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Anonymous wrote:It might not be his fault, School were closed for two years, and they want kids to act like nothing happened. It might have something to do with the school closer, and he might still think he is the same grade it was when they decided to closed down for two years. The kids are acting out because they don't know how to act or if they are going to be shut down again.

Schools were closed for one year, but you’re right that there could be something’s else going on such as ADHD.

Take the phone from him during school for 3 months. If things improve, it’s not ADHD, it’s phone addiction.

Anonymous wrote:Give him a pamphlet to the closest community college and tell him to take his pick. Give him a GED study book.

Honestly, I don't think this would phase him or have the intended effect.

NP, sorry, maybe dumb question: how do you check to see if they are using the phone during the day at school?

School shootings are very much real. All of my 3 children have experienced a gun being brought to school. Every single one of them. And they all have attended a mix of different schools.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It might not be his fault, School were closed for two years, and they want kids to act like nothing happened. It might have something to do with the school closer, and he might still think he is the same grade it was when they decided to closed down for two years. The kids are acting out because they don't know how to act or if they are going to be shut down again.

Schools were closed for one year, but you’re right that there could be something’s else going on such as ADHD.

Schools were not closed they were virtual and that was what four years ago. You need a new talking point.

I don’t let my kid take his phone to school.

It's amazing how parents these days can twist any situation to place the blame on the teachers. Good luck in college!

Anonymous wrote:It might not be his fault, School were closed for two years, and they want kids to act like nothing happened. It might have something to do with the school closer, and he might still think he is the same grade it was when they decided to closed down for two years. The kids are acting out because they don't know how to act or if they are going to be shut down again.

Schools were closed for one year, but you’re right that there could be something’s else going on such as ADHD.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. We are in public and not MCPS. Our school allows phones, but they need to be put away.

I wouldn't want to take the phone because if there is a school shooting, I don't want to be in that position. The unfortunate mindset of a public school parent, unfortunately.

Thank you to everyone who suggested a dummy phone or a text/call phone only. I think we're going to start here.

How do we get him to understand how rude this behavior is? Grades are grades, he will pass or fail, but we want to make sure he is a good human.

You know the phone is a problem. And yet you refuse to remove the phone from the equation because of a highly unlikely scenario. Nevermind that if that happened, your son would be the last to know since he’d be so distracted by his earbuds and phone to notice right away.

You’re contributing to the problem, not addressing it. The phone cannot be more important than your child’s mental health and wellbeing, which he is showing you through his poor grades and disconnection is impacting him greatly.

Take the phone and the AirPods. It’s hard to get kids that age to understand though.

This school shooting excuse is stupid. They can use someone else’s phone in an emergency.

What exactly is he doing in class to be disruptive? I teach mostly 16 and 17 yo and this sounds like a behavior management issue, unless he is being really loud and talking back or something. We have lost the battle with phones. I don’t tell them to take out AirPods or get off phones anymore. I won’t collect phones, way too much liability. Most do the right thing. I will prompt them to pay attention but if they are zoning out in the back with AirPods I’m not going to argue with them when I’ve asked them to pay attention more than once and they refused.

Take the phone if you want. Tell him there will be punishments for being disrespectful pr disruptive. But don’t email the teacher and ask for a meeting when his grades tank. If it’s not the phone, it’s the laptops as distractions

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he doesn't feel good about himself at school. What does he want to do in life?

He is a blue collar kid. Nothing wrong with it.

We had similar behavior in a slightly younger child. He turned out to have ADHD. Meds helped him tremendously.

It sounds like he doesn't feel good about himself at school. What does he want to do in life?

Give him a pamphlet to the closest community college and tell him to take his pick. Give him a GED study book.