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Anonymous wrote:After 6 weeks, your baby should start to sleep through the night. The only thing sleeping in the baby's room is going to do is wake the baby up. Get a sleep monitor and sleep peacefully in your room. It is common for the baby to wake up a bit at night and chat to his or herself - only rush in if the baby does not seem to be able to self soothe after 5 or 10 minutes.

***Time to you will seem to go very slowly. The baby will not feel abandoned if you let him or her try to self soothe for 10 minutes.

Make sure it is seriously dark in the baby's room - black out curtains are a must because babies are very tuned in to small changes in light and you don't want to be waking up at 5am every day this summer.

This advice will save you years of sleep problems. (Mom of 5 here - ask me how I know!)

OP here - FTM but everything I have ever read about safe sleep practices indicates that room sharing is important for the first 6 months...

That’s because doctors treat you like the wrapper the baby came in, rather than a human being. Do whatever gets you sleep.

Found the idiot.

Found the man.

Honey, my husband stayed up with the baby and did a lot of the nighttime care. You apparently had a baby with a bum which makes you a bum.

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Anonymous wrote:After 6 weeks, your baby should start to sleep through the night. The only thing sleeping in the baby's room is going to do is wake the baby up. Get a sleep monitor and sleep peacefully in your room. It is common for the baby to wake up a bit at night and chat to his or herself - only rush in if the baby does not seem to be able to self soothe after 5 or 10 minutes.

***Time to you will seem to go very slowly. The baby will not feel abandoned if you let him or her try to self soothe for 10 minutes.

Make sure it is seriously dark in the baby's room - black out curtains are a must because babies are very tuned in to small changes in light and you don't want to be waking up at 5am every day this summer.

This advice will save you years of sleep problems. (Mom of 5 here - ask me how I know!)

OP here - FTM but everything I have ever read about safe sleep practices indicates that room sharing is important for the first 6 months...

That’s because doctors treat you like the wrapper the baby came in, rather than a human being. Do whatever gets you sleep.

Found the idiot.

Found the man.

Nice sexist comment. I am a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:After 6 weeks, your baby should start to sleep through the night. The only thing sleeping in the baby's room is going to do is wake the baby up. Get a sleep monitor and sleep peacefully in your room. It is common for the baby to wake up a bit at night and chat to his or herself - only rush in if the baby does not seem to be able to self soothe after 5 or 10 minutes.

***Time to you will seem to go very slowly. The baby will not feel abandoned if you let him or her try to self soothe for 10 minutes.

Make sure it is seriously dark in the baby's room - black out curtains are a must because babies are very tuned in to small changes in light and you don't want to be waking up at 5am every day this summer.

This advice will save you years of sleep problems. (Mom of 5 here - ask me how I know!)

OP here - FTM but everything I have ever read about safe sleep practices indicates that room sharing is important for the first 6 months...

That’s because doctors treat you like the wrapper the baby came in, rather than a human being. Do whatever gets you sleep.

Found the idiot.

Found the man.

I think this is a great idea. We tried all of us sleeping in the same room with bassinets, and it was a total fail because no one slept. Then we put the babies back in their cribs and one of us slept in the recliner in their room in shifts. It worked much better and allowed for at least one parent at a time to get well rested. (We had twins, so a few more variables, but same general idea.)

I don't know how long we did this, but it definitely wasn't 6 months. Probably until the babies started sleeping longer stretches and/or we didn't need to wake them up to feed.

I appreciate the SIDS guidelines and was really diligent about them in the beginning, but also came to the realization that the goal of each of those directives is to preserve a state of not-deep or long-lasting sleep for everyone involved. At a point we needed to balance those rules with the reality that quality sleep was really important for daily life. We started to do that at a point where we were comfortable, which I'd expect will be different for everyone.

The research the sleeping in the same room recs actually found it only mattered for some people - people that drink or do drugs, are in loud chaotic households and won’t us monitors etc. But they can’t say “if you’re a heavy drinker you need to share a room” so they make blanket recommendations without a nuance. For a sober parent who has a monitor (especially a light sleeper parent!) room sharing won’t make a difference.

Either way - I’d shift sleep at the beginning when baby is up all the top and then switch to every other night once baby is only up 1 or 2x a night. A full nights sleep is heavenly

6 months same bedroom according to the aap and my pediatrician. I am not certain but could be that SIDS is highest during that period.

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Anonymous wrote:After 6 weeks, your baby should start to sleep through the night. The only thing sleeping in the baby's room is going to do is wake the baby up. Get a sleep monitor and sleep peacefully in your room. It is common for the baby to wake up a bit at night and chat to his or herself - only rush in if the baby does not seem to be able to self soothe after 5 or 10 minutes.

***Time to you will seem to go very slowly. The baby will not feel abandoned if you let him or her try to self soothe for 10 minutes.

Make sure it is seriously dark in the baby's room - black out curtains are a must because babies are very tuned in to small changes in light and you don't want to be waking up at 5am every day this summer.

This advice will save you years of sleep problems. (Mom of 5 here - ask me how I know!)

OP here - FTM but everything I have ever read about safe sleep practices indicates that room sharing is important for the first 6 months...

That’s because doctors treat you like the wrapper the baby came in, rather than a human being. Do whatever gets you sleep.

Found the idiot.

I did this. Well, we didn’t do shifts. I slept in the baby’s room in a twin bed. We had a night nurse at first and when she left, I slept in the baby’s room for the first 8-10 weeks until the baby was sleeping through the night. I liked the baby being used to their room from the start.

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Anonymous wrote:That recommendation is from the AAP - who also recommend still masking your 2 year old at preschool - but see here: https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/room-sharing-with-your-baby-may-help-prevent-sids-but-it-means-everyone-gets-less-sleep-201706062525
If your baby does not have any risk factors for SIDS - you don't smoke, your baby wasn't a preemie, you swaddle your baby and lay him/her down to sleep on it's back
., the odds of your baby getting SIDS are very small. You can always use a SIDS monitor.

Otherwise, I say your idea is great - although it does tend to have a very chilling effect on your marriage.

Yes masking your preschooler would prevent the daily posts about sick kids. And yes most babies don't sleep through the night at 6 weeks. Mine took 7 months.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Good one.

We did this in the first month and 10/10 would recommend. I wasn't tied to exclusively breastfeeding either, and it didn't make sense for both of us to get up every time the baby woke up. Our "shifts" were 10-3am, and 3-8am, so we each at least got 5-6 solid hours of sleep per night. Our postpartum experience was pretty chill, and I definitely think this arrangement was a factor for that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After 6 weeks, your baby should start to sleep through the night. The only thing sleeping in the baby's room is going to do is wake the baby up. Get a sleep monitor and sleep peacefully in your room. It is common for the baby to wake up a bit at night and chat to his or herself - only rush in if the baby does not seem to be able to self soothe after 5 or 10 minutes.

***Time to you will seem to go very slowly. The baby will not feel abandoned if you let him or her try to self soothe for 10 minutes.

Make sure it is seriously dark in the baby's room - black out curtains are a must because babies are very tuned in to small changes in light and you don't want to be waking up at 5am every day this summer.

This advice will save you years of sleep problems. (Mom of 5 here - ask me how I know!)

OP here - FTM but everything I have ever read about safe sleep practices indicates that room sharing is important for the first 6 months...

That’s because doctors treat you like the wrapper the baby came in, rather than a human being. Do whatever gets you sleep.