Anonymous wrote:BMI 19, pilates no strenuous work outs, botox

Why no strenuous workouts? I do so much better with high-impact workouts, in terms of how I look and how I feel. I mean, people should do what works best for them but what is the argument against strenuous work outs? Do you think it gives you wrinkles or something?

I think it's different for everyone. My skin is actually doing very well -- minimal wrinkles and texture is still soft. My teeth were showing my age. I had some cosmetic dentistry done to address some middle-aged shifting and professional whitening. Huge improvement. Plus I smile more, which I think makes me look better!

Also maintaining weight is huge. I am not a dieter but I have slowly adjusted my diet over the last 5 years towards a cleaner diet, more veggies and whole grains and less meat (we eat vegetarian 2-4 nights a week now), and eliminating a lot of high-sugar treats like soda and certain sweets.

Also I stopped drinking alcohol except very occasionally around 40. I'll have a glass of wine when we go out for a nice meal or are at a dinner party, and that's about it. I honestly don't know how people in their 40s drink, and especially drink heavily -- it makes me so tired, and takes very little to make me feel awful the next day. We went to a wedding last year and I had two glasses of wine and one glass of champagne and I didn't feel recovered for like 5 days.

I think it’s a mix of genetics and lifestyle choices. I figured out as a teen that I was never going to develop a beautiful, dark tan and so tanning wasn’t worth it and used sunscreen religiously. I never smoked, started retinol in my 20s, started
Botox as soon as the elevens appeared, eat healthy and exercise.

I have a younger sister who tanned as a teen, drank heavily, hasn’t prioritized skincare and she looks years older that I do.

Anonymous wrote:Never smoked, never sunbathed, don’t really drink, used moisturizer, and most importantly had good genes. Mom and grandma never looked their age either. I’m 55 and have no appreciable facial wrinkles with no interventions. I also am not quite in full menopause yet.

That’s late to not be in menopause.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an excellent skincare routine, exercise regularly, am social and get IPL every 3 years or so. I'm 58.

Being social has nothing to do with skincare.

Dp. No, but it brings happiness, which makes pp look good. Mean, unhappy people don't look that good when they're older. Being nice, in shape and happy goes a long way in making older people look good. Also, no booze.

You think only nice and happy people are social? And mean and unhappy people aren’t? Again, has nothing to do with skincare.

You're being overly literal. PP is saying that by living a good, fulfilling, happy life, it helps her look good.

You and pp are being overly literal if you think being social helps one look more youthful.

I think the key is to embrace this new life stage. Can’t say I’m there yet (at 45).

In the meantime, I’m doing Botox in my 11s and considering filler in nasolabial folds.

Anonymous wrote:BMI 19, pilates no strenuous work outs, botox

No strength workouts? What’s your body composition?

BMI 19, pilates no strenuous work outs, botox

We all can tell you do Botox. I think it looks weird.

Never smoked, never sunbathed, don’t really drink, used moisturizer, and most importantly had good genes. Mom and grandma never looked their age either. I’m 55 and have no appreciable facial wrinkles with no interventions. I also am not quite in full menopause yet.

I agree that it's mostly genes. But also that your lifestyle things can really help or hurt. "Aging well" can mean a lot of different things - but I promise that right now, you want to build your physical strength so that you have that to bank on as you get older.

I don't mean take up crossfit - I mean find some movement that you enjoy doing, and will do, and then do it. That could be walking, pickleball, yoga, soccer, whatever - but find something, and do it. You want that physical resilience as you get older.

Botox, fillers, whatever - people will do what they like.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an excellent skincare routine, exercise regularly, am social and get IPL every 3 years or so. I'm 58.

Being social has nothing to do with skincare.

Dp. No, but it brings happiness, which makes pp look good. Mean, unhappy people don't look that good when they're older. Being nice, in shape and happy goes a long way in making older people look good. Also, no booze.

You think only nice and happy people are social? And mean and unhappy people aren’t? Again, has nothing to do with skincare.

You're being overly literal. PP is saying that by living a good, fulfilling, happy life, it helps her look good.

It is 90% genetic. If you did not win the genetic lottery, your options are Botox and face lift.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have kids and get 9+ hours of sleep a night

Hanging out on a parents forum makes you seem so happy with your choice!

Anonymous wrote:I have Botox regularly. It makes a world of difference.

Yes, a little bit of Botox in the 11s and horizontal forehead wrinkles. Also crème blush because I am very pale tending towards sallow and it helps me not look sickly.