Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 13:13     Subject: Re:Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:There is someone who is on a tear this morning across this forum who NEEDS to blame people for not having perfect foresight in relationships.

Girl, we get that you are perfect.


No one is blaming anyone for not having perfect relationships and you are gaslighting. They are pointing out that people need to be responsible for their choices and don’t blame others for their bad judgment.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 13:10     Subject: Re:Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
There is someone who is on a tear this morning across this forum who NEEDS to blame people for not having perfect foresight in relationships.

Girl, we get that you are perfect.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 13:08     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.


That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?


um yes you definitely can lol


+1 lol
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 10:56     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.


That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?


um yes you definitely can lol


Definition of selfishness. Why would you bring a child into the world with parents who don’t love each other. You are a bad individual.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 10:54     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.


That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?


um yes you definitely can lol


Stupid people so, yes.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 10:52     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some exes are friends.

My ex and I had a nasty divorce, and are not friends by any means, but will chit-chat here and there about topics other than the kids. We are forced to have a relationship so best to make the most of it.

Then why not stay married and work out your issues? Friendship is the basis of a good marriage. Why divorce just to continue carrying on?


Friendship is a necessary but not sufficient requirement of marriage. Would you marry every friend you have?

Your question comes from a frankly old-fashioned, sexist perspective that men and women cannot be friends without sexual interest. I have a lot of male friends, but I have zero interest in any kind of intimate relationship with them - sometimes I'm not physically attracted, know their communication or attachment styles don't meet mine, dislike their financial priorities, know we want different ls in life or to live in different places.

There are a million reasons why people can be good friends and not be suitable for marriage.

In fact, I would be more worried if an ex-wife wouldn't talk to an ex-husband - that would be a signal that something went pretty wrong.


This would only support your argument if you were male.

Op, plenty of people regret divorce.


THIS. Talking several times a week after divorcing, especially when the kids are adults is a sign that there is still something there btwn the two of them.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 21:34     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.


That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?


um yes you definitely can lol
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 21:23     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who got a divorce five years ago and he recently told me that he talks to her regularly, as in several times a week. He claims he's not still in love with her, but I think he just doesn't want to admit it to me. Maybe he needs to still sort out his feelings. Their kids are now adults.


Constant contact and talking to someone you raised children to adulthood with regularly are pretty far apart on a spectrum. I myself happen to have divorced my ex wife about five years ago, and at first we remained essentially a pinned thread on a message board of our own mutual isolation from the rest of society, info dumping each other . I don't know what sense of community your friend has to replace a woman he raised children to adulthood with but maybe just take for granted it's a difficult thing to transition from building a life with one family to moving on from that as if it passed into eternity.


Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 21:05     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.


There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.


Yes, there is. He is incompetent.


And constant kid pickup and extracurricular stuff. We have busy jobs and no family or friends nearby
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:32     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.


There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.


Yes, there is. He is incompetent.


And you didn’t know this before?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:32     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.


There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.


Yes, there is. He is incompetent.


You’re incompetent if you have children with someone who you claim as incompetent.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:31     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.


That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:30     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.


There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.


Yes, there is. He is incompetent.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:30     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other


This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:28     Subject: Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?
Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.


There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.