I’m married, but I always liked a happy hour first date. I would try to get there a little early and get my own glass of wine, that way I could dip out easily after one drink if I wasn’t feeling it, and if we did hit it off we could segue into dinner.

A walk date seems awkward because there’s not a natural end point.

Anonymous wrote:The first date DH and I went on, we walked through faneuil hall in Boston and then got snacks and drinks and went to the waterfront to look at the boats and keep talking. It was amazing. He is not a cheap person.

Similar experience to PP, here. One of my best first dates ever, maybe the best, was walking around Navy Pier in Chicago. I remember I didn't feel like going, and the guy's suggestion to walk around seemed low investment/cheap to me, but I dragged myself out of the apartment to go meet him and had an amazing time. We walked around and around talking the whole time, then realized it was late and popped into a restaurant and ate dinner.

But these experiences, both mine and PP's, involve walking around something that people actually travel to walk around. Not just down the street in the neighborhood or something.

I’m so old (age). I have been with Dh for over 20 years and never got to do online dating.

I was thinking about heels and walking. I would not want to go on a walking date on a first date, assuming I made some effort and got dressed to go on this date.

Is the disagreement about walking so the guy doesn’t have to buy coffee or dinner?

That sounds cheap and awful. I would not want to go on a walking date. If I liked the guy and I was wearing comfortable shoes and the weather was nice, I would love to take a walk AFTER coffee or dinner or a drink.

Why is she upset about something that doesn't affect her? She's not going on first dates (presumably?!) right now if you're so in love. So is she very upset about it or is this one of those silly debates couples have for fun?

I've had walking dates. They're nice.

Your girlfriend is stupid. Dates should not be about spending, or not spending, money. They're about meeting people and finding common ground. The idea that a man should spend a lot to please a woman on a date is repulsive.

- happily married woman who didn't need her husband to spend much on dates.

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound exhausting and the fact that neither of you can't let this simple crap go does not bode well for your future.

What might be simple for some of you might not be simple for others. My gf is very upset over it and would benefit from alternative perspectives

Let's be real it's not your girlfriend. It's you and you are the same troll as the engagement ring thread, and you need to find better things to do with your time.

Stop feeding the troll!!!!

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.

So this has nothing to do with you.

Someone happened to mention that they thought walking dates were cheap.

So what. Thats true, walking dates cost nothing and are cheap. So what. You can read into them either way. So what.

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Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.

What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?

We went for coffee which we both enjoyed. If you have not got anything better to do than post nasty comments,then do t even bother posting.

If you had a nice first date with her that met both of your needs, why are you discussing other men's "disrespectful" first date strategies? If she thinks those dates were disrespectful, fine. I wouldn't. You clearly don't. But she is her own person with her own needs. It sounds like her main complaint is that she found a lot of the men she met online did not want to put any effort into getting to know her or going on real dates. She does not seem to have that complaint with you. Problem solved.

The problem is not solved, because she still feels bitter about it and is sometimes even angry about it

With someone like you around picking arguments about everything, yeah. Everyone must seem just like that.

Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self OP.

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound exhausting and the fact that neither of you can't let this simple crap go does not bode well for your future.

What might be simple for some of you might not be simple for others. My gf is very upset over it and would benefit from alternative perspectives

Lol. Thank goodness she has you to enlighten her and “prove” her wrong via crowd sourcing on idiotic DCUM.
Pls disclose this all to her and give us an update!

Anonymous wrote:Lol.
That’s one way to eliminate the fatties and women who only want to overdress and wear high heels. Walking date! 3 mile minimums. No drinks afterwards, just cut and run.

Whoops, fattie hiker here. you’re missing out.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that with OLD a lot of men are tired of the expense of paying for date after date after date that results in no connection. So walking dates make sense, I guess. I would see it as a lack of investment, though, if I were the one asked on a walking date -- I'd go, but the person might have a bit of a hole to crawl out of.

Dude, fix your filter process if that’s your issue.

PP here. Not a dude and not on OLD.

Stop arguing about nonsense

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Anonymous wrote:Pay peanuts, get monkeys.

This. Dating is an investment of time and resources. You're telling stories about yourself with your choices and actions, not just your words. You don't need to go overboard (that's just the opposite side of this problem), but you shouldn't skimp, either.

You and the PP, clearly, don't consider time a 'resource'. You, just as clearly, consider money the superior resource - an 'ante' a man has to pony up in order to play your dating game. How old fashioned and patriarchal. It's a new millennium.

I'm 58 and much prefer a walking first date. My time is far more valuable than a cup of coffee or lunch. There's less pressure, I like movement, I like seeing things and it's a great opportunity to see if there's potential between us. If it goes well, we can get coffee afterwards.

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.

You are right. There is no need to spend bug bucks on first date, unless you two are millionaires. If woman has an issue, she can say no and instead arrange and pay for a first date she prefers. First date is just a friendly screening meeting.

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Anonymous wrote:You both sound exhausting and the fact that neither of you can't let this simple crap go does not bode well for your future.

What might be simple for some of you might not be simple for others. My gf is very upset over it and would benefit from alternative perspectives

Let's be real it's not your girlfriend. It's you and you are the same troll as the engagement ring thread, and you need to find better things to do with your time.

I think so too.