Anonymous wrote:So logical they lack empathy

Stereotype.
Spock, really? Do you know any engineers or scientists. Both areas cover a large number of careers with different skillsets.

Stay away from the STEM types that don't read books or have any hobbies than being Elon musk or Bitcoin fanboys.

Oh god any man these days that doesn't speak in gentle NPR voices at work and has more testosterone than a housecat is toxically masculine.

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Anonymous wrote:ALPHA

I like my men with common sense and non lazy.

In other words, you like toxic masculinity.

I love it when it pays all my bills and lets me stay home.

Whichever one has the most money. It's possible for both.

Stay away from academics. No real world experience and never will.

Yeah. Lol

If only choosing a good man was this simple.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean... do I have to pick one? My DH is an engineer, a musician, and has other creative hobbies as well.

+1

My DH is physicist and also a musician, loves theater, and loves going to art museums too. What a black-and-white, binary question OP is asking. Why the insistence on either/or?

This. Most STEM-y people have significant visual/performing arts or cultural interests and hobbies - they’re not one-sided monoliths. In my experience there’s less crossover from artsy people into STEM expertise or hobbies. This question is like asking “on a scale of one to ten, is this person an 8 or a K?”

This. Creative stem people are amazing. They grasp the realities of the world through physics and math, not afraid of hard problems. But the arts gives them flexibility and empathy and appreciating another point of view. Most of my engineer friends who are fun are also artistic in some way, music, building creative things, gardening etc.

No Spocks for me

So logical they lack empathy

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going with science-y. My last long-term boyfriend before current DH was an artist (a painter). Very moody and difficult. DH is a nerdy engineer, and the least moody person ever. I went out with him mainly because he was so normal by comparison.

I am looking for an engineer or a scientist! Please. I like nerdy and logical.

They are logical so they won't put up with high BMI or aging

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Anonymous wrote:I mean... do I have to pick one? My DH is an engineer, a musician, and has other creative hobbies as well.

+1

My DH is physicist and also a musician, loves theater, and loves going to art museums too. What a black-and-white, binary question OP is asking. Why the insistence on either/or?

This. Most STEM-y people have significant visual/performing arts or cultural interests and hobbies - they’re not one-sided monoliths. In my experience there’s less crossover from artsy people into STEM expertise or hobbies. This question is like asking “on a scale of one to ten, is this person an 8 or a K?”

OP makes it sound like they are mutually exclusive. I'm an engineer at NASA and have worked on flight mission equipment. NASA Goddard has a Music and Drama club that has been going for 50 years. Over the years we have had MANY STEM employees at NASA who have been musicians, actors, dancers, and combinations. And many of them were married.

Being moderately active in local DC community theater (my wife and I were very active pre-kids), I have known many local community theater men who come from STEM backgrounds. And contrary to popular myth, not all men in theater are gay. I also know many married men who are into music of all genres. I know those in bands of various sorts, those who play in orchestras, those who teach music or arts (as a hobby, not as a career) and many more.

Anonymous wrote:ALPHA

I like my men with common sense and non lazy.

In other words, you like toxic masculinity.