Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 16:48     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
All of this “anchor baby” stuff reveals how wretched some of you are. Not that it was a secret.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 16:09     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Offer to adopt the baby.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:35     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that our agency has au pairs sign a contract that ends their participation in the program if they get pregnant. They are expected to return home immediately if they become pregnant.

My understanding is that the au pair agency doesn't want responsibility if there are pregnancy complications or bed rest. Au pairs have to leave the country if they can no longer perform their au pair duties (i.e., childcare) and the same complications that would stop them from working could also stop them from safely flying home. So if they had serious pregnancy complications, they would be in a foreign country with little to no support network, no financial means to fund US bed rest or a hospital stay, no place to live, and no visa. And overstaying their visa is a big no no. It's just a bad situation.

If an au pair does have the support of an American father, there are other visa options, but those are outside of the scope of the au pair program.


That seems pretty illegal.


NP here and I think it’s because they’re not here on work visas, they’re here under the “Exchange Visitor Program” which gas different rights. It might still be illegal but they’re also not a typical worker.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:27     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:It is 2024. Decent human beings do not consider firing women because they are pregnant.

Au pairs come via their agency to the US on a specific visa to do a specific job. This is a question for the agency. She will probably be sent home before the baby is scheduled to be born.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:26     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
my former nanny is on medicaid in virginia. FYI

anyway I'm open to a good troll thread if they keep it going but this troll is not feeding us back. Sad.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:24     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:Why would a Host Family want to be responsible for a pregnant au pair? Send her packing. No excuse for getting pregnant and no excuse for not terminating as abortion is still an option in the Metropolitan area.


No excuse? Good grief.
What a ridiculously harsh perspective on someone you've never met.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:22     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anchor baby.

Is your husband diddling her?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:22     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would a Host Family want to be responsible for a pregnant au pair? Send her packing. No excuse for getting pregnant and no excuse for not terminating as abortion is still an option in the Metropolitan area.


Yes wage slave, you must abort and get back to work, you wretch!


They probably don't want their husband paying child support to an au pair
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:20     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:Why would a Host Family want to be responsible for a pregnant au pair? Send her packing. No excuse for getting pregnant and no excuse for not terminating as abortion is still an option in the Metropolitan area.


Yes wage slave, you must abort and get back to work, you wretch!
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:19     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that our agency has au pairs sign a contract that ends their participation in the program if they get pregnant. They are expected to return home immediately if they become pregnant.

My understanding is that the au pair agency doesn't want responsibility if there are pregnancy complications or bed rest. Au pairs have to leave the country if they can no longer perform their au pair duties (i.e., childcare) and the same complications that would stop them from working could also stop them from safely flying home. So if they had serious pregnancy complications, they would be in a foreign country with little to no support network, no financial means to fund US bed rest or a hospital stay, no place to live, and no visa. And overstaying their visa is a big no no. It's just a bad situation.

If an au pair does have the support of an American father, there are other visa options, but those are outside of the scope of the au pair program.


That seems pretty illegal.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 15:14     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:Our au pair has recently found out she is pregnant. She wishes to carry the baby to term and would like to stay in the au pair program if possible. Does anyone know the rules regarding pregnancy during the au pair program? We can't find any clear stipulations in her contract or the State Department website.


Post in the Nanny forum
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 14:51     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Why would a Host Family want to be responsible for a pregnant au pair? Send her packing. No excuse for getting pregnant and no excuse for not terminating as abortion is still an option in the Metropolitan area.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2024 12:37     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Pregnancy is explicitly called out in their aupair contract as a reason for them to be let go from the aupair program. She knows this. She isn't stupid.

Anonymous
Post 05/15/2024 10:49     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:My understanding is that our agency has au pairs sign a contract that ends their participation in the program if they get pregnant. They are expected to return home immediately if they become pregnant.

My understanding is that the au pair agency doesn't want responsibility if there are pregnancy complications or bed rest. Au pairs have to leave the country if they can no longer perform their au pair duties (i.e., childcare) and the same complications that would stop them from working could also stop them from safely flying home. So if they had serious pregnancy complications, they would be in a foreign country with little to no support network, no financial means to fund US bed rest or a hospital stay, no place to live, and no visa. And overstaying their visa is a big no no. It's just a bad situation.

If an au pair does have the support of an American father, there are other visa options, but those are outside of the scope of the au pair program.


That's interesting in that it would seem to incentivize not reporting the pregnancy until much later, possibly too late to travel, and ideally to try for an anchor baby.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2024 10:46     Subject: Pregnant Au Pair
Anonymous wrote:I’d ask her to get a paternity test if she’s staying in your home.


Unless OP suspects her DH is the father why get a paternity test?