My brother would have made a great husband. Unfortunately he's still in love with the girl who broke his heart 35 years ago.

If he'd gotten over that in his 40s he would have been a fine husband.

When I was 42 I started dating a man, 47. We were together less than 2 years and I was his longest relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Have a friend like this. Several failed longterm relationships. Married to his work. Works very long hours.

Seems like you answered your own question: no

Work addicts: no

I think so. My BIL married for the first time at age 46ish- to a woman also mid-40s, also her first marriage. They were very happy together but sadly she died in a car accident about 5yrs into the marriage.

However- they did not plan on having kids at their ages and I think that makes some difference. I don’t think BIL would’ve adjusted well to kids at all- nice guy but kind of rigid and set in his ways by then. Sometimes I wonder if he waited to marry until he was old enough that kids would not really be a possibility (after all, women often change their minds- or have an oops).

My brother was married at 48. He had a series of long term girlfriends before he married. He’s been happily married now for about 25 years, no kids.