Anonymous wrote:I don’t go on second or third dates with people I’m not interested in- ever. I’m an attractive F in her 40s. Most men I screen out with a coffee date. If they make it to a proper dinner date, definitely some making out/get a feel for them sexually. Third date id sleep with them. I’m not interested in ONS as emotional and sexual vulnerability and actual want are my turn ons. It’s easy to match with men when you’re pretty- harder to find ones you want to get naked with.

It appears you have no interest finding more about their personality before “test driving”. I’m the same - never see past coffee date those I’m not interested. But let’s say I was sexually interested at first date: my initial positive assessment of his attractiveness may actually change after 5-6 dates based on what he was saying, how he behaved etc.
It’s more important to me to gauge personality first - how he reciprocates emotionally, if we have common interests or on same life stages, how he speaks of other women etc.
I would have to sleep with too many guys if I used sexual vulnerability as main criteria. Couple dates is not enough time to get to know the person

After 3-4 dates but must include daily texting, assuming good connection and building up of attraction.

The one time I slept with someone on date 2 was a mistake. Sex was good but we weren't compatible at all and overall wasn't a good relationship.

I don’t go on second or third dates with people I’m not interested in- ever. I’m an attractive F in her 40s. Most men I screen out with a coffee date. If they make it to a proper dinner date, definitely some making out/get a feel for them sexually. Third date id sleep with them. I’m not interested in ONS as emotional and sexual vulnerability and actual want are my turn ons. It’s easy to match with men when you’re pretty- harder to find ones you want to get naked with.

Anonymous wrote:Someone who says smash and pass is not connection worthy.

Exactly. Child.

Anonymous wrote:Usually around date 3 if I think there is potential for a relationship. Never slept with anyone on date 1. Sometimes on date 2. Sometimes date 4. If I have not slept with them by date 4 usually means nothing going on.

(I married the man I slept with on date 2).

Ha that is for you. I married a man I slept with in 3 months after first meeting.

Usually around date 3 if I think there is potential for a relationship. Never slept with anyone on date 1. Sometimes on date 2. Sometimes date 4. If I have not slept with them by date 4 usually means nothing going on.

(I married the man I slept with on date 2).

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Anonymous wrote:Well it was about 4-5 hours into the first date for me.

Nasty

Frigid

You gonna end up in a ditch somewhere.

These people sleeping with OLD immediately are frickin' scary. Any normal person is 'frigid', yeah, ok.

Screw loose in the head, not just between the legs...

And those STIs they catch from towels---they aren't dirty people. lmaof

Anonymous wrote:Assume two middle-aged adults, neither with kids at home anymore.

I know married people that go from one online meet to bringing them back to the home and boning bareback.

The world has gone nuts with OLD.

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Anonymous wrote:Well it was about 4-5 hours into the first date for me.

Nasty

Frigid

You gonna end up in a ditch somewhere.

These people sleeping with OLD immediately are frickin' scary. Any normal person is 'frigid', yeah, ok.

Screw loose in the head, not just between the legs...

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Anonymous wrote:If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

so no emotional connection needed, just need to be h*rny, right?

I’m a different female, and it happens rather often to me that he’s just making me horny but I don’t feel emotional connection. I keep my knees closed and move on, don't sleep. There are toys for that. If women you were seeing were sleeping with others in parallel, it doesn’t mean all women do that.

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Anonymous wrote:If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

I'm a man and understand this completely. I'm similar, but i never actually did it on the first date.

I suspect the prior post was actually written by a woman. Several women have shattered me with this. I've gotten to date number four, date number five or even date number ten and figured out that the women were casually sleeping with other men but not with me.

I try not to do that with women. I'll say I think we should just be friends by date number three or four.

I’m a woman and I tell upfront that I see socially several men when I’m dating. Once I sleep with someone I stop seeing others. And I never see anyone past date 3 if I’m not feeling horny about them. Also offer alternate paying for dates or if he’s not comfortable pick inexpensive outings. But it’s really important to do it on my own time. Guys gave me “ick” moments on date 6-7 several times, and I was grateful I didn’t sleep with them. It’s about a month if I can see him often (2-3 days a week, daily talk) do I can gauge personality. Or couple months of slow flow going out once a week in no rush

Anonymous wrote:If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

I'm a man and understand this completely. I'm similar, but i never actually did it on the first date.

I suspect the prior post was actually written by a woman. Several women have shattered me with this. I've gotten to date number four, date number five or even date number ten and figured out that the women were casually sleeping with other men but not with me.

I try not to do that with women. I'll say I think we should just be friends by date number three or four.

Anonymous wrote:If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

so no emotional connection needed, just need to be h*rny, right?

Someone who says smash and pass is not connection worthy.

Anonymous wrote:Well for me as a guy I’ve had women I met sleep with me the first night multiple times, the second date too.

Most by the third.

If you’re a good looking guy with a good job and stay in shape it’s like shooting fish in a barrel honestly. Lots of thirsty single moms.

If I want something serious - finding her online is not where I look. Every single woman I met online is smash and pass only.

Where do you look for serious connections ?