You should totally send the parents a note asking to be reimbursed.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bat an eyelash about a text asking for reimbursement in this situation.

Me neither. I would happily pay/reimburse and not judge the person asking.

"I can lend you girls the money to cover this, if you text your parents that they are ok with you doing this and paying me back."

I wouldn't be comfortable asking for reimbursement without confirming that first, who knows if these girls even told their parents they were doing a paid activity?

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you need to eat that.

+1. Lesson learned.

This. You could have said sorry girls, we will do it another day when you have cash.

If I were the parent of one of the "moochers", I would not have a problem with either my daughter's friend or parent reaching out for payment.

I would be happy to pay.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not ask your kid to have her friends pay her back rather than you asking?

+1. Your DD owes you the money, she should collect.

+2 -- DD needs to bug her friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not ask your kid to have her friends pay her back rather than you asking?

+1. Your DD owes you the money, she should collect.

+1 Your DD can ask her friends for cash or tell them to have their parents Venmo you. It's far less awkward than you collecting

Anonymous wrote:Why not ask your kid to have her friends pay her back rather than you asking?

+1. Your DD owes you the money, she should collect.

I think your DD and her friends- as a group- are not old enough/mature enough to make plans without adult involvement (which should not be the case at this age but 13 can be a gray area I suppose).

Next time there are plans, I’d insist that you have parents’ info to check in and send a text “hi, sounds like the girls have made plans to attend xyz tomorrow. Just confirming that I will be picking them up from school and dropping them off at xyz. Cost will be $30 per kid so each should bring $30 cash. If anything changes, please let me know, and I will do the same. Tx”

It sounds to me that these girls- for a number of reasonsA still need some adult hand holding/communication regarding plans for awhile IMHO.

I agree I want to know how this happened because I’d blame your kid for assuming you will cover the costs.

Time to talk to DD.

My guess is those other children did not ask their parents for money.

Your kid is a liar

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bat an eyelash about a text asking for reimbursement in this situation.

I would not either. At this age, the parents don’t even know they needed money so you won’t get any goodwill for having paid.

I would ask once and not follow up. Also, I would tell my daughter that’s not ok and you won’t do the activity next time.

This is on your DD- at 13, she is old enough to make sure the plans are clear to all, and ensure that her friends have brought $. They would’ve discussed this for sure.

She should be one to collect the $- her friends owe her $30. And then she owes that to you.

Realistically, I wouldn’t expect to be getting my $ back of course. Unless it is a financial hardship I’d let it go and use it as a lesson for next time- next time make things clear upfront.

You could have your kid do it but don't ask yourself. That is terribly awkward.

Chalk it up to the cost of having kids. It will come back around to you for sure (someone will pay for your kid in some way, shape or form--having them over for dinner, paying for a movie, even feeding them snacks... it's all money that others spend on your kid).

You need to have a conversation with your child about how she communicated about the cost with her friends. If she swears she had the conversation, she can ask the friends to pay her. If the friends don't pay, your DD should pay.

What activity costs $30?