Report her? Ignore her? This is crazy. You have a professional who works with 20+ kids. Who has stated a concern with your child. Why wouldn’t you follow up & get your child evaluated?

OP, are you in VA? Why is your September birthday the oldest in transitional kindergarten?

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Anonymous wrote:Opposing opinion here. Our child’s 2nd grade teacher said something similar to us. Considering she has far more experience with children’s’ behaviors than we do, we took our child to two different offices to be evaluated. Sure enough, it led to therapy and a much better path through school than we would have experienced otherwise.

I agree about paying attention to what the teacher is observing. So many parents complain that teachers never gave them a clue that a problem/issue existed. Consider it a gift that you got such important and useful feedback.

BS.

NP. Defensive and angry, that’s a good approach to life.

You’re not np and you don’t like that I called it what it is on your bs.

I was a NP, and you and some others are bananas. The teacher is likely genuinely merely trying to help. Keep your heads in the sand, it’s a great and mature approach.

plus 1. The teachers are around the kids all day. Some of these parents, don’t like the answer so they want to cry and whine about who gave them the information

OP The teacher said she used to gloss over this kind of thing, but come second grade and the kid is falling behind, the parents would ask, why didn't you tell me you noticed anything wrong? So she told me. I trust her. I have a ped appointment on Monday. I just need to find out what I can do to help him. She said as of now, he won't qualify for a 504 plan because it's not affecting his academics or ability to make friends, so it's just something to be aware of, and watch and wait. But if early diagnosis is so beneficial, then I will seek help as early as possible. I know so many ADD adults who are thriving in life, so I don't know why this is all so upsetting to me.

Anonymous wrote:My son is in TK and turned five in September. Next year he will be in Kindergarten.
His TK teacher told me that he is very inattentive, sometimes she says things and she can tell he didn't listen to a word of it, and that while not the worst in the class, it definitely sticks out. She suggested because he's so young, wait until next year to get him evaluated. He isn't hyperactive and is learning all the things he should well, but I notice that he also doesn't listen to his soccer and baseball coaches, his head is sort of in the clouds and he's off doing his own thing when the other kids are listening. Would you heed her advice and wait to address this or is it one of those things where its better to address earlier? I don't know what to do, and it's stressing me out.

You mean a small child doesn't want to sit still and focus on learning for several hours at a time? Sarcasm aside, I think modern adults have too high of expectations of childhood attention spans and they want to clini-size children far too often. School and even structured sports are boring for many children. Bored children struggle to pay attention.

Not everything needs a clinical diagnosis. Trust your gut. Many children grow out of it too.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Yes, he can focus on a book. He isn't hyperactive at all, just inattentive, like she will be telling the class something and he's off doing his own thing. It's the same with soccer. He sticks out like a sore thumb because he's laying down or playing in the dirt, not listening.
The teacher wants to meet and discuss this today. So it hasn't gotten better. Let's say he is ADD, what do I do? Get him diagnosed and give him meds? Seems so young to be giving meds. I am still weary of the add diagnosis places because I feel like any five year old boy that goes in they will say has ADD.

Teacher here and most five-year-old boys don’t exhibit that behavior. It’s true that some do and it’s not unusual. But it does indicate a need for evaluation for inattentive ADD. You can save him SO much heartache by addressing this early.

+1 on the heartache. My son wasn't diagnosed 2e until late middle school because before that he was just that kid in the class who doesn't cause problems and got decent enough grades. Then a teacher started doing notebook checks, and he regularly had one sentence of notes after a 30 minute class and didn't think he'd missed anything! He was missing everything.

Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Settings change behavior. Sometimes you don't realize how much you are naturally propping up an inattentive kid at home. It falls apart when you aren't around.

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Anonymous wrote:Opposing opinion here. Our child’s 2nd grade teacher said something similar to us. Considering she has far more experience with children’s’ behaviors than we do, we took our child to two different offices to be evaluated. Sure enough, it led to therapy and a much better path through school than we would have experienced otherwise.

I agree about paying attention to what the teacher is observing. So many parents complain that teachers never gave them a clue that a problem/issue existed. Consider it a gift that you got such important and useful feedback.

BS.

NP. Defensive and angry, that’s a good approach to life.

You’re not np and you don’t like that I called it what it is on your bs.

I was a NP, and you and some others are bananas. The teacher is likely genuinely merely trying to help. Keep your heads in the sand, it’s a great and mature approach.

plus 1. The teachers are around the kids all day. Some of these parents, don’t like the answer so they want to cry and whine about who gave them the information

Anonymous wrote:Report her. She's not qualified to make a diagnosis. Also, consider putting him in another TK class.

You are definitely my least favorite kind of parent. Something doesn’t go your way, transfer kid, get teacher that doesn’t make much in trouble as well? Ugh

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Yes, he can focus on a book. He isn't hyperactive at all, just inattentive, like she will be telling the class something and he's off doing his own thing. It's the same with soccer. He sticks out like a sore thumb because he's laying down or playing in the dirt, not listening.
The teacher wants to meet and discuss this today. So it hasn't gotten better. Let's say he is ADD, what do I do? Get him diagnosed and give him meds? Seems so young to be giving meds. I am still weary of the add diagnosis places because I feel like any five year old boy that goes in they will say has ADD.

Teacher here and most five-year-old boys don’t exhibit that behavior. It’s true that some do and it’s not unusual. But it does indicate a need for evaluation for inattentive ADD. You can save him SO much heartache by addressing this early.

Anonymous wrote:Report her. She's not qualified to make a diagnosis. Also, consider putting him in another TK class.

Report a teacher who cared enough about a child’s wellbeing to speak up? Would you rather that he or she did not say anything based on years of experience with children this age? Early diagnosis can make a world of difference not only in educational outcomes but in terms of self-esteem. Lack thereof can lead to depression and substance abuse down the line. Years and years of being called out or even punished for misbehavior in school leaves kids feeling like garbage. Your suggestion to “report “ a professional trying to give a parent an early clue about how their child is behaving is just awful.

Due to my adhd and DD’s anxiety / extreme outbursts we started down this road with her in preschool. We already suspected problems and her teacher flagged some trouble. It took 6 months to see a developmental ped who then recommended OT. It turns out one of her problems is low muscle tone and grip strength which affects sitting still and concentrating as well as the ability to do things like use a pencil or color inside the lines or use scissors. We had no idea that there were physical aspects to her challenges. (We’d tested her hearing multiple times and she had speech therapy when she was younger as well.)

The developmental ped didn’t see ADHD (just anxiety) and at age 6 referred us to a psychiatrist. After a few months working with her, and based on evaluations from teachers and us, diagnosed her with ADHD. It didn’t change anything for us as that’s what we assumed all along.

She’s not currently struggling academically (she does have a tendency to either space out or have outbursts that affect her socially) so the doctor suggested, given the end of the year, we don’t medicate now and revisit it next year when she’ll be older, in a different social setting etc. In the meantime she wants to start martial arts and we all think that would be good for exercise and regulation.

Long story short, the process of diagnostics can take years (it was first flagged for us 3.5 years before diagnosis) and even then it’s just information - you don’t have to medicate or make other changes.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Yes, he can focus on a book. He isn't hyperactive at all, just inattentive, like she will be telling the class something and he's off doing his own thing. It's the same with soccer. He sticks out like a sore thumb because he's laying down or playing in the dirt, not listening.
The teacher wants to meet and discuss this today. So it hasn't gotten better. Let's say he is ADD, what do I do? Get him diagnosed and give him meds? Seems so young to be giving meds. I am still weary of the add diagnosis places because I feel like any five year old boy that goes in they will say has ADD.

School is almost out so you have the whole summer between TK and K to work on school appropriate behavior. If he turned 5 last Sept, then he is on the older side of the class. His teacher was comparing his behavior to younger boys in class, I wouldn't brush it off as just your son being young. He will be among the oldest again and maybe with any luck there will be much younger boys with worse behavior so the new teacher won't compare him so unfavorably.

What can I do to work on his behavior? I guess I will get some books but most seem to be geared towards the hyperactive side. He seems the opposite of hyperactive, almost lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Yes, he can focus on a book. He isn't hyperactive at all, just inattentive, like she will be telling the class something and he's off doing his own thing. It's the same with soccer. He sticks out like a sore thumb because he's laying down or playing in the dirt, not listening.
The teacher wants to meet and discuss this today. So it hasn't gotten better. Let's say he is ADD, what do I do? Get him diagnosed and give him meds? Seems so young to be giving meds. I am still weary of the add diagnosis places because I feel like any five year old boy that goes in they will say has ADD.

School is almost out so you have the whole summer between TK and K to work on school appropriate behavior. If he turned 5 last Sept, then he is on the older side of the class. His teacher was comparing his behavior to younger boys in class, I wouldn't brush it off as just your son being young. He will be among the oldest again and maybe with any luck there will be much younger boys with worse behavior so the new teacher won't compare him so unfavorably.

I agree that you shouldn’t leap to medicate (and I do medicate my ADHD kid) but it’s not medication or nothing. You can learn more about it and use some of the parenting strategies for kids with inattentive ADHD even if you don’t have the diagnosis. For example, kids with ADHD often hyper focus on preferred activities and/or have time blindness, and there are ways to combat that.

Anonymous wrote:Do you not see it at home?

Can he follow multiple step directions? Can he focus on listening to a book?

Yes, he can focus on a book. He isn't hyperactive at all, just inattentive, like she will be telling the class something and he's off doing his own thing. It's the same with soccer. He sticks out like a sore thumb because he's laying down or playing in the dirt, not listening.
The teacher wants to meet and discuss this today. So it hasn't gotten better. Let's say he is ADD, what do I do? Get him diagnosed and give him meds? Seems so young to be giving meds. I am still weary of the add diagnosis places because I feel like any five year old boy that goes in they will say has ADD.