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Anonymous wrote:Start teaching your kid life skills now before they go to college.

I made my kids call offices, stores, etc.. to ask the question they wanted me to ask. I made them write emails to xyz asking for whatever they needed to know; I proof read it. They didn't want to do it, but I made them.

Teach your kid to advocate for themself now. You are doing a disservice to them if you don't do this now.

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Can't agree more. On my own as a kid from a single mother addict home since age 17. Very quickly discerned there was no safety net for a poor kid. Having said this, the freedom I had was tremendously exciting and I had no one to please but me. I had less anxiety than kids with hovering parents. My kids were very well taken care of and went to great schools all paid for but were responsible as they did ask themselves what if I had to do it on my own?

Anonymous wrote:My dd does well in school but is constantly asking for guidance with everything like how to write an email and what to say on the phone and things of that nature. She does OK socially but she’s not the most adept. Do you think she would do better at a school where she could be quite successful and gain some confidence or a school where she will be around higher achieving people?

They all grow out of it. Don't worry.

Is this learned helplessness?

Sounds like she has an anxiety disorder which needs to be dealt with via therapy, medication, mindfulness, or meditation, etc., now before she goes away

UMiami

Anonymous wrote:Community college. You need to teach her those things now.

+1. guaranteed admission program

Anonymous wrote:My dd does well in school but is constantly asking for guidance with everything like how to write an email and what to say on the phone and things of that nature. She does OK socially but she’s not the most adept. Do you think she would do better at a school where she could be quite successful and gain some confidence or a school where she will be around higher achieving people?

My kid was like that and she was forced to learn how to do all of these things at a big OOS public. She would call to ask for advice early on but we were able to wean her away from that and she’s 100% (perhaps 99% lol) self sufficient. It’s been very gratifying to observe.

Similar kid. Does great at Notre Dame.

Community college. You need to teach her those things now.

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to always ask Google first before she asks someone else.

Stupid suggestion

Smaller Liberal Arts College would work best. (And I really hope DC does not want to study engineering.)

If DC can stand the cold and has good grades, then look into St Olaf College which is in Minnesota.

Anonymous wrote:My dd does well in school but is constantly asking for guidance with everything like how to write an email and what to say on the phone and things of that nature. She does OK socially but she’s not the most adept. Do you think she would do better at a school where she could be quite successful and gain some confidence or a school where she will be around higher achieving people?

Join the military; they will guide her every move.