Anonymous
03/31/2024 10:47
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I loved the newborn stage, and found toddlers to be much more difficult. I would have 50 babies if I could.
Michelle Duggar has entered the chat.
nope, just a regular mom of 3 who likes pregnancies and babies.
Anonymous
03/31/2024 07:26
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
2 years of IVF for DD1, then 4 years of even more IVF for DD2. Spent every waking moment of those years wanting a baby. Every pregnancy announcement made me deeply sad. Every cycle was an obsession.
As soon as DD2 was born it all vanished. She is happiest most adorable baby, now toddler. I knew that was it - i would never spin the roulette wheel of kids again.
We ironically had a natural scare 3 month ago. Was filled with the deepest relief when it was negative. Was a mind f to be on the other side but feels so good to not care anymore. Our family is perfect.
As soon as DD2 was born it all vanished. She is happiest most adorable baby, now toddler. I knew that was it - i would never spin the roulette wheel of kids again.
We ironically had a natural scare 3 month ago. Was filled with the deepest relief when it was negative. Was a mind f to be on the other side but feels so good to not care anymore. Our family is perfect.
Anonymous
03/31/2024 07:24
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I always wanted at least three. But DH was done after two and didn’t want any additional kids. So we stopped at two.
Anonymous
03/31/2024 05:41
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I loved the newborn stage, and found toddlers to be much more difficult. I would have 50 babies if I could.
Michelle Duggar has entered the chat.
Not the PP but I feel the same — I love being pregnant and love newborns. I stopped at 2 because that’s all I could emotionally manage and afford but I totally understand the Michelle Duggar impulse to just keep on having babies. It sucks what happened to the Duggar kids but thanks for being a cautionary tale I guess?
Anonymous
03/30/2024 21:39
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
We got married on the younger side (I was 25). We never really talked about how many kids we wanted other than both knowing we wanted kids. We started when I was 28 and had two boys and then a third, which was a girl. She was born in May 2019. We were both working “big” jobs and did not have local family. We were open to a fourth, but the pandemic came. Working without childcare was horrible and just about did us in and by the time we came up for air a fourth just didn’t seem like it made sense for us. I’m now 38 with a 10, 7, and almost 5 year old and while I am nostalgic for my own to be babies our family feels very complete.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 21:28
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
I knew I'd be one and done before I even got pregnant. One kid felt manageable. More than one seemed like it would be overwhelming to me. Parenting one was good. He's a young adult now. No regrets.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 11:30
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
One and done w a 3 year old. I was on the fence about having another till about a year ago. His autism diagnosis and the extra effort that has required was a big part of it.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 11:24
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
I grew up in a three child family so my hope was three and we had three. The thought of having a fourth never crossed my mind. My husband was happy with two and left the decision up to me. Thankfully he was a very willing participant in making it happen.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 11:00
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:I loved the newborn stage, and found toddlers to be much more difficult. I would have 50 babies if I could.
Michelle Duggar has entered the chat.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 08:18
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Neither DH nor I ever wanted more than 2. I would have been OK with 1, but he really, really wanted 2. And I was OK with 2. The first year after DC1 was born was among the best times in our marriage. DH was an amazing baby dad. We needed a lot of help to get pregnant both times, and we were both older. DH had a hard age cutoff where he didn't want to be having kids past a certain age. So there were a lot of external factors limiting us to 2.
But I don't think my mental health would have survived a 3rd. DH and I once discussed whether we would have had a 3rd if our ages hadn't been a factor, and we both agreed we would not have had more.
But I don't think my mental health would have survived a 3rd. DH and I once discussed whether we would have had a 3rd if our ages hadn't been a factor, and we both agreed we would not have had more.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 08:03
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I’m 39 with two kids under two. My house is so crazy. If I were younger and could have a 3rd after these two are out of diapers, then I think I would go for it. But by the time these two are potty trained I’ll be in my 40s.
Anonymous
03/30/2024 06:55
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Wanted 4 and had 4. Got separated while pregnant with my 4th and because it was also my 3rd C section I went ahead and had them remove my tubes so I’m officially done!
Anonymous
03/30/2024 06:54
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
I loved the newborn stage, and found toddlers to be much more difficult. I would have 50 babies if I could.
Anonymous
03/29/2024 21:24
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:Before having kids, we talked about 2-3 as being the magic family size.
When #2 was 18 months, finally sleeping well, we were getting settled into a toddler/kid kind of mode (DC1 was 3), and it finally felt like we had life under control ... DH brought up the question of whether I was still considering a third.... and I completely lost it at the idea of starting over with another newborn. I had absolutely zero interest in going another year with no sleep, the stress of a baby literally needing access to my body in order to eat... no way. Not happening again. Don't get me wrong, I loved my babies dearly and still coo over newborns when I see them, I just Did Not Want another one of my own.
That's when I knew I was done.
Yes, the newborn stage is not the best. I know so many people (myself included) who have said they would have another if they could skip the newborn phase, or be handed a potty-trained toddler.
Anonymous
03/29/2024 21:13
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Before having kids, we talked about 2-3 as being the magic family size.
When #2 was 18 months, finally sleeping well, we were getting settled into a toddler/kid kind of mode (DC1 was 3), and it finally felt like we had life under control ... DH brought up the question of whether I was still considering a third.... and I completely lost it at the idea of starting over with another newborn. I had absolutely zero interest in going another year with no sleep, the stress of a baby literally needing access to my body in order to eat... no way. Not happening again. Don't get me wrong, I loved my babies dearly and still coo over newborns when I see them, I just Did Not Want another one of my own.
That's when I knew I was done.
When #2 was 18 months, finally sleeping well, we were getting settled into a toddler/kid kind of mode (DC1 was 3), and it finally felt like we had life under control ... DH brought up the question of whether I was still considering a third.... and I completely lost it at the idea of starting over with another newborn. I had absolutely zero interest in going another year with no sleep, the stress of a baby literally needing access to my body in order to eat... no way. Not happening again. Don't get me wrong, I loved my babies dearly and still coo over newborns when I see them, I just Did Not Want another one of my own.
That's when I knew I was done.