tell her to stop complaining so much. My daughter was 12 when she got her first yellow card and she was upset. But she got it for playing tough and I explained to her, even if you do NOT play dirty, you can make a mistake and the best defenders get cards on occasion. At 14 she leads her team in yellow cards and concussion tests (luckily she "passed" them all) since she plays all in

Anonymous wrote:Say congrats!

this she may be the energy for her team…

Dont sweat it….

Tell her not to worry about the card - there are plenty of bad refs and if the ref allows pushing she should either push back or flop.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need to tell her anything? It's part of the game. Unless she's new at the sport, is this her first time playing?

Because people are delusional that their kid is ever at fault or made if glass and a single repercussions to their actions with destroy them for life.

I would tell my daughter to fully respect the referee. If that referee decides your daughter needs a booking for her actions, then she should accept that, and follow all the referee's directions for the cautioning process (i.e. turning around and showing her number if the ref so requests/waiting with the ref while she is getting written up/etc.) without a peep. This being her first time, she likely will have her "head spinning" and be quite scared of what's happening--and that is of course understandable.

Remember, players actually "caution themselves," when earning yellow cards. The referee is only enforcing the rules.

I'd also tell your daughter that everything will be okay, and it's not the end of the world to get booked. She should just take a deep breath, and let the referee do what they need to enforce those rules. If your daughter feels nervous/anxious/needs to cry getting the yellow card--that's okay--and tell her to feel her feelings (but never to argue). It can seem very scary getting booked--ESPECIALLY for the FIRST TIME (as that one-on-one process with a ref can be quite intimidating). Let her know you support her, all will be okay, and not to be mad at the referee.

You want her to learn from the experience, and not be scared to play/traumatized from getting a yellow card. Tell her millions upon millions have been booked before her, and millions upon millions will get a yellow card after her--including, likely her many more times, if she continues to play.

Why do you need to tell her anything? It's part of the game. Unless she's new at the sport, is this her first time playing?

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Anonymous wrote:Any advice to tell my daughter who got her first yellow card today? She’s 12. The card was for repeatedly telling an opponent to stop pushing.

I can't imagine they would give a card for that. There's got to be something else. Maybe she kept complaining to the ref.

At that age, I can see a ref doing it to teach a lesson. A free kick in the middle of the field isn't really much of an advantage, so it's no consequence for the kid

I agree with the previous poster that I CANNOT imagine a ref giving a kid a yellow card (at any age) for repeatedly telling an opponent to stop pushing. What is the YC for? There's no rule against telling an opponent to stop pushing...even repeatedly. You can do that 1000 times and no card. So as to teach a lesson? What lesson? If the referee gave a card for this, the lesson is that ... there are really crappy refs out there, just keep playing. Referees typically don't like giving YCs to 12 year old girls and, for some reason, and this sounds like rec. So referees don't like pulling cards to 12 year old rec girls. Your daughter must have don't something else. But with that said, she got a YC. It's fine. It happens. It's part of the game and there will be times where she will have to make a tactical foul (Stopping a Promising Attack) that will be an automatic YC, but it might save a goal and is the SMART thing to do. You just move on.

Refs are far more likely to give a yellow card for repeated yelling, whining, complaining, than for rough play especially if it involves gesturing to the ref or interrupting them. Refs are also quick to card for unreasonable or constant delay of the game. These are all embarrassing reasons to get a yellow and put your team at a disadvantage since the ref is now pissed and likely to make most discretionary calls against your team.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, all of this and let her know, assuming she is not understanding what a yellow card is, (sounds like you’re more confused about it than her). If she does not like the pushing, instead of mouthing off to the player and getting a yellow, drop a hard shoulder into the player that was pushing her, when that player gets the ball and then take it from her. Play physical back. It’s part of the game. And remember, to prevent most physical play is to speed up your game. The faster you get the ball and then get rid of it with a good pass, takes the physical play out of it. This will come when she builds up her skill and is able to see the game better.

So drop a hard shoulder and get her second yellow?

As long as her arms stay down and hands stay by her side it's legal. And effective.

Weird that a ref would card a 12 year old over this unless she used profanity.

Dp

Only shoulder to shoulder is legal.

Excessive force is illegal.
Lean in the lowered shoulder, body slamming angle loading up to remove the opponent off the ball not really worrying about playing the ball is illegal.

Ever notice the overly physical players are never good with the ball and have low soccer IQ

What in the hell alternate universe of youth soccer are people living in, and how do I get there?

I see YC-able offenses nearly every game but they only get called once every 5-10 games or so. So usually it’s only when kids are really going at each other.