Then she falls in love with Big and he rules out a relationship let alone a family. She spends the next several years of her thirties chasing him and breaking up with Aiden.

At 38 when she meets the Russian she seems a bit sad that children are not on the horizon for him either.

At the end of the series she ends up with Big in her late thirties and when we see her in her 40smon the movies it’s apparent they are child free.

Did Carries lifestyle and choices just let that option be…no more?

That was literally the point of that disgusting show, to get American women to delay having children to be promiscuous worker-bee consumers paying rent living in the Big City. Tens of millions of millennial and gen X women were bamboozled, either waiting too long for kids or waiting too long to settle down with a spouse. Then they wake up at 35 or 40 years old and discover they're infertile or had to settle with a schmuck. Many such cases.

Just think about the scene in the reboot where she’s having a hissy fit while painting in her high heels. Can you imagine that person as a mother?

Carrie Bradshaw is one of the most insufferable characters on a show and a terrible representation of a single woman. I cannot imagine her being a mother, super selfish, self-absorbed, and victim mentality.

I think she answered the question herself when she was talking to Charlotte about Aleksander’s vasectomy. She pointed out that if she had really wanted kids she would have made it happen. She really wanted to live in NYC and be a writer so she made that happen. She chose to go to Paris with him, knowing that children weren’t an option with him. It sounded like she was ambivalent, like a lot of women.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody “misses out on babies” anymore than I missed out on not getting to be childless.

Wow, you are an AH poster.

There are millions of childless people who didn’t choose it.

I didn't choose it. I wanted children so desperately that I gave up looking for a partner in my mid thirties and focused on becoming a mother. Ten years of IVF, a surrogate, and most of my life savings later, I'm alright. It's a loss, certainly, but there are a lot of things I grieve in life. It's attitudes like the OP's more than anything that make childlesslessness so hard for women. Feeling like an outcast or a failure, like you're totally alone or don't belong anywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:The happiest people are single women with no kids.

Only until they end up old and essentially alone.

Old single women without children are the ones surveyed.
The statistics that say that the happiest people are single women without children aren't taking into account the views of single childless women under 40. It's an entirely different demographic.

How many single childless women in the 48-75 range do you actually know?
Sure, many of them are miserable, just like in any group, but the majority are quite content, especially if they're not worried about money. They have friends, pets, sometimes boyfriends, and they're probably the busiest of any group when it comes to travel and activities. And they include women who both could not have children and decided not to.

And the more women remain single and childless, the less alone they'll be as they age.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody “misses out on babies” anymore than I missed out on not getting to be childless.

Wow, you are an AH poster.

There are millions of childless people who didn’t choose it.

And there are millions of mothers who didn’t choose it either… not to mention the mothers who did choose it and found it much harder and more compromising than they could have imagined.

The point is, having kids or not both have significant benefits and significant disadvantages that are mutually exclusive. It’s not like having a child is the same as going on a safari or winning the lottery. Being a parent is much more than “having babies.” Like, I didn’t “miss out on becoming a surgeon” because I didn’t go to medical school … I chose a career that is much less demanding.

“Missing out on having babies” is just a puerile and simplistic way to put it. A baby is not a prize you win.

People who are fixating on the "babies" aspect of having children should consider an adorable tiny dog first. I'm not kidding. They are adorable, and they remain adorable. They need you, they love you, you can pick them up and cuddle them, you can spoil them with cute things, you can take pictures of them in things, on things, alone, with you, whatever you want. Do that for five years and if you still want to raise a child into a happy, functioning adult, then go for it.
SO many people just want the parts of having children that I listed above. And you can tell who those people are because they never refer to having children, or having a family, they just say "babies" a lot.

Maybe Carrie would have had a baby if Candace Bushnell had had one.

I re-watched the whole series recently. I loved it at the time and some of it still had me bellowing. The characters were self-effacing. But I remember identifying with how it felt to be single. Now it seems a bit cringy. And it made me happen that I am no longer single. I had hoped to continue with their journey but I found And Just Like That pretty unwatchable.

Anonymous wrote:The happiest people are single women with no kids.

Only until they end up old and essentially alone.

It's not a show about young mothers in NYC.

Parenthood for the main character was off the table, unless the series ended early, in which case they could have ended it with marriage or parenthood.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody “misses out on babies” anymore than I missed out on not getting to be childless.

Wow, you are an AH poster.

There are millions of childless people who didn’t choose it.

And there are millions of mothers who didn’t choose it either… not to mention the mothers who did choose it and found it much harder and more compromising than they could have imagined.

The point is, having kids or not both have significant benefits and significant disadvantages that are mutually exclusive. It’s not like having a child is the same as going on a safari or winning the lottery. Being a parent is much more than “having babies.” Like, I didn’t “miss out on becoming a surgeon” because I didn’t go to medical school … I chose a career that is much less demanding.

“Missing out on having babies” is just a puerile and simplistic way to put it. A baby is not a prize you win.

Anonymous wrote:Big reminds me of Trump. Gross. Wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole.

Agree hated him them hate him now . Pompous fool

Anonymous wrote:Nobody “misses out on babies” anymore than I missed out on not getting to be childless.

Wow, you are an AH poster.

There are millions of childless people who didn’t choose it.

Anonymous wrote:The happiest people are single women with no kids.

Or loneliest, depending on the person. We are all different, you know.

Go rewatch the series as an adult and you’ll notice all kinds of things—including a couple episodes where she literally says she wants babies/a family. In one of those episodes, Miranda says she bets she will have 5 kids.

Yes, it’s weird because those season 1 episodes are a big departure from where the characters evolve and ultimately land.

I’m rewatching now, and wowza was Carrie immature and “extra.” I can totally understand why Big was ambivalent. And Miranda was an arrogant, negative jerk. Steve softened her and helped her grow. He was a saint; she was an a-hole.

Samantha and Charlotte didn’t evolve much. It was interesting to see the early episodes that reference Samantha being dumped by the love of her life and taking a year to get over him. And Charlotte as a groupie and hanging with the lesbians were episodes departing from what her rigidly wholesome character quickly became.

Anyway, yes, season 1 Carrie wanted a family. As the series and character evolved, it became clear she was way too selfish and immature to be a mother—or seriously want to be one. I doubt there’s another tv character more self-absorbed than Carrie.