Give what feels right to you but I honestly don’t think an invitation should be a factor. I’ve give wedding gifts and baby gift many times when I wasn’t invited to the wedding or shower because I was happy for the people.

A card

My guess is that you'll lose contact altogether eventually. I don't think he'll expect any gift at all, but a card is always nice.
I might plan to send $50-$100, but TBH, I'd probably forget to in reality.

Why do you think they’ll send an announcement? DH and I married in our mid and late thirties, very established financially, just did an email when we got engaged, basically eloped but we had never entertained the idea of a wedding, sent an email that we were married and certainly never expected or wanted gifts from anyone.

Our marriage was basically about us not you. We didn’t want to deal with all the wedding nonsense on top of long work hours. We didn’t need or want any gifts and I certainly didn’t want to be under the gun to write a bunch of thank you notes for crap I didn’t want. We didn’t want to waste our time off hosting aunt blah blah, or skipping meetings to work with annoying wedding planners.

People are so petty and transactional. If you want to send a gift do it.

If you are not bc your nose is out of joint at the no invite, then don’t. If that’s the only reason, yeah, you’re petty and vindictive. But whatever. That’s your right. Though I can kind of see why you weren’t invited.

Anonymous wrote:Why would someone send an announcement but not a wedding invite? Did I miss something?

You send announcements to people you think would want to know you got married.

You send invitations to people you want to attend the ceremony.

Recipients of either are free to send or not send a present as they see fit, but it's more likely that you'll send one if you're close enough to the couple to get an invitation.

As a general rule, if you're surprised to learn someone is getting married, you're not close enough to send a present. But there are always exceptions.

Just fyi she is his fiancée not fiancé. He is her fiance.

Why would someone send an announcement but not a wedding invite? Did I miss something?