Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 04:39     Subject: Withholding Affection
Ex wife did it to me so I stepped outside the marriage.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2024 20:58     Subject: Withholding Affection
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my ex.

Towards the end she wouldn't look up from her phone when I came back from a business trip.

And for a big milestone I had planned everything and had to move it last minute because se had a meeting and had "forgotten" to put it on her calendar. She actually suggested I go on the trip without her.

I pushed it given our child was in late high school at the time. And then, in front of the counselor, came the answer: she wouldn't give me any affection because I didn't deserve it. Mic drop.

We've been divorced some time now. I've since learned many other things from our child.

A lack of regard is absolutely a huge sign. Fix it or get out.


I’m so relieved to hear you are divorced from her. I hope you’ve had fulfilling relationships since!
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2024 19:24     Subject: Withholding Affection
Anonymous wrote:Five years? He doesn't like you at all. You are living with someone who wants nothing to do with you.

Grow a backbone and move on.


Money. Kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2024 19:23     Subject: Withholding Affection
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the norm a for daily affection? My husband barely touches me so I’m curious how other couples are.


You don't at least hug every day? I can't imagine not touching my husband for an entire day unless we were in two separate places. But, we also do mornings together (we take turns with who does kids and who does dogs but we all end up in the kitchen for family breakfast at 7-7:30 then the kids get on the bus), we usually both work from home so we do lunch together when work permits, and evenings are a mix of going in two different directions for activities but at least a few days a week we're all home. So I guess we have a lot of time to interact, which maybe makes it easier to touch during the day, but even if we only saw each other mornings and evenings I can't imagine we wouldn't start and end the day with a touch of some kind. Our kids usually groan when we hug or kiss in front of them because they're tweens and everything we do is embarrassing, but this morning they joined in the hug we randomly had when we walked past each other and we all ended up in each other's arms.

My husband doesn’t hug me/kiss/ touch me very often. Def not daily. He’ also doesn’t hug/touch our kids.


I'm sorry, that would make me really sad. We have two daughters and my husband definitely hugs them daily as well. I grew up like that, he definitely did not. I don't think I've ever seen anyone in his family hug someone.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2024 19:01     Subject: Withholding Affection
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the norm a for daily affection? My husband barely touches me so I’m curious how other couples are.


Are you fulfilling your husband’s needs sexually?

He doesn’t fulfill my needs bc he’s so cold and robotic.