Anonymous wrote:I couldn't stand other people talking about my pregnancy, so I really hated telling. I had to tell at 20 weeks because it became obvious. As soon as you tell you get people asking if you're throwing up, how you're feeling nonstop, commenting on your weight and telling you bad birth stories. We didn't find out the sex and then people wouldn't stop commenting on that too. I just really tried to avoid everyone until the baby was born. I loved being pregnant though and loved feeling the baby grow.

Same with me. I hate attention for most reasons but especially having anything to do with my body, so pregnancy was extremely annoying and I tried to limit the amount of time I had to discuss it with anyone. I shared with family and friends post anatomy scan starting around 22 weeks and would have gone longer if I could have but was staying to look pretty obvious by then.

I'm someone who decided to share my pregnancy news pretty early on, around 8 weeks. It took me years to finally get pregnant, and I ended up having success through IVF. I was just so excited and announcing early made me feel empowered after struggling with infertility for so long. I knew there were risks in sharing the news so soon, but I wanted to celebrate the little life growing inside me for as long as possible, despite those risks. Pregnancy can be so unpredictable, so I wanted to savor every moment. Thankfully, my daughter was born without any complications. If something had gone wrong, I think it would have been comforting to have others to lean on, but everyone handles things differently. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to do it.

I didn’t even tell my mom until the second trimester, but people are free to share whatever and whenever they want.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s like everyone forgot the saying, don’t count your chickens before they hatch.

Or they realize that lots and lots of eggs don’t hatch and keeping it a secret isn’t a requirement anymore.

I will say as well even someone who “follows the rules” and waits to 12 weeks, 16 weeks, 40 weeks could still have something tragic to announce at 13, 17, or 41 weeks.

Exactly. My friend lost her healthy baby during active labor at 41 weeks in the hospital. Nothing is guaranteed.

This is my take as well. I refuse to follow arbitrary rules about when to announce. I havent told my job yet but my friends and family know. Family and close friends knew by 7 weeks. Pretty much everyone in our orbit knew by 12. My husband worried about telling our son in case we lost the baby or had to terminate due to genetic results but my son knew something was wrong with me starting at 5/6 weeks because of daily vomiting and my energy levels. So we told him. I would rather him know I was pregnant than have him think I am sick/something is wrong with me.

I couldn't stand other people talking about my pregnancy, so I really hated telling. I had to tell at 20 weeks because it became obvious. As soon as you tell you get people asking if you're throwing up, how you're feeling nonstop, commenting on your weight and telling you bad birth stories. We didn't find out the sex and then people wouldn't stop commenting on that too. I just really tried to avoid everyone until the baby was born. I loved being pregnant though and loved feeling the baby grow.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s like everyone forgot the saying, don’t count your chickens before they hatch.

Or they realize that lots and lots of eggs don’t hatch and keeping it a secret isn’t a requirement anymore.

I will say as well even someone who “follows the rules” and waits to 12 weeks, 16 weeks, 40 weeks could still have something tragic to announce at 13, 17, or 41 weeks.

Absolutely, I've lost 15 weeks. So I have no intention of telling family until 20 weeks and everyone else has no need to know at all.