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Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Me too. The PP pointed out the stuff isn’t worth anything. But collectively it is. I’m the one who has $10k worth of $20-$200 items. It’s hard when it’s so much stuff. I’m back and forth between selling on Facebook marketplace, finding an auction house that will take lower value items or finding a consignment store. There’s an adorable shop in Gainesville or Haymarket (?) that takes cute things. I don’t know their commission structure but at this point don’t care. I’m also going to send some high end clothes to ThredUp. May not make a penny but I’ll feel better about the situation. I’m drowning in stuff.

Start by picking a couple of things you think are worth the most. Try selling them, and keep track of how much time it takes you to to get it fully gone, including photographing and emailing potential buyers, driving a load of stuff to a charming place that will sell on commission, etc.

I am one of the people who keeps saying it's not actually worth anything, and I don't mean to breeze past the fact that for some people, $1000 is going to pay for a month of PT for your parent. Just understand that getting that $1000 may take 100 hours of work. Can you spare it?

I’m the PP and logically I know you’re 100% right and I’m going to be drowning in this stuff for a long time. I don’t know why I can’t just let go. I don’t want any of it and my kids don’t want it. What is wrong with me?? Maybe I should host an open house with all my friends and let them go through the stuff, then donate. At least that way it may bring people I care about joy.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

There was an article in the post about a couple who did that. It worked pretty well!
DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Me too. The PP pointed out the stuff isn’t worth anything. But collectively it is. I’m the one who has $10k worth of $20-$200 items. It’s hard when it’s so much stuff. I’m back and forth between selling on Facebook marketplace, finding an auction house that will take lower value items or finding a consignment store. There’s an adorable shop in Gainesville or Haymarket (?) that takes cute things. I don’t know their commission structure but at this point don’t care. I’m also going to send some high end clothes to ThredUp. May not make a penny but I’ll feel better about the situation. I’m drowning in stuff.

Start by picking a couple of things you think are worth the most. Try selling them, and keep track of how much time it takes you to to get it fully gone, including photographing and emailing potential buyers, driving a load of stuff to a charming place that will sell on commission, etc.

I am one of the people who keeps saying it's not actually worth anything, and I don't mean to breeze past the fact that for some people, $1000 is going to pay for a month of PT for your parent. Just understand that getting that $1000 may take 100 hours of work. Can you spare it?

I’m the PP and logically I know you’re 100% right and I’m going to be drowning in this stuff for a long time. I don’t know why I can’t just let go. I don’t want any of it and my kids don’t want it. What is wrong with me?? Maybe I should host an open house with all my friends and let them go through the stuff, then donate. At least that way it may bring people I care about joy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

There was an article in the post about a couple who did that. It worked pretty well!
DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Me too. The PP pointed out the stuff isn’t worth anything. But collectively it is. I’m the one who has $10k worth of $20-$200 items. It’s hard when it’s so much stuff. I’m back and forth between selling on Facebook marketplace, finding an auction house that will take lower value items or finding a consignment store. There’s an adorable shop in Gainesville or Haymarket (?) that takes cute things. I don’t know their commission structure but at this point don’t care. I’m also going to send some high end clothes to ThredUp. May not make a penny but I’ll feel better about the situation. I’m drowning in stuff.

Start by picking a couple of things you think are worth the most. Try selling them, and keep track of how much time it takes you to to get it fully gone, including photographing and emailing potential buyers, driving a load of stuff to a charming place that will sell on commission, etc.

I am one of the people who keeps saying it's not actually worth anything, and I don't mean to breeze past the fact that for some people, $1000 is going to pay for a month of PT for your parent. Just understand that getting that $1000 may take 100 hours of work. Can you spare it?

I’m the PP and logically I know you’re 100% right and I’m going to be drowning in this stuff for a long time. I don’t know why I can’t just let go. I don’t want any of it and my kids don’t want it. What is wrong with me?? Maybe I should host an open house with all my friends and let them go through the stuff, then donate. At least that way it may bring people I care about joy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Me too. The PP pointed out the stuff isn’t worth anything. But collectively it is. I’m the one who has $10k worth of $20-$200 items. It’s hard when it’s so much stuff. I’m back and forth between selling on Facebook marketplace, finding an auction house that will take lower value items or finding a consignment store. There’s an adorable shop in Gainesville or Haymarket (?) that takes cute things. I don’t know their commission structure but at this point don’t care. I’m also going to send some high end clothes to ThredUp. May not make a penny but I’ll feel better about the situation. I’m drowning in stuff.

Start by picking a couple of things you think are worth the most. Try selling them, and keep track of how much time it takes you to to get it fully gone, including photographing and emailing potential buyers, driving a load of stuff to a charming place that will sell on commission, etc.

I am one of the people who keeps saying it's not actually worth anything, and I don't mean to breeze past the fact that for some people, $1000 is going to pay for a month of PT for your parent. Just understand that getting that $1000 may take 100 hours of work. Can you spare it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Me too. The PP pointed out the stuff isn’t worth anything. But collectively it is. I’m the one who has $10k worth of $20-$200 items. It’s hard when it’s so much stuff. I’m back and forth between selling on Facebook marketplace, finding an auction house that will take lower value items or finding a consignment store. There’s an adorable shop in Gainesville or Haymarket (?) that takes cute things. I don’t know their commission structure but at this point don’t care. I’m also going to send some high end clothes to ThredUp. May not make a penny but I’ll feel better about the situation. I’m drowning in stuff.

Anonymous wrote:Estate sales companies enrich themselves, not you.

Call a couple of auction houses to see if they want your stuff. They charge lower commissions than estate sales companies.

If the auction houses don't want it, try Freecycle or Buy Nothing. The idea is not to get money out of it, but not to have to pay to get rid of it.

Finally, there are junk haulers, some of which work with charities so you can donate the stuff. But it may be landfill time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

DP I want to have this mindset but it is very hard to overcome the thoughts about how much money I might potentially be giving away.

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's comforting to know an item found a good home. But if you can let-go of this thinking, this need to know, the process is so much easier. Donate. Have some trust in the universe, that the item will be found by someone who needs it. Someone who wants it. Donate freely without knowing. Let go of the mindset that you should be getting what-it's-worth. Not every decision needs to be maximized. It's charity. It's a charitable act.

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Anonymous wrote:When we were closing up my parents' home we listed a lot of furniture for free on Facebook marketplace. People came to the house to pick it up and were heartbreakingly grateful.

Yeah but you'll still get people who want you to deliver it to them.

Plus people who try the cashier's check scam ("I want you to ship me the furniture, I'll send you a cashier's check for it").

Anonymous wrote:Sadly real wood furniture is not in style now. Young people want furniture made in China.

Check auction houses and estate sales houses.

Anonymous wrote:When we were closing up my parents' home we listed a lot of furniture for free on Facebook marketplace. People came to the house to pick it up and were heartbreakingly grateful.