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Anonymous wrote:This is terrible for the environment. Flying so much every week. How entitled you must be!

Flying back and forth hundreds of miles every week just because you want good weather, meanwhile making the global climate unlivable is pretty poor form.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

of course! especially if your kids take advantage of the UC system

Op here….i am dumb and my kids are very little. Are you being sarcastic or how does this work?

Clearly I have a lot to learn!!

The UC system is very good and much less expensive than a lot of other colleges.

California is great. You only have to pay for 12 years of private school but have a great discount on good colleges.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

Of course. The PP is being absolutely ridiculous.

Hardly. Where do they live now?

Anonymous wrote:What do you and your DH do?

Op here. Engineering/infrastructure/energy related fields.

Anonymous wrote:Live anywhere in southern CA near a good airport. At those incomes DW can stay in a hotel one or two nights each week, maybe live near the LA job if you want to live further south. Tons of flights all day long between LAX and other parts of the state. You can also drive or take a train.

At those incomes? This is like barely middle class in those parts of California.

Everyone wants to live in San Diego, but most adults live where the work and other demands make sense. You have nothing tying you to San Diego except you like the weather, like 6B people.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

of course! especially if your kids take advantage of the UC system

Op here….i am dumb and my kids are very little. Are you being sarcastic or how does this work?

Clearly I have a lot to learn!!

The UC system is very good and much less expensive than a lot of other colleges.

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

of course! especially if your kids take advantage of the UC system

Op here….i am dumb and my kids are very little. Are you being sarcastic or how does this work?

Clearly I have a lot to learn!!

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

of course! especially if your kids take advantage of the UC system

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Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

Of course. The PP is being absolutely ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

Op here. What if I find a job in SoCal? Is a combined HHI of 480k enough do you think? With 2 kids?

You can’t afford to live in socal on those salaries, especially with kids. Move to Fresno and commute.

there’s a daily SNA — SJC nonstop on Southwest
~1 hr 30 mins

live in Irvine, Aliso Viejo, Rancho Santa Margarita, Huntington Beach, or Fullerton all w/great schools

I’d go back to both employers and see if you can negotiate full WFH at least for 6-12 mos, with the agreement that you’ll go in once a month or once every 2 weeks. Hopefully one (esp the SJ job) will agree and it will give you time to move to southern CA and either make that work benefit permanent or look for a new job.

To put bluntly, with young kids the current scenario does not seem feasible other than on occasion, certainly not weekly.

Anonymous wrote:You can make this work if you are willing to fly up to San Jose 2 times a week, on days your DH is remote. Your DH can take the train or drive leaving very early (like 4am) from San Diego to LA and commute home. This needs to have a logistical strategy, but you can do it. San Diego is beautiful. Is there not another area you would be interested in living, like Orange County?

That’s not such a high salary for so much travel.

What do you and your DH do?