Back in the late 90’s an old BF and I went to a DC club known for swinging or swapping or whatever. I refused to swing or swap but we did have sex in a room full of couples doing whatever. I have always wondered who these people were or where they ended up. Seeing a woman with 2 guys being cheered on by her husband or BF was bizarre. My relationship with my BF ended soon after that because he thought I was too conservative.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't. We tried. We were currently waiting for divorce paperwork to be finalized.

Thank you for sharing.
It does seem like a slippery slope that has a high chance of dissolving a marriage.

another positive...

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Anonymous wrote:Acceptable for animals, MAYBE

I regret to inform you that human are animals.

…with a rational soul. Meaning, anyone who is not so Uncontrollably, Desperately H*rny that they’ve lost all common sense can reasonably figure out why it’s a terrible idea and choose not to participate.

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Anonymous wrote:It can jeopardize your job

Why? Love is love.

maybe if your job is only fans or porn you can get away with it, but many jobs will not hire you if this is in your background especially in DC

Anonymous wrote:Don't. We tried. We were currently waiting for divorce paperwork to be finalized.

Thank you for sharing.
It does seem like a slippery slope that has a high chance of dissolving a marriage.

Don't. We tried. We were currently waiting for divorce paperwork to be finalized.

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Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.

Please tell us more.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

Upside down pineapple.

Works every time

Esp the swim trunks. Or an actual pineapple

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.

I googled and couldn't find what you're referencing. What town?!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

Oh, you’d be surprised. I’ve met people of every profession, class, race, and religion in the lifestyle. Doctors, lawyers, professors, diplomats, finance, tech, media, etc. it’s going on right under your nose and you’ve no idea. You couldn’t pick us out of a crowd.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

You are fringe and completely abnormal.

And that isn’t a virtue.

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

Husband here. Brought it up a few times, but long intervals of time between each mention-- she gets more curious each time and isn't as opposed to it since last time. Firmly believe that most of us desire animalistic sex at some point in our lives.

Non-monogamy worked great for us in our 20s and early 30s.

Problems arise post-kids, aging bodies, changing libidos, stressful careers and other midlife challenges. Trying to navigate closing up our relationship after a wilder youth and it's touch and go.

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Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉

There was a whole town like this in PG County in the 1960s-70s. Google away.