DH and I are both early 40s; to me, he's a 7.5 and going higher because he's working out, losing weight, etc. That's about the same as when we got together almost 20 years ago; his looks suit me perfectly, I am sure others might not find him as attractive. He's a sweet guy, makes me laugh, and we still have fun together, which also helps.

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9.5/10

Almost every day I look at him and think damn he’s good looking!

But sometimes he’ll also do something like chew loudly or fart, so I won’t give him a solid 10 (although others who don’t live with him probably would).

We’re both 44. Been together 15 years.

Anonymous wrote:The old people claiming 10’s are just stokig their own egos.

Sure, in a loving secure healthy long term relationship, 2 people maintain their connection. But I doubt on a physical raw sexual level it’s a 10. Weight gain, sagging skin/flesh, etc.

DW is 48 and a 10. Her body looks amazing. I on the other hand look my age at 55. I am very fit but skin is definitely going south

Anonymous wrote:The old people claiming 10’s are just stokig their own egos.

Sure, in a loving secure healthy long term relationship, 2 people maintain their connection. But I doubt on a physical raw sexual level it’s a 10. Weight gain, sagging skin/flesh, etc.

On a physical raw level? Everytime I see a beautiful group of young ladies about and think about 'mirin all they have to do is open their mouths to send the ol hog back underground.

Anonymous wrote:The old people claiming 10’s are just stokig their own egos.

Sure, in a loving secure healthy long term relationship, 2 people maintain their connection. But I doubt on a physical raw sexual level it’s a 10. Weight gain, sagging skin/flesh, etc.

I can certainly see that happening with us (we're both late 40s). At the same time, we don't have sex as frequently as we used to so when we do there is a lot of built-up energy.

The old people claiming 10’s are just stokig their own egos.

Sure, in a loving secure healthy long term relationship, 2 people maintain their connection. But I doubt on a physical raw sexual level it’s a 10. Weight gain, sagging skin/flesh, etc.

She was a 7/8 from the first date until about 6 years after second kid, at which point she apparently decided she didn't care about me or her appearance, gained 40 pounds, and refused to give me the time of day. So now I'd say 4/5, but sometimes when I look at her, I can still see the old her, which is something that keeps me from leaving.

Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I don't FEEL like I am physically attracted to him, but I love him and I love sex and want it every day so I must be very attracted to him on some level, right?

I’m right with you.

I'm 40, he's 43.

I'd sat 8/10 in looks (he's very attractive but doesn't have much in terms of style...) and 11/10 as a partner and dad.

I dunno. I don't FEEL like I am physically attracted to him, but I love him and I love sex and want it every day so I must be very attracted to him on some level, right?

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I was never really attracted to his looks. I thought his kindness stability and gentleness was all that I needed. Turns out he was just playing a role so now on the inside he is also a 0

I'm with you. Not sure where all these 10's are coming from, but hooray for others, I suppose. I'm not all the way down to a 0, but some of the kindness, stability, brilliance, and selflessness was oversold, and that took 6-7 looks (at most, for me) further down. Without the high number on the inside pulling up the outside, it's around a 2. Not sure how much longer to go through it.

For me my wife is a 10 when she's in a good mood/being charismatic, so I try to maintain that as best I can.

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I was never really attracted to his looks. I thought his kindness stability and gentleness was all that I needed. Turns out he was just playing a role so now on the inside he is also a 0