Anonymous wrote:I think cyclic vomiting syndrome is more likely. My kid has this (never formally diagnosed but the Dr and I and my mom who is also a Dr all think this is what it is) and used to have a bout of throwing up about once per month and always in the late afternoon/evening and extending into the night but has luckily mostly grown out of it we think. It doesn’t matter what foods they have, it could be anything and it’s not a virus bc others in the family never get it.

+1

I posted pretty much the same thing- my DD has it too. Her description sounds just like it…and she probably outgrew it as most do.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away several years ago, so I can't ask her. I can't think of how my being sick might have benefitted her. I wouldn't even tell her, if it was at night, since I knew she wouldn't do anything. I just toughed it out. I suspect she heard me getting up to vomit all night, but she didn't check on me. I don't even recall her bringing me any medicine or ginger ale to help my stomach during waking hours. As I get older, I realize more and more how strange my childhood was. When you are in the midst of it, you just assume that the weird stuff is normal.

I am thinking of the mini series you would probably be interested in, with I think Emma Stone (?) about an estranged young lady who goes to her hometown to investigate a murder…
Maybe someone will remember the name. It vaguely reminded me of your story…

Sorry it was Amy Adams
https://www.hbo.com/sharp-objects

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Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away several years ago, so I can't ask her. I can't think of how my being sick might have benefitted her. I wouldn't even tell her, if it was at night, since I knew she wouldn't do anything. I just toughed it out. I suspect she heard me getting up to vomit all night, but she didn't check on me. I don't even recall her bringing me any medicine or ginger ale to help my stomach during waking hours. As I get older, I realize more and more how strange my childhood was. When you are in the midst of it, you just assume that the weird stuff is normal.

I am thinking of the mini series you would probably be interested in, with I think Emma Stone (?) about an estranged young lady who goes to her hometown to investigate a murder…
Maybe someone will remember the name. It vaguely reminded me of your story…

I think that was Sharp Objects with Amy Adams on HBO.

Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away several years ago, so I can't ask her. I can't think of how my being sick might have benefitted her. I wouldn't even tell her, if it was at night, since I knew she wouldn't do anything. I just toughed it out. I suspect she heard me getting up to vomit all night, but she didn't check on me. I don't even recall her bringing me any medicine or ginger ale to help my stomach during waking hours. As I get older, I realize more and more how strange my childhood was. When you are in the midst of it, you just assume that the weird stuff is normal.

I am thinking of the mini series you would probably be interested in, with I think Emma Stone (?) about an estranged young lady who goes to her hometown to investigate a murder…
Maybe someone will remember the name. It vaguely reminded me of your story…

GERD from stress and anxiety. I had migraines all through high school that magically went away when I left for college and return any time I spend more than 2-3 days with my mom.

Anonymous wrote:My mother passed away several years ago, so I can't ask her. I can't think of how my being sick might have benefitted her. I wouldn't even tell her, if it was at night, since I knew she wouldn't do anything. I just toughed it out. I suspect she heard me getting up to vomit all night, but she didn't check on me. I don't even recall her bringing me any medicine or ginger ale to help my stomach during waking hours. As I get older, I realize more and more how strange my childhood was. When you are in the midst of it, you just assume that the weird stuff is normal.

That's very strange OP. Wonder if she learned or developed non hygienic cooking habits and was also used to being sick on the regular?

I think cyclic vomiting syndrome is more likely. My kid has this (never formally diagnosed but the Dr and I and my mom who is also a Dr all think this is what it is) and used to have a bout of throwing up about once per month and always in the late afternoon/evening and extending into the night but has luckily mostly grown out of it we think. It doesn’t matter what foods they have, it could be anything and it’s not a virus bc others in the family never get it.

You’ll never know but you don’t sound insane to me. There are a lot of awful parents that purposely harm their children because they feel resentful of their children, or have some twisted idea that this will correct behavior, or are just sociopaths. Men tend to be more physical but women can often be more passive aggressive about it. Anyway, you’ll never know but it sounds like there are a lot of unresolved feelings about your mom and talking to a therapist might help you move past them. Whether it was chased by her intentional actions, her sloppy hygiene, or just the stress of your household (or even just a food allergy you outgrew), you should feel good about being a survivor.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry to say this, but you don't sound insane at all. I think this happens more than you might think. My mother never poisoned me, but she did plenty of awful things on purpose.

+1
I remember reading Jerry Stahl’s book, Permanent Midnight, where he talked about his mother putting glass in their dinner food. After that, heard about Munchausen By Proxy. I didn’t realize mothers did these things, but they do, and probably more often than know.

Do you remember other odd behaviors that put you in danger? Did she exhibit other symptoms of mental illness?

I'm sorry to say this, but you don't sound insane at all. I think this happens more than you might think. My mother never poisoned me, but she did plenty of awful things on purpose.

Stop eating your mom’s food and make your own.
Unless you have a history of psychological issues it’s logical thinking.

I don't think I am approaching paranoia. I know it sounds strange to even consider this possibility. It just seems strange that this was entirely confined to my years living at home as a child. I don't have a nervous stomach now or food allergies. And I have lived without problem in developing countries where the sanitary standards were not as strict and other Americans around me were getting sick but I wasn't. Perhaps it was a result of severe stress, but I often felt stress in college and grad school and didn't get sick. I guess a lack of good hygiene practices while cooking is the logical possibility, but I guess I will never know for sure.

My brother-in-law recounts being terribly stressed as a child in a country at war. He's the oldest, my husband is the second child and also has unpleasant memories. My BIL would vomit up his breakfast every morning before going to school. I think for him it's a combination of stress and a sensitive stomach. My husband was stressed but has a stomach of iron and has practically never thrown up in his life.

So perhaps this was due to stress, OP. But I'm not discounting other possible reasons, including a possible intolerance to a food served regularly but not frequently. There are also rare cases of parents harming their children. Just be careful not to devolve into paranoia...

My mother passed away several years ago, so I can't ask her. I can't think of how my being sick might have benefitted her. I wouldn't even tell her, if it was at night, since I knew she wouldn't do anything. I just toughed it out. I suspect she heard me getting up to vomit all night, but she didn't check on me. I don't even recall her bringing me any medicine or ginger ale to help my stomach during waking hours. As I get older, I realize more and more how strange my childhood was. When you are in the midst of it, you just assume that the weird stuff is normal.

Was there anything that benefited your mother in any way when you got sick? Your father sympathetic and/or grateful she was taking care of you? Was it her excuse not ti work because you got sick?

I would request your childhood medical records from your former pediatrician just to see if anything turns up.