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Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

I always appreciate hearing the truth like this even it makes me a little bit ill. Marriage material = making a man's life easy and happy.

That was definitely the womans list. Virtually no men expect women to support them.

I read support as emotional support not financial support.

Anonymous wrote:Marriage material for a high value man? Pretty, smart, thin, pleasant, good in bed but does not appear trashy or slutty.

Marriage material for a regular man? Attractive and nice.

I don’t think any guy wants to marry someone unattractive and mean or dumb.

You forgot tall.

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Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

This is what people say when they’re old, fat, and/or ugly.

No way, this is just not true. Timing and flexibility is huge. There are many fat, old, and ugly married people. Be serious.

My married friends vary in terms of looks/professional success but the married ones met their now spouses in their mid 20s. They found equal ish matches in men who had the shared goal of settling down. Finding the right person (an acceptable match) at the right time (typically mid 20s) is about luck. Of course you can increase your options by being especially marketable and having flexible standards but being hot and/or rich is not at all necessary.

As an older Irishman said to me recently - "Sometimes luck is something you make."

There are way too many Hollywood movies that have influenced us to believe that love and marriage is something that just happens by chance. It is and it isn't.
Consider the Jewish speed dating thing. Their culture encourages marriage and those folks who subscribe to it make it a priority in their lives. So they do these speed dating meetups which I find very interesting as an idea. It seems to be a successful forum for them. It's probably also a great networking opportunity in many other ways. At the end, maybe it's about the community one is in and accepting that pool of candidates. It does make for stronger bonds.

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

What makes men?

I only know one woman who is single at this point (i.e. never married, not married and then divorced) in the group of people I know from high school, college, grad school, multiple jobs, and through our neighborhood/school. She is the neediest and most selfish person I know. Everything is so hard in her life, everything is out to get her. She has no interest in anyone else's life, she only cares about her "struggles" (I put that in quotes because a recent gripe was that she couldn't find a suitable place to board her dog so she wasn't going to be able to go on a trip - she lives outside of a major city so there are no doubt plenty of boarding places but none of them are good enough for her). I can't imagine she'd be very fun to date because she isn't very fun to hang out with.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

Was this signed Jane and Michael Banks?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

I always appreciate hearing the truth like this even it makes me a little bit ill. Marriage material = making a man's life easy and happy.

That was definitely the womans list. Virtually no men expect women to support them.

I don't know what marriage material truly means and I'm not a man but if someone (man or woman)asked me to set them up, I would look for a good human being who is conscientious, kind and easy going with good education, financial sense, some ambition and stays moderately well groomed.

Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

No... its not about luck or timing. If you cant find someone in your ten year window (25-35) its not an issue of timing or luck.

Most women struggle to find someone because either they A) put it off until later and then it starts being too late (and here it becomes an issue of luck) or B) have unrealistic expectations of partners.

Anonymous wrote:Does she fit in an average-sized rowboat?

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

This is merely a matter of luck, there is no special recipe.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Too many loser males.

Too many lazy and stupid females.

Does she fit in an average-sized rowboat?

Can she suck a golf ball through a garden hose?