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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I assume you have lots of other problems with your mom.

Teen kids don’t really care if you attend their games. It’s a balance, but they definitely don’t need or want you at each and every one.

Of course we all know awful parents at games and those kids wish their parents never came…and may have equally awful relationships with their parents as adults.

I feel like we just had this thread, but I guess it was 2 months ago so not that recent:
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1187801.page

I just spent the game in my car in the parking lot, with my phone.

My kid does a sport where you get one shot and it's really short and has to be perfect. I'm a mess at competitions. DH likes to pace outside the competition area. I like to sit by one of DD's teammate's families, because the youngest sibling in the family is very affectionate and will crawl into my lap and ask to be hugged. He has a knack for knowing exactly when DD is up so I usually hug him while she's competing.

I jokingly call him my Emotional Support Younger Sibling, but that's what he really is. I eventually need a healthier tactic that doesn't rely on someone's 4 year old brother.

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Any wrestling moms in here - it's personal... very personal.



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I hope those were just cheap reading glasses but probably not.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I assume you have lots of other problems with your mom.

Teen kids don’t really care if you attend their games. It’s a balance, but they definitely don’t need or want you at each and every one.

Of course we all know awful parents at games and those kids wish their parents never came…and may have equally awful relationships with their parents as adults.

+1

I rarely attend either of my teen DS’s baseball games (I have 2 who play). DH usually goes to the games (he loves it). I attend once in awhile if he cannot. I follow the games on Gamechanger- there is often even live video. The boys tell me all about the games when they get home, and I congratulate for nice plays, hits and remember interesting moments during the game & ask what happened during xyz exciting play etc etc. I download their video clips and send to them etc.

I’m pretty close with both of my DS actually. They genuinely don’t care if I attend- or even if DH does. I actually really like baseball but the games are so long (and often a further drive now), and I find the other parents super annoying (less annoying than they were in kiddie ball, but still…). Listening to them yell idiotic “tips” at their sons, gossiping about other people’s kids & stressing out about every play…I find it so gross TBH. Got sick of it long ago. DH takes it more in stride LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I love my kids. I just find watching them practice/play sports to be boring. I can watch them dance or do play rehearsals for hours on end no problem, and sports are not their whole lives - I have spent two hours helping them study for tests, run lines for play tryouts, do hairstyles, etc. I only go to the games when they ask, and it's mostly so I know who they're talking about at home, and understand what they're talking about.

That sounds sad, that you can only be interesting if it's your interest as well. My kids have all latched onto sports and activities that I know nothing about. But I'm always their biggest fan, in whatever they do. Not only if it happens to please me.

Okay well whatever. You've convinced yourself I'm a terrible parent and my kids lives are awful because of my attitude towards sports, so go ahead thinking you're the best mother in the world and I'm the worst. It won't affect me or my kids at all and I sure as hell don't care what some rando on the internet thinks of how I parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I love my kids. I just find watching them practice/play sports to be boring. I can watch them dance or do play rehearsals for hours on end no problem, and sports are not their whole lives - I have spent two hours helping them study for tests, run lines for play tryouts, do hairstyles, etc. I only go to the games when they ask, and it's mostly so I know who they're talking about at home, and understand what they're talking about.

That sounds sad, that you can only be interesting if it's your interest as well. My kids have all latched onto sports and activities that I know nothing about. But I'm always their biggest fan, in whatever they do. Not only if it happens to please me.

I think this is a bit unfair to PP. My kids do some stuff that I find genuinely interesting and some stuff that makes my teeth hurt. I try my best to at least pretend to be interested, though I am sure I’m not a good enough actress to pull it off.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I assume you have lots of other problems with your mom.

Teen kids don’t really care if you attend their games. It’s a balance, but they definitely don’t need or want you at each and every one.

Of course we all know awful parents at games and those kids wish their parents never came…and may have equally awful relationships with their parents as adults.

My DH is the one who shows up for all practices and tournaments. I don’t have the constitution for it right now and don’t want to make the kids more nervous than they are.
My DH feels the same way—that it’s good I keep out.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I love my kids. I just find watching them practice/play sports to be boring. I can watch them dance or do play rehearsals for hours on end no problem, and sports are not their whole lives - I have spent two hours helping them study for tests, run lines for play tryouts, do hairstyles, etc. I only go to the games when they ask, and it's mostly so I know who they're talking about at home, and understand what they're talking about.

That sounds sad, that you can only be interesting if it's your interest as well. My kids have all latched onto sports and activities that I know nothing about. But I'm always their biggest fan, in whatever they do. Not only if it happens to please me.

Not when they’re playing a team sport, but track races stress me out a little. DS likes the long distance events so it’s several extra minutes of peeking through my fingers 🤪

Anonymous wrote:I get stressed out in an individual sport and can barely watch. I think it's because I also did that sport so I can easily pick up mistakes. In team sports I am surprisingly relaxed.

Same here

Anonymous wrote:Do you get stressed watching your DC’s games? How do you cope with it? Inget stressed because my kid is always nervous during his games and that ends up effecting his performance. Then he is upset about his performance too. I don’t think that me not watching is fair to him either. I keep telling myself.. its just a game..

I have a goalie and it is very stressful. I pace a lot. I try to stay away from the other parents b/c any "blame the goalie comments" will not go over well with me. lol

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I bring a book and barely watch. It's a game, it's for fun. I don't even want to be there and only go to the big games or whatever my kids ask me to attend. I don't care at all.

You should like my mom. I barely talk to her now. It was so obvious that she did not and does not care about our interests. Why did you even have kids and why even go to the games??

I love my kids. I just find watching them practice/play sports to be boring. I can watch them dance or do play rehearsals for hours on end no problem, and sports are not their whole lives - I have spent two hours helping them study for tests, run lines for play tryouts, do hairstyles, etc. I only go to the games when they ask, and it's mostly so I know who they're talking about at home, and understand what they're talking about.