Anonymous wrote:FFS: ask them to move. I kicked out an anti abortion kid who wouldn't give a seat to me when I was 9mo. along. I looked her in the eye and said, get out. She did. I also asked various metro riders too but was nice to them. Nobody objected ever.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 7 months pregnant and took the metro yesterday during rush hour to downtown dc. I work from home, so I'm not usually on the metro but I am quite frustrated and annoyed with the other passengers on my ride.

Given that it was rush hour, the car was crowded and there were "no" seats to be had. I placed the no in quotes because technically there were empty seats but people placed their shopping bags/purses next to them or were using an entire seat as a chaise lounge with their feet stretched out to the end, leaving no room. So I had to stand very visibly pregnant without a single person moving their legs or bags to make room. I was especially annoyed with the several people closer to me towards the front of the car who I made eye contact with and never moved their bags or legs, including someone who looked to be an able-bodied adult male.

Is chivalry or polite gestures this dead? I'm not looking for over-the-top accommodations, but I assumed it would be the polite thing to move your things or feet and make room for a pregnant lady.

I recognize that I could have asked passengers to move their bags or legs, but I take placing bags on seats - and especially using a seats as your leg rest - to be hostile acts and I hate confrontation. I just thought it was polite and standard practice to make all seats available in any situation, but ESPECIALLY when a rider is very obviously pregnant.

Sorry for the rant (blame it on the pregnancy hormones) - I was just very disappointed with the lack of manners displayed on that ride. Has anyone else experienced this or do passengers usually make room for pregnant ladies?

I offered my seat to a pregnant woman, she got really angry because she turned out to be just fat, so i stopped doing it

Anonymous wrote:Very similar experience when I was hugely pregnant with twins in 2008. The only people ever to offer seats were Black and Latino men and Black women. White men were the absolute worst and actually refused at times to give up their seats when I asked (I’m also white so it was assh0lery not racism).

Anonymous wrote:I'm 7 months pregnant and took the metro yesterday during rush hour to downtown dc. I work from home, so I'm not usually on the metro but I am quite frustrated and annoyed with the other passengers on my ride.

Given that it was rush hour, the car was crowded and there were "no" seats to be had. I placed the no in quotes because technically there were empty seats but people placed their shopping bags/purses next to them or were using an entire seat as a chaise lounge with their feet stretched out to the end, leaving no room. So I had to stand very visibly pregnant without a single person moving their legs or bags to make room. I was especially annoyed with the several people closer to me towards the front of the car who I made eye contact with and never moved their bags or legs, including someone who looked to be an able-bodied adult male.

Is chivalry or polite gestures this dead? I'm not looking for over-the-top accommodations, but I assumed it would be the polite thing to move your things or feet and make room for a pregnant lady.

I recognize that I could have asked passengers to move their bags or legs, but I take placing bags on seats - and especially using a seats as your leg rest - to be hostile acts and I hate confrontation. I just thought it was polite and standard practice to make all seats available in any situation, but ESPECIALLY when a rider is very obviously pregnant.

Sorry for the rant (blame it on the pregnancy hormones) - I was just very disappointed with the lack of manners displayed on that ride. Has anyone else experienced this or do passengers usually make room for pregnant ladies?

Anonymous wrote:I'm 7 months pregnant and took the metro yesterday during rush hour to downtown dc. I work from home, so I'm not usually on the metro but I am quite frustrated and annoyed with the other passengers on my ride.

Given that it was rush hour, the car was crowded and there were "no" seats to be had. I placed the no in quotes because technically there were empty seats but people placed their shopping bags/purses next to them or were using an entire seat as a chaise lounge with their feet stretched out to the end, leaving no room. So I had to stand very visibly pregnant without a single person moving their legs or bags to make room. I was especially annoyed with the several people closer to me towards the front of the car who I made eye contact with and never moved their bags or legs, including someone who looked to be an able-bodied adult male.

Is chivalry or polite gestures this dead? I'm not looking for over-the-top accommodations, but I assumed it would be the polite thing to move your things or feet and make room for a pregnant lady.

I recognize that I could have asked passengers to move their bags or legs, but I take placing bags on seats - and especially using a seats as your leg rest - to be hostile acts and I hate confrontation. I just thought it was polite and standard practice to make all seats available in any situation, but ESPECIALLY when a rider is very obviously pregnant.

Sorry for the rant (blame it on the pregnancy hormones) - I was just very disappointed with the lack of manners displayed on that ride. Has anyone else experienced this or do passengers usually make room for pregnant ladies?