Anonymous wrote:If SHE is the one who wants to move to a higher level of care, it’s wrong to try to prevent that. I’m confused why the siblings would interfere. It’s her decision.

This. It sounds like your mom is still aware of her situation enough to make reasonable decisions, so I see no reason for a sibling to override her - especially if some siblings support your mom's decision. I'm assuming this is AL within the same CCRC, so that makes everything even simpler.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that there is a right decision. Either one sounds reasonable. I would default to the closest child or the one that would have to pick up the slack in which ever situation.

Why not default to the mom in this case? She says her memory is bad. I’m sure she’s been hiding it from the kids. Give her some agency.