Anonymous
05/13/2024 20:47
Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
I give a Yankee candle. About $10 at HomeGoods.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 20:45
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Covering your plate is the norm in NY. I'm from there but live here. Going to nieces wedding in October and will give $500.
That's because in New York everything including relationships is transactional.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 20:44
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Probably $150 - but that's from both DH & me. I don't subscribe to the cover your plate theory nor to the need to give excessively generous wedding gifts. If it's someone we're very close to maybe $200-$250 but that would be pretty rare case.
+1
The concept of being expected to cover one's plate is offensive.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 20:30
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:“Covering your plate” is something I’ve never heard of until coming on this site. $100-200 is my standard depending on who it is/how close I am to the bride or groom.
very common in Italian and some Jewish communities. The bride used to carry a white decorated bag in which guests were supposed to put checks.
This is also common in asian communities. Expectation is that you bring a check, and there is often someone at the front writing down who gave what in a ledger.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 20:11
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:“Covering your plate” is something I’ve never heard of until coming on this site. $100-200 is my standard depending on who it is/how close I am to the bride or groom.
very common in Italian and some Jewish communities. The bride used to carry a white decorated bag in which guests were supposed to put checks.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 19:56
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:I was invited to my ex-husband's nephew's wedding. I had no plans to attend, but I sent $200 since I had known him since he was a toddler.
That was a really classy thing to do.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 19:56
Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
We give between $500 and $2,000. Depends on whether it's just me and DH or us plus the kids, depends if it's the first marriage, if they're in their 20's or 40's, etc.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 19:52
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
I was invited to my ex-husband's nephew's wedding. I had no plans to attend, but I sent $200 since I had known him since he was a toddler.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:42
Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
$50-100
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:28
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
I usually do $500 cash for friends/family and $200 for acquaintances.
If I have to travel and get a hotel/flight I lower it a bit.
If it's a holiday weekend and you're making me buy an expensive holiday travel flight/weekend and using my vacation days you're lucky if you get a gift (shoutout memorial day/july 4th/thanksgiving weddings)
If I have to travel and get a hotel/flight I lower it a bit.
If it's a holiday weekend and you're making me buy an expensive holiday travel flight/weekend and using my vacation days you're lucky if you get a gift (shoutout memorial day/july 4th/thanksgiving weddings)
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:07
Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
last month I went to a cousin's wedding. I barely know her (literally have maybe seen her 4 or 5 times total-we've always lived in different parts of the county.)
I went alone (Dh couldn't go) and gave $250 cash. Also was invited to her shower but didn't go and sent a gift from her registry worth about $60.
I went alone (Dh couldn't go) and gave $250 cash. Also was invited to her shower but didn't go and sent a gift from her registry worth about $60.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 17:53
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!
- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town
I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate
$50 for friend
$100 for family
Anonymous
05/13/2024 17:53
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!
- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town
I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate
This sentiment is tacky no matter what your “cultural context.”
I don’t understand this thread—you have no question. You just want to shout onto the internet what you gift at weddings?
I am the OP - the question is literally in the first sentence. Fine, il add "can you" & "share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024". Thanks for not answering the question.
How does me answering the question help anyone? There must be almost countless threads on this already, some of them very recent, threads that I’m pretty sure include what I give—but you think adding “2024” makes this somehow new and relevant? New enough for you to post blah blah blah declaring yourself?
lol NP but just move along already, dude. I’m interested in the topic, and clearly others are too.
We do $150 each, more or less
Of course you are.
Whoa end thread. That was a good one!
Anonymous
05/13/2024 17:52
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!
- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town
I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate
This sentiment is tacky no matter what your “cultural context.”
I don’t understand this thread—you have no question. You just want to shout onto the internet what you gift at weddings?
I am the OP - the question is literally in the first sentence. Fine, il add "can you" & "share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024". Thanks for not answering the question.
How does me answering the question help anyone? There must be almost countless threads on this already, some of them very recent, threads that I’m pretty sure include what I give—but you think adding “2024” makes this somehow new and relevant? New enough for you to post blah blah blah declaring yourself?
NP
Your “friends” hate you. I know this for a fact.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 17:48
Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?
Anonymous wrote:I give $18 for essentially every gift.
Cheapskate. $360 is the minimum requirement.