NP with parents who have been long divorced and remarried. My husband's family is like that as well. We definitely are all friendly to the "step siblings" (feels weird calling them that since everyone was an adult all around when the remarriages took place) but I wouldn't invite them to my house for a holiday and I wouldn't expect to be invited to theirs. I only seem them or speak with them when we are at our parents house.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

I think you don’t know the definition of pushy.
Being upset with the answer does not fit that description.
I get not really caring for people and not having a lot of space., but frankly OP you do not sound likeable at all.

NP. OP, if I'm following these step-siblings are the biological children of DH's step-father? Therefore your MIL is their step-mother?

I'd be annoyed too, but unless your DH can be honest and direct with his mother, it sounds like the invitation has been made. Your DC will have a just fine Easter as long as you keep it together.

If they didn’t invite you to their wedding, I don’t think they consider you close enough family. I wouldn’t invite them to Easter either.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

Cool, they should invite your family for a nice fun secular passover and not invite you.

Fine by me!

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

Cool, they should invite your family for a nice fun secular passover and not invite you.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!! They do indeed have family at that "holiday" table. Their FATHER!!!

They also have a mother. What about her? I also don't get to see my parents when I go to holidays hosted by my ILs, and I don't make a big deal of it.

But your family is not their family. Like it or not, step-siblings and your husband are all part of the same family.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

Well, they let you know how they feel about your "fun secular Easter" so enjoy your little party of 3.

Will hopefully just be the 8 we actually intended to invite. Good size.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

Well, they let you know how they feel about your "fun secular Easter" so enjoy your little party of 3.

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

I want to have a nice family holiday with fun secular easter things with actual family who love and care about my son. Neither spouse nor the step siblings consider each other family, hence why they did not invite us to their recent wedding, which is fine! If they show up, that's nearly half of the whole gathering who don't even acknowledge him (or us).

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Anonymous wrote:We're hosting Easter brunch this year and MIL is being pushy about including my spouse's (adult) step sibblings. Neither my spouse nor I like the step sibblings and they don't particularly seem to like us either (so hopefully they just won't come). I just feel like if we're hosting we should be able to decide the guest list and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to come. But we'll probably just do it anyway. Not thrilled. Mostly just venting.

I mean, I can understand where she is coming from. But what do you mean when you say she's being pushy? She asked to invite them and... then what?

She asked spouse if they were coming. Spouse deflected till she directly asked if they were invited, and then got upset when the answer was no. Spouse doesn't do well with anyone being upset so wants to just invite to keep the peace and just hope they don't show.

But what do you all normally do? If the Easter tradition is that everyone gets together and you've decided to only invite half the family then you're putting her in an awkward position. Maybe hosting the family isn't for you if you want to draw lines in sand and force the grandparents to choose. So much for peace and renewal and the spirit of Easter.

This. If they are always included you can't just decide you're hosting this year so you can cut off the people you don't care for. I mean you can but that's incredibly rude. If the family is not typically all together then MIL is being obnoxious expecting you to invite them if she doesn't.

Easter is not usually a big thing on either side (most of us aren’t even Christian). Some years we have big gatherings (if mil or my mom host), other years nothing at all, sometimes just a few people.I was excited ab hosting this year bc my son just turned 3 and he’s finally starting to get into holidays. The steps barely acknowledge his existence.

So you're not Christian, but are deciding to host an "Easter brunch" that excludes half the family and you want to show your son how to really get into the holiday by settling scores and shunning certain family members? Well, ok then. Kids are usually more the merrier but I can see you all care more about making a point than family togetherness. Why bother? Just have breakfast on Saturday and only invite MIL.

Anonymous wrote:Let your DH work it out with MIL. Stay out of it.

And if his way of working it out is inviting his step siblings?

Let your DH work it out with MIL. Stay out of it.

I feel like people have already figured out their easter plans at this point. Invite them and hope they don't come?

Which ones are the Christians? Presumably they should take the lead.