Anonymous
04/10/2024 09:51
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:I think you'd be surprised if you actually attended a rec game. It's the same level as lower level travel in the ncsl for girls. Not as bad as everyone makes it seem.
On the boys side, rec games can be higher level than the lower NCSL levels.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 09:39
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So when do kids start burning out? DS is only 11 and so far all talented A team kids he’s played with and against are still playing. Does burnout happen a year or so into MLSNext/ECNL?
"Burnout" is an excuse used to cover other sins
I don’t think it’s as dramatic as that. Burnout describes the kid who quits because he realizes the work needed to stay on top is grinding and never ending and he doesn’t want to do that anymore.
But that also can be described as maturing and being ok with letting soccer go.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 08:24
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if your kid didn’t want to play video games anymore? Or don’t want to watch Marvel movies anymore. You’d probably be fine with it and encourage whatever he was into next.
Why do you feel different with soccer? It’s probably because YOU really want him to play. It’s important to you. We don’t get to pick what our kids like and can’t make them like the same things we do. Or maybe he doesn’t like it because you put a lot of pressure and expectations on soccer and it isn’t fun for him and this is his way of telling you.
Bad analogy. No one thinks excessive playing of video games is good for physical or mental health.
Ok then, tennis. Point is the parent wants them to play soccer not the kid
Anonymous
04/10/2024 08:11
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:So when do kids start burning out? DS is only 11 and so far all talented A team kids he’s played with and against are still playing. Does burnout happen a year or so into MLSNext/ECNL?
"Burnout" is an excuse used to cover other sins
Anonymous
04/09/2024 20:44
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if your kid didn’t want to play video games anymore? Or don’t want to watch Marvel movies anymore. You’d probably be fine with it and encourage whatever he was into next.
Why do you feel different with soccer? It’s probably because YOU really want him to play. It’s important to you. We don’t get to pick what our kids like and can’t make them like the same things we do. Or maybe he doesn’t like it because you put a lot of pressure and expectations on soccer and it isn’t fun for him and this is his way of telling you.
Bad analogy. No one thinks excessive playing of video games is good for physical or mental health.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 20:42
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Puberty is tough. I think some just leave because they can't keep up and as a result lose interest. My son included. Still hasn't grown.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 20:38
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
So when do kids start burning out? DS is only 11 and so far all talented A team kids he’s played with and against are still playing. Does burnout happen a year or so into MLSNext/ECNL?
Anonymous
04/09/2024 19:57
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
If year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burned kids out, we wouldn't have Champions League games today.
All those players would have burned out.
Not all kids are the same. Some will burn out, some will thrive
Nature eliminates the weak
Anonymous
04/09/2024 16:13
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
If year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burned kids out, we wouldn't have Champions League games today.
All those players would have burned out.
Not all kids are the same. Some will burn out, some will thrive
Anonymous
04/09/2024 16:06
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
I think you'd be surprised if you actually attended a rec game. It's the same level as lower level travel in the ncsl for girls. Not as bad as everyone makes it seem.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 09:19
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
If year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burned kids out, we wouldn't have Champions League games today.
All those players would have burned out.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 09:15
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
Hahahahahaha
Kids around the world are playing year round soccer from 4 years old, and more of it, without getting so-called burnt out.
It's the overbearing parents pushing the kids to do what they don't want to do and don't like to do and what's not beneficial to them that makes kids quit.
Strange how kids who are having fun do the same or more without burnout
Anonymous
04/09/2024 09:04
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
I wouldn't mind if there were my kid. I think its ok to shift priorities and play with a different team for fun. My son is only 9 and very much not burnt out, but I appreciate thar if he is in a few years, its going to be ok.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 08:51
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.
Nonsense. Year round soccer from age 7 or 8 burns kids out.
Anonymous
04/09/2024 08:47
Subject: Feeling sad my kid doesn't want to play anymore
Anonymous wrote:There are four girls on my dd's U14 rec team who burned out on club soccer.
Kids don't do enough to burn out.
Parents and bad coaches drive them away.